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Re: The First World Problem Thread

You feed it to the other person/chuck it in the napkin and then lie to the chef.

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Or if you dont have allergies and just dont like it, dont breath in and eat it anyway. And then lie to the chef
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You feed it to the other person/chuck it in the napkin and then lie to the chef.

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Or if you dont have allergies and just dont like it, dont breath in and eat it anyway. And then lie to the chef
The former is what I end up doing; OH has to eat whatever I cannot. And then we lie to the chef, FWP solved.

But it isn't really solved.

Intending to do a nice thing, the resturant has still created a situation that puts one of it's guests in an awkward position, something that goes against everything a fine restaurant should be about, setting the wrong tone for the evening. The nice gesture ends up backfiring.

The amuse bouche is usually served with quite a bit of fanfare, as it's something the chef has put his or her heart and soul into. The fanfare makes it more difficult to decline; perhaps a server could discretely ask one wants the amuse bouche rather than simply serving it.

I appreciate the intention behind the gesture, I usually admire the chef's skill - but the amuse bouche not always some thing everyone can enjoy. I just wish more chefs would understand that, and figure out a way to avoid a putting a guest in an awkward position... because when a nice gesture backfires you run the risk of losing a customer.

As said, totally an FWP.
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Old 19.08.2017, 10:45
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For once an FWP that, for me, actually is a real problem:

Amuse bouche.

So what's not to like about a freebie appetizer and glass of wine?

If there are things you cannot eat, either due to a medical condition or simply because you don't like X,Y, or Z, you choose your meal carefully, so that you can enjoy the evening.

Then along comes the 'Greetings from the kitchen'... which as it is designed to showcase the chef's skill and creativity often is based on 'novel' ingredients, and unfortunately often something I cannot eat.

The chef usually comes out and asks you how you liked the amuse bouche...

Refusing the freebie appetizer is churlish, not eating it impolite, you risk offending the chef...

I've come to dread what is intended to be a nice thing, so much so that I've stopped going to a few very good restaurants because of the akwardness it presents.

A very 'FW' FWP...

It's similar to being a vegan who is invited over to someone's place for dinner. The potato leek soup, which they made just for you, contains cream and little specks of ham, but 'just a little bit'.

Don't eat it, and suddenly you're an ingrate on a high horse who just created an uncomfortable situation and ambiance for your dinner hosts.

Or eat it, and now you're just a hypocrite

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Old 19.08.2017, 10:47
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I need a dual climate zone freezer to keep my gelato in.. but my wife disagrees
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Old 19.08.2017, 11:05
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The former is what I end up doing; OH has to eat whatever I cannot. And then we lie to the chef, FWP solved.

But it isn't really solved.

Intending to do a nice thing, the resturant has still created a situation that puts one of it's guests in an awkward position, something that goes against everything a fine restaurant should be about, setting the wrong tone for the evening. The nice gesture ends up backfiring.

The amuse bouche is usually served with quite a bit of fanfare, as it's something the chef has put his or her heart and soul into. The fanfare makes it more difficult to decline; perhaps a server could discretely ask one wants the amuse bouche rather than simply serving it.

I appreciate the intention behind the gesture, I usually admire the chef's skill - but the amuse bouche not always some thing everyone can enjoy. I just wish more chefs would understand that, and figure out a way to avoid a putting a guest in an awkward position... because when a nice gesture backfires you run the risk of losing a customer.

As said, totally an FWP.
I'm quite sure many chefs would - if the guests would actually talk to them and not play funny games like having the hubby eat it or spit it in a napkin and then lie to them?!?
They produce one type of amuse bouche a day and serve it to all guests. Are the waiters and the chefs supposed to "feel" that you chose your menue according to some fancy health or believe rules?

I have not limits for food. But I think you should start a new/separate thread about this as I can see the problem.
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Old 19.08.2017, 11:17
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I discovered that i didnt close the freezer door properly and now its full of ice. I guess that gives me something noiceless to do on Sunday!
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Old 19.08.2017, 11:28
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The amuse bouche is usually served with quite a bit of fanfare, as it's something the chef has put his or her heart and soul into. The fanfare makes it more difficult to decline; perhaps a server could discretely ask one wants the amuse bouche rather than simply serving it.
This is the answer. The server should discreetly ask whether or not an amuse bouche is wanted.

I'm not a fussy eater, but I come across a similar problem with desserts. I don't have a sweet tooth and what others regard as a treat just isn't one for me. It makes me quite angry if someone tries to force something I find sickly sweet in my direction.

I am prepared to let it be known, hopefully in a polite way.
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For once an FWP that, for me, actually is a real problem:

Amuse bouche.

So what's not to like about a freebie appetizer and glass of wine?

If there are things you cannot eat, either due to a medical condition or simply because you don't like X,Y, or Z, you choose your meal carefully, so that you can enjoy the evening.

Then along comes the 'Greetings from the kitchen'... which as it is designed to showcase the chef's skill and creativity often is based on 'novel' ingredients, and unfortunately often something I cannot eat.

The chef usually comes out and asks you how you liked the amuse bouche...

Refusing the freebie appetizer is churlish, not eating it impolite, you risk offending the chef...

I've come to dread what is intended to be a nice thing, so much so that I've stopped going to a few very good restaurants because of the akwardness it presents.

A very 'FW' FWP...
Gluten-intolerant diabetic teetotaller here.

I feel your pain!
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This is the answer. The server should discreetly ask whether or not an amuse bouche is wanted.

I'm not a fussy eater, but I come across a similar problem with desserts. I don't have a sweet tooth and what others regard as a treat just isn't one for me. It makes me quite angry if someone tries to force something I find sickly sweet in my direction.

I am prepared to let it be known, hopefully in a polite way.
This dessert idea is also quite foreign to me (we have soups usually before the main course, instead, or just heavy soup for dinner). Desserts are so emdedded where I live now, if you decline - everybody annoyingly thinks you count calories. It is unheard of, to actually decline something sweet. People come for dinners and always bring desserts, too. I love baking, though..just don't really eat it, we share with neighbors, choir, work, friends, whatevs. Desserts are a pretty big thing in the US, too. (Literally). I think my fav would be a bit of home made banana split. Or cobbler. Plum/nectarine crumble. So I guess, loving to bake and not being a dessert person is a bit of a waste. WFP.

I also set guidelines, kids can eat desserts 1st to not grow up thinking healthy main course is a tedious task rewarded by sugar.
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i would just tell the server that I'm sorry, but I can't eat xyz. Maybe add that it looks lovely, but I cannot eat xyz. Having grown up among a throng of people exhibiting disordered, selective eating habits and lots of drama, I've found the direct approach is the best. In a fancy restaurant especially, this should not be a problem.
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This is the answer. The server should discreetly ask whether or not an amuse bouche is wanted...
It's a difficult situation if the food offered is something you truly don't like or choose not to eat.

With respect to allergies, surely if a person has allergies, he or she should notify the server up front, not wait for them to ask later? To avoid cross-contamination in the kitchen that could wind you up in hospital?
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Why the Truck has the standard of celery (plant, not bulb) reduced so much in the Migro and the Coop?!

I was unaware that this was seasonal??



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Why the Truck has the standard of celery (plant, not bulb) reduced so much in the Migro and the Coop?!

I was unaware that this was seasonal??



Amen!

I just tossed a whole stalk (or bunch, to those so inclined) into the compost - bitter, bitter, dry, and bitter! And that was the one stalk that actually looked good among the entire bin.

This time of year should be prime celery time. What the Truck indeed.

My kingdom for some decent celery.
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Amen!

I just tossed a whole stalk (or bunch, to those so inclined) into the compost - bitter, bitter, dry, and bitter! And that was the one stalk that actually looked good among the entire bin.

This time of year should be prime celery time. What the Truck indeed.

My kingdom for some decent celery.
Celery is awful here. I've learned to substitute fennel when i need the crunch.
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My FB feed is full of junk advertisements for people shirts with dog themes, and dog shirts. I have never owned a dog in my life.
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Old 23.08.2017, 23:21
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I cant complain as well about the quality of celery because i hate celery
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Are you having trouble finding your veins now?
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My new plug-in mosquito lamp casts an eerie blue light across the bedroom
Actually a first world plus - I like the fact the pillow glows gently, no need to turn on the light to find the bed.
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