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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

Typical present on the first date can be very romantic.

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Old 16.09.2014, 21:29
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Camping has gone upmarket.
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Old 16.09.2014, 21:59
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Turns out he doesn't like long distance (yeah because I just love it!?) and he more than likely wouldn't do it because he has before and it doesn't work. We agreed to get to know each other before we decide of we're going to do this.. but it's not looking good. What a load of rubbish.......
I think you just got "Switzerlanded".
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I think you just got "Switzerlanded".
So even though he's happy to still see me in a month and see where we go... you think I should still ditch him now?
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Old 16.09.2014, 22:54
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

I know, I am an old biddy and a granny- but really, I don't get it. Do you really expect people on an internet Forum to truly gauge the situation you are in and give you advice on this and to follow it- instead of your own instinct, guts and heart.

I despair- sorry. Wish you good luck though.
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Old 16.09.2014, 23:22
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So even though he's happy to still see me in a month and see where we go... you think I should still ditch him now?
Pretty much what Odile said...follow your head and your heart. You would both need to visit each other on your respective home turfs to get a deeper insight and also to keep an eye out for alarm bells that might indicate he is not legit.

Until you really know he's genuine, keep the honey jar out of his reach.
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Old 17.09.2014, 00:49
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Until you really know he's genuine, keep the honey jar out of his reach.


OP is in her late twenties...grandaddy.

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So even though he's happy to still see me in a month and see where we go... you think I should still ditch him now?
I have the feeling that he dictates the dynamics of your relation. It seems like you have to pass an exam or something. No, it doesn't seem O.K. to me. Someone who would be happy just to see/meet me, wouldn't sound like this. My 2 cents, of course.

Or maybe romantic relations became so efficient, who knows. I never dated someone I met online, so what do I know.
Good luck, Turtledove. You seem like a nice girl, I hope you will find what you are looking for.

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Old 17.09.2014, 09:25
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Turns out he doesn't like long distance (yeah because I just love it!?) and he more than likely wouldn't do it because he has before and it doesn't work. We agreed to get to know each other before we decide of we're going to do this.. but it's not looking good. What a load of rubbish.......
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So even though he's happy to still see me in a month and see where we go... you think I should still ditch him now?
You're not going to move, he's not going to move, he's already sewing the seeds that it's doomed.

It seems an ideal situation for someone who has a significant other to have a little fun on the side.

Tinder links into Facebook profiles I think - can you see his Facebook profile? How many friends and how old is the profile?

Not that I don't trust people but I'd not trust certain people.
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Old 17.09.2014, 10:08
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You're not going to move, he's not going to move, he's already sewing the seeds that it's doomed.

It seems an ideal situation for someone who has a significant other to have a little fun on the side.

Tinder links into Facebook profiles I think - can you see his Facebook profile? How many friends and how old is the profile?

Not that I don't trust people but I'd not trust certain people.
A "significant other" that's not significant at all, apparently. I do hope it's not like that in OP's case, and in worst case scenario only some immature narcissistic guy. Man! To travel to UK and go to these lengths just to have a little fun on the side...sick.
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Old 17.09.2014, 10:41
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I know, I am an old biddy and a granny- but really, I don't get it. Do you really expect people on an internet Forum to truly gauge the situation you are in and give you advice on this and to follow it- instead of your own instinct, guts and heart.

I despair- sorry. Wish you good luck though.
i also dont get why this thread is 4 pages deep and still going strong...
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Old 17.09.2014, 11:06
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

I'd give him one chance tbh. Perhaps he got the wrong idea and thought it was too much too soon. Nothing wrong with taking things slowly. You've had one "date" and that was in the UK yes? And he wants you to come to Switzerland for your second date? That doesn't sound too bleak to me! I'd imagine that if he had gone cold then he would not be inviting you here?
My advice would be, come for your second date. Enjoy his company (or not, if he starts being douchey!) and then make decisions after that if it is going somewhere or not? Good luck!
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Old 17.09.2014, 12:04
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Turns out he doesn't like long distance (yeah because I just love it!?)
He decides this now?

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It can work. It's not easy, for sure, but it can work.
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Old 17.09.2014, 14:31
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The concept of "dating with several men until we decide to get exclusive" is foreign here. When you start dating (ie kissing and more) you're by definition exclusive.
I've dated in Switzerland... usually Swiss men. I did not find this to be the case. With my current boyfriend, we felt the need to announce to each other we weren't dating others and were exclusive.

One piece of advice that would have been helpful at the beginning... Never attribute bad behaviour to culture. It's possible he's just a jerk (down the line, of course).
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I'd give him one chance tbh. Perhaps he got the wrong idea and thought it was too much too soon. Nothing wrong with taking things slowly. You've had one "date" and that was in the UK yes? And he wants you to come to Switzerland for your second date? That doesn't sound too bleak to me! I'd imagine that if he had gone cold then he would not be inviting you here?
My advice would be, come for your second date. Enjoy his company (or not, if he starts being douchey!) and then make decisions after that if it is going somewhere or not? Good luck!
Eaxctly my thoughts Pixie! I'm glad we are on the same page thank you.

Indeed our first date was in the UK and he wants me to come to Switz for our second date. I think he has just got a little scared it was too much too soon - we've been on one date and we started talking about our future essentially! Can't blame him.

I'm just going to see how it goes and go from there. Thanks for all your posts.
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

FWIW, I met my wife whilst living in Atlanta, GA and she lived in Montreal, Canada. Not exactly next door. We managed to make it work, but it take a ton of dedication and planning. We flew back and forth to be with each other, me one month and her the next. We dated for 6 months before I finally relocated her to my city and we've been going strong for almost 15 years.

It can work, but both people have to be in it 100%.
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Hi, i'm a Swiss looking for a english speaking girlfriend who is living in Switzerland for a seriously relationship. i have some relatives which are British and Swiss (they were 50Years ago). .., I'm 49 years old!
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Hi, i'm a Swiss looking for a english speaking girlfriend who is living in Switzerland for a seriously relationship. i have some relatives which are British and Swiss (they were 50Years ago). .., I'm 49 years old!
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Good luck with that one!
come on, the OP's in Stanstead, that's near a major international airport!! It can work.

and any lucky woman can go on cultural visits to Harlow with him or her.
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come on, the OP's in Stanstead, that's near a major international airport!! It can work.

and any lucky woman can go on cultural visits to Harlow with him or her.
Sir, you may need to brush up on your geography. The OP is in Stanstad.
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

Erm... "The OP" (@Turtledove23) is still in England...

Now that this thread has been resurrected today by the dude who is in Stansstad, I hope she comes back to let us know how things are going with her Swiss bf/their long distance relationship.

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