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Dating Swiss Men?

I'm a British girl in her late 20's and I wanted some advice on Swiss Men! I have just started dating a lovely Swiss man but I have never dated someone foreign before.

We obviously live in different country's and have different cultures but I wanted to firstly know.. is there anything I should know about dating a Swiss man and what are your experiences?
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I'm a British girl in her late 20's and I wanted some advice on Swiss Men! I have just started dating a lovely Swiss man but I have never dated someone foreign before.

We obviously live in different country's and have different cultures but I wanted to firstly know.. is there anything I should know about dating a Swiss man and what are your experiences?
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Any serious answers? lol
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

How is he any different than any other man? My husband is Swiss but he's a man first. I think you're thinking too much about it, just be yourself & if it works, it works.
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

Yes, you are quite right but I was wondering if I needed a heads up about anything

He seems very kind, thoughtful, respectful, quick to reply to messages.. basically the complete opposite to English guys. I love these qualities but I also need someone not too conservative.. sillyness is key!
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.. is there anything I should know about dating a Swiss man and what are your experiences?
They are renowned for their insatiable appetite for sex so do wear your chastity belt on the first date...
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

The concept of "dating with several men until we decide to get exclusive" is foreign here. When you start dating (ie kissing and more) you're by definition exclusive.
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

There is humour here, which you will find when your language skills are up to speed.
However frivolity is usually frowned upon, as is most of the British clubbing mentality.

Read this book to understand the Swiss. It is written by a British travel writer who lives in Bern,

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Swiss-Watchi...y+diccon+bewes

And read this one too asap,

http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_sb_noss/276-8504730-4795656?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=living+and+working+Switzerland

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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

have you met him yet?
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The concept of "dating with several men until we decide to get exclusive" is foreign here. When you start dating (ie kissing and more) you're by definition exclusive.
My dating experience (perhaps limited ) in the 3 cultures of the US, England and Switzerland is that the Swiss dating model follows much more closely the English model. I have only "dated" one Swiss woman though (still am!).

Could never really quite get my head around the multiple dating situation in America being from England.

Stereotypical Swiss men aren't necessarily know for their silliness (in the fun sense) but its not beyond the realms of possibility that the OP finds someone who fits her criteria I reckon.
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The concept of "dating with several men until we decide to get exclusive" is foreign here. When you start dating (ie kissing and more) you're by definition exclusive.
This is really interesting, thank you! I have wondered what the case may be on this, however... I know he is still active on his Tinder account. We've only had 1 date but have been talking for 3 months
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

So who travelled to whom for the one and only date so far?

Your location states "England" and I'm assuming he's in Switzerland?

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He seems very kind, thoughtful, respectful, quick to reply to messages.. basically the complete opposite to English guys. I love these qualities but I also need someone not too conservative.. sillyness is key!
Yes, they start off like this………. then they become just like English men over time
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He seems very kind, thoughtful, respectful, quick to reply to messages.. basically the complete opposite to English guys. . .
Ah yes. But at least if an English guy gets fed up with you, he would not trade you for a few goats at the market place.
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

My husband is Swiss (I'm American), and while I know all men differ regardless of their culture/nationality, I can say that my Swiss husband is probably one of the least "silly" men I have ever known... in the sense that he rarely makes me laugh or "gets" a joke. It didn't bother me too much in the beginning, because (to be honest), I think I was kind of idealizing him as the "sexy foreign man" at the time and I was also swooned by other things like his intellect, etc. But now, after 5 years of marriage, I do think it's come to bother me a bit. The differences in our personalities didn't seem to emerge as a "problem" until we were living together and married and it was no longer just a long-distance relationship. I think the realities of a relationship don't really set in until you're living together or at least with each other for quite some time.

My best advice to you is... take your time and don't rush into anything. But if you do think you're serious about this guy, do try to spend as much time with him (in person) as possible before doing anything drastic like moving here, etc. I had made the mistake(?) of moving here simply because I was desperate to end the torment of the long-distance thing. And now, in hindsight, I realize that I should have gotten to know him -- and the dynamics of our relationship -- better first.

Whatever happens, I do hope things work out the best for you!
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

My husband has made a Swiss friend through work, I've been to his house and had many lunches with him at the park. He is very jolly and jokes all the time, him and my husband have banter together and there is often plenty of sillyness, so if that's your key don't worry about not finding it because he's Swiss

You'll find out if he is one for you soon enough! Pancakes gave good advice, get to know him before jumping in and moving here (assuming he does live here? Or does he live in the UK?)
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There are funny and jolly people in every country. Many Swiss I know have a very good sense of humour. Perhaps they find it strange to hear a 'foreigner' making jokes in German, but they like it imo.

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Of course there are funny people in every country, but if there would be a way to measure and rank countries by the overall funniness of their people, Switzerland would rank at the bottom. Even young people here are often very conformist.
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Re: Dating Swiss Men?

spot on, pancake! same happened to me with a swiss girl, though i wanted to move to Zurich anyways as i liked the place. but i would have never done it before i had traveled here and thoroughly checked out the place, especially if i could imagine living in Zurich/CH in case the relationship goes bust. which it did in the end, because even between germans and swiss are big differences in mentality which i never thought of to be mattering in any way.
yeah, the good old tinder/online dating two-tier-strategy... hope it works out for you, turtle.
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My husband is Swiss (I'm American), and while I know all men differ regardless of their culture/nationality, I can say that my Swiss husband is probably one of the least "silly" men I have ever known... in the sense that he rarely makes me laugh or "gets" a joke.
Doesn't seem to be a matter of nationality but of the individual psychological constitution. In our case, it's exactly the other way round: My OH is American, I'm Swiss. I know thousands of jokes in many languages. She can have and also make fun, sometimes even very much so, for instance puns, jests, quips etc., but she is absolutely hopeless when it comes to cracking jokes. While listening to a joke, she analyses the exact meaning down to a level where it isn't funny any more, and, while trying to tell a joke herself (fortunately, she knows only three anyway), she sure like heck ruins the punch line.

And it's not only me who thinks so. Her entire American circle agrees with me.
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