I spent the year 2010 in London. From what I have seen and experienced, it shouldn't be a problem to find a potential boyfriend/husband there, even when you are over 30. Same for Switzerland. I met the love of my life in Switzerland - an East Asian by the way (born and raised in Tibet). You'll be fine wherever you go, don't worry

Austin is a highly educated part of America. They sell more books per capita than any other city. Have you been? BBQ and the underground music scene is tops.

Regarding the property market, you should see the context of these developing countries. One of the main reasons that government in these countries don't allow foreigners to own land is to prevent foreigners (mainly coming from developed countries) to buy out all their lands. This is also very important for developing countries that still rely on their natural resources as their main economic source. Still, as you see in these countries, particularly in Southeast Asia, foreign corporations control a lot lands because they are allow to lease. You can imagine in my home country, most of the oil palm plantations are controlled by foreign companies. And another reason is associated to the history of colonialism. See, you can't say that colonialism argument is expired. That means abandoning the history of country and a society.
Now I mention about colonialism, and you mentioned that you believe in reciprocity, should we then suggest these countries invade the countries that colonised them in the past?

Yes, BBQ is top class indeed. We visited a farm in a small town near Austin where you can order a burger, wait 3 hours while literally the cow is being slaughtered, go sightseeing, then come 3 hours later and enjoy a super fresh $35 burger ))

I think we've worked out the other reasons...

You've really got lighten up and get out more. I'm also interested in the past, but Im far more concerned about today, the future and life first hand. Life is about interaction with people and the environment. You need to climb to the top of a mountain on a rainy day, jump into to ocean and taste the salt, go out and dance with total strangers. Learn to love and laugh at yourself and with others. Work out what makes you happy and strive for that, nothing else, like work or money, is important

Life isn't so serious, but it so finite. Venture outside your comfort zone and you might just get positively excited.

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* I do look like my avatar

That should be done everywhere, not only in Asia. Unfortunately, within E.U. there are no barriers and you can imagine how disadvantaged the less developed countries are.
So who can blame those governments for this, really.

Spot on. Sunny Beach, Bulgaria is basically owned by the British But the EU is supposed to , at least legally ,be one big country, so ...why not

Erm, yeah. When I hear UK politicians and some of the simpler folks I feel like I'm part of that big, happy and tolerant family.. (not to mention an informed one)
But I agree with you... It will be like that in time. People can't get readily used with this idea though.

Are you applying to be one of the candidates?

*Matchmaking mode

Definitely not! A good sense of humour is a major prerequisite for me, and it's something the OP doesn't have.

If OP decides to move to Zürich and then to attend some of the legendary EF events I'm sure there will be some candidates...I've heard there are even EF babies, I wouldn't be sure though, it could be just rumours...

like this one?

Tell us you're a woman!

Alright, fine, why don't you just spill it all in one good cathartic post instead of dozens of measly trepid posts?

So you read a lot. Of whatever it is, who knows. What are you really all freaked out about? Is the end nigh?

You too Der_Spieler. I promise I will listen and consider seriously.

Is there something wrong with the soylent green?

Yes kids are learning to swim the wrong way
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=kshb9a6mZS8
Regards

You do realize you don`t actually have to write Regards every time , don`t you ))))

Well, if it is of any consolation to OP, at least someone got married in China. With a Chinese man!!!

http://sarajaaksola.com/category/get...ried-in-china/

I always have regards for my fellow EF-er. And somebody might be reading any particular post for the first time.

Regards

Ecopop? Oh no, wrong thread..

So you are saying you are single at the age of 34 because of reading books... I thought being smart and educated having hobbies can only help. Nobody is single because of reading books.. sounds like excuse but not very good one. What are your other excuses? Maybe you need to shine some light on the problems that stop you form (successful) dating? Sometimes therapy helps. Perhaps you can talk to someone who is professionally prepared to deal with such problems? Talking to family and friends might seem like a good idea but it is not always so. Friends don't want to give you wrong advice or they don't have such experience and mothers take it too personally so think of relationship coach.

Do you like men? If you don't they will feel it. If you are frustrated, desperate and can't access your feminity (too independent, too career-focused or too much in your masculine) they will all run for the hills.

Forget about the list of qualities you are looking for. "Dating scene"? I would avoid it. What is dating scene anyway? I hate this expression to be honest. Sounds like meat market. It is nice to meet people and being sociable helps but are you aiming for decent man to spend your life with or some notorious bachelor? You can meet interesting people everywhere so focus on other channels. You should be looking for someone emotionally stable, someone who can keep a job and will love you, someone you won't be bored with. It is a lot but there are plenty of fish in the water and the theory about two halves of one apple is outdated. There are many people on this planet you can be happy with but you will have to make some effort and maybe break the cycle and habits that no longer serve? If you approach each fella with your list and mangyfing glass chances are small and they are getting even smaller with each year passing. Usually the older we get the less flexible we are with our routine and habits. It also becomes difficut to adjust to other person's life style.

I'll give you unasked advice: we often see these big white men with Thai girls and we secretly laugh at in our opinion pathetic or fake relationships but we can also learn smg from them. Sometimes things are much simpler than you think. Sometimes it is just enough to be pretty, smile= be positive person, show him attention, be a good friend etc. etc.

You need to think of how to make man feel like a man. Today when women are so career-focused this energy exchange can be imbalanced so think of the relationship more in terms of Jin and Yang exchange. If you feel complete already and always lead with masculine energy, chances somebody will be attracted to it are not great. I am not suggesting you have to be first disconnected or unfulfilled. This is not the point but please read about relationship polarity. I know it is difficult because with love there is no handbook or training program so you will have to do a bit more work on your own. Once you understand it things can change.

Being 34 shouldn't stop you from being happy in private life.
Don't listen to men who say 31 is already too old for many, wishful thinking and everyone is allowed to fantasize. Not so long ago I've met two women who just got pregnant with their first. They are both 40 so you have time but you need to develop some new skills.

Access your feminity and enjoy it. Don't always show you are smarter than him. I know how it sounds but you are smart and successful, you are brave to travel, live in foreign countries and have career there but this WILL NOT help you to find a man. He is not looking for someone to compete with. He probably has that 5 days a week (so don't bring work home). You want to CONNECT not compete. He wants to be a hunter and bread winner. Let him and enjoy it, relax as you don't have to prove anything.

Your job and education is your strong asset but you need to focus on what you can contribute as a woman to the relationship. The question is do you want it? Will you be really happy to compromise on your career (I don't think it is necessary, maybe on the attitude to your career, your job does not define who you are) and do you really need a man by your side?


Sorry about my English. It is probably full of typos and other mistakes but I'm trying to tell you what I know.