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Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

Long story short...
He and I have been friends for over a year now. It took a long time for him to open up to me and when he opened up to me, we became very close. When he opened up, I began to fall in love with him. I've been in love with him for about 3 months now. He says he likes my friendship and values it, and likes me but doesn't love me. I live in Moscow and he told me that we should meet other people because long distance wouldn't make him happy. Then a few weeks later he tells me that he's in love with someone else that's long distance from him. Yet, he wants me to visit him in January. He expresses his strong attraction to me and flirts with me alot. If he loves her, why does he want me to spend 2 weeks with him (at his house) in Switzerland? Why does he desire me and talks to me in this way?

What should I do? I love him but he confuses me.
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

Walk away.
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

Or just enjoy and who knows what could happen.

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What should I do? I love him but he confuses me.
Not sure what you should do but I know what you shouldn't do. You shouldn't be naive. He doesn't love you
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Why does he desire me and talks to me in this way?
Because he can.
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He is using you.
You deserve better.
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If he loves her, why does he want me to spend 2 weeks with him (at his house) in Switzerland? Why does he desire me and talks to me in this way?

What should I do? I love him but he confuses me.
Because he's a ...never mind.

Anyways, interesting stories on EF.
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Keep walkin' and don't look back.
Not worth your heart now, not worth your heartbreak later.
yikes.. don't walk.. run !
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He is using you.
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You deserve better.
Who knows.
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

I have a Swiss guy you can have. Seriously. I'm done with him.
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

don't think too much, go for it,
because hey, that's two weeks in beautiful swiss!
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don't think too much, go for it,
because hey, that's two weeks in beautiful swiss!
So he's beautiful?


To OP, I'm guessing he's doing this to a bunch of other girls as well. My suggestion, keep yourself open to other guys as well
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This is a no-brainer, forget him and move on!
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Do you love him because you can't have him?
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

The question is? Do you want something serious with this guy? Or you look for an adventure of 15days in Switzerland? If you think he's trying to use you, be clever than him and turn in your favor the situation
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

Given the numerous spicy stories I think the next thread I'll be reading here will be Why are the Swiss men so cheap?
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He wants to get in your pants...
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Are you people seriously falling for this???
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Sunday morning coffee and newspaper
Back to work *sigh*
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

He told you how he feels, nobody but you is able to decide what you make of it:

Either accept what he's able/willing to give, and enjoy two weeks in Switzerland, which may even change his heart (very small chance, but you never know), and suffer a (probably) big heartache afterwards. Or refuse is the offer and suffer a (hopefully) small heartache.

From what you write, there'll be heartache either way

But no matter what happens, I think people on here should give the guy credit for his openness and honesty - OP knows what she's getting herself into if she accepts the offer.
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