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Dining alone

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I recently moved to Zurich and since I barely know anyone here I will have to go out and dine alone quite often for the foreseeable future.

My question is whether this is common in Zurich or do people think it is weird? I come from London and I did not feel like I was stared at when I was dining alone over there, but this is not the case everywhere.

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Re: Dining alone

Zurich is full of people on business trips, tourists, and those who can simply afford to eat out all the time, so I don't think anyone would find it odd for someone to be dining alone.
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Old 30.10.2015, 16:58
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Maybe hook up with some of the Zurich social events to meet people. At least then you'll have someone to meet for lunch/dinner occasionally. eating alone is not uncommon in many cities, especially with such a fluid and cosmopolitan population as Zurich.
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Great! Good to know
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Re: Dining alone

What if people had responded the other way. What would you do?
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What if people had responded the other way. What would you do?
I would have to go out eating alone anyway, but at least I know the reason if people are staring
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but at least I know the reason if people are staring
Ahh no, that would just be Zürich.
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Re: Dining alone

I would love to dine alone sometimes ..
Usually it's trying to keep 2 kids on the chair and eat as quick as possible!
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Re: Dining alone

Just a note: People will stare at you in Zurich anyway. It's not you, it's not the fact that you are dining alone or anything else - they just stare... don't worry about or try to understand it.
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Just a note: People will stare at you in Zurich anyway. It's not you, it's not the fact that you are dining alone or anything else - they just stare... don't worry about or try to understand it.
Haha thanks I will keep it in mind!
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Ahh no, that would just be Zürich.
Nope I was working in St.Gallen 18 yrs ago and often ate alone ( I was only there for a month working so did not speak a word of Germany then ) I stuck my head in a book to ignore the stares
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Nope I was working in St.Gallen 18 yrs ago and often ate alone ( I was only there for a month working so did not speak a word of Germany then ) I stuck my head in a book to ignore the stares
Agreed. Taking a book is a good idea - if you get stuck for something to do between courses.

It shows you're relaxed and enjoying yourself.

Tapping away frantically at a smart phone suggests your date didn't show up.
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Wine works for me!

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Agreed. Taking a book is a good idea - if you get stuck for something to do between courses.

It shows you're relaxed and enjoying yourself.

Tapping away frantically at a smart phone suggests your date didn't show up.
Lol lol too funny I didn't have a smart phone 18 yrs ago thank god. Ok this will probably go off topic sorry, but it pees me off nowadays everyone's on there phones even when we have family dinners no one hardly talks it's tap tap tap drives me mad. What bloody happened to talking at the dinner table, or ringing a friend to talk I miss that. Everyone I know is texting I am beginning to hate it my husband as even stopped ringing me he texts me WTF Bring back the good old days where people talked to each other
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Hi all,

I recently moved to Zurich and since I barely know anyone here I will have to go out and dine alone quite often for the foreseeable future.

My question is whether this is common in Zurich or do people think it is weird? I come from London and I did not feel like I was stared at when I was dining alone over there, but this is not the case everywhere.

Happy to hear your thoughts.
My husband travels Monday through Friday and has done for 29 years now, so I'm somewhat of an expert on dining alone. First, ask if you can eat at the bar. It's more relaxed and you can chat with the bartender and maybe other people sitting by themselves.

If you have to sit at an actual table, bring a book or a Kindle. Make sure to put it aside whenever the server comes so you don't look desperate/rude. Don't bury yourself in your book/Kindle however. Look around, enjoy your food and get comfortable with the whole experience. I quite like eating by myself as I get to notice things that I normally wouldn't if I was carrying on a conversation with another person.

I'm in Lausanne, so I can't speak to Zurich, but I've never felt uncomfortable eating by myself. If someone else has a problem with it, that's really not MY problem, is it?
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My husband travels Monday through Friday and has done for 29 years now, so I'm somewhat of an expert on dining alone. First, ask if you can eat at the bar. It's more relaxed and you can chat with the bartender and maybe other people sitting by themselves.

If you have to sit at an actual table, bring a book or a Kindle. Make sure to put it aside whenever the server comes so you don't look desperate/rude. Don't bury yourself in your book/Kindle however. Look around, enjoy your food and get comfortable with the whole experience. I quite like eating by myself as I get to notice things that I normally wouldn't if I was carrying on a conversation with another person.

I'm in Lausanne, so I can't speak to Zurich, but I've never felt uncomfortable eating by myself. If someone else has a problem with it, that's really not MY problem, is it?
If it's busy and I'm feeling adventurous, I sometimes do the Euro thing and ask to a share a table. It's usually another road warrior and sometimes I meet some really interesting folk.
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Re: Dining alone

It's normal to be stared in Zurich, and none is thinking about why are you eating alone.
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I've never encounterd this staring phenomenon. I must be too boring to look at.

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I would have to go out eating alone anyway, but at least I know the reason if people are staring
You cannot do anything re. stares. They just do it, like it or not, and dont care if they embarrass people. Even abroad, a true Swiss would stare in a restaurant. Last time in Germany my husband and I were seated at a table close to a Swiss family that stared at us for the whole dinner.
And no, I didnt have anything between my teeth, nor did I have food on my face. We are quite quiet, dont speak loudly, and dress like everyone else. It wasnt us for sure. The funny part was that we couldnt get rid of the stares even abroad..too close to CH I guess.
If you go to Austria for a holiday and find a hotel or a resort packed with Swiss it happens the same thing. It is what it is.
Take a book with you and pretend you are absorbed by reading.
You next thread will be about Swiss people skipping queues (in CH and abroad), I am sure...
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