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Scared as hell about meeting new Swiss Mom-in-law

My daughter (currently in studies at the Uni Zurich) has been dating a great Swiss guy since over a year.

Until now as a single working Mom (coming from the U.K. originally) without many other family contacts, I always did my pragmatic best in providing a great Christmas evening, but to be honest it was always such a pressure to juggle everything with a full time job.

Now, have this evening been invited to spend the 24th Dec. with her boyfriends parents (who I've never met), my little one and her boyfriend. One parent is a very well "established" placed person in the Swiss society (especially given the current political climate), the other a part-time spouse (education).

Me, I'm just a working single Mom (IT) who's done the best over the past years to support her child.

Now to my question: I have been invited to spend Christmas evening with them in their home (have never met them), and have no clue what I should bring.

Any good advice?

Many thanks
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Old 19.11.2015, 20:53
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Re: Scared as hell about meeting new Swiss Mom-in-law

My daughter's future FIL is/was one of the head doctors at the EOC Lugano.

I didn't bring anything.

Kind of weird speaking to a Swiss-German in Italian, when we'd all been better off speaking French (except for my daughter).

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Just ask your daughter- surely she knows them and knows what they like- or she can ask her BF what he thinks?!? Perhaps offer to make a pudding- and make a trifle, or something else you are good at. Plus a good bottle of wine or some good quality chocolates and a plant?
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My daughter (currently in studies at the Uni Zurich) has been dating a great Swiss guy since over a year.

Until now as a single working Mom (coming from the U.K. originally) without many other family contacts, I always did my pragmatic best in providing a great Christmas evening, but to be honest it was always such a pressure to juggle everything with a full time job.

Now, have this evening been invited to spend the 24th Dec. with her boyfriends parents (who I've never met), my little one and her boyfriend. One parent is a very well "established" placed person in the Swiss society (especially given the current political climate), the other a part-time spouse (education).

Me, I'm just a working single Mom (IT) who's done the best over the past years to support her child.

Now to my question: I have been invited to spend Christmas evening with them in their home (have never met them), and have no clue what I should bring.

Any good advice?

Many thanks
About "no clue what I should bring. "

Alka-Seltzer ?
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(especially given the current political climate)
SVP politician? A bottle of Appenzeller Alpenbitter?
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Kind of weird speaking to a Swiss-German in Italian, when we'd all been better off speaking French (except for my daughter).

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OMG, hadn't forgotten about the language aspect of it. Thanks
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SVP politician? A bottle of Appenzeller Alpenbitter?
if it is a SVP politician, make sure you will not speak a single word german all evening long
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Just ask your daughter- surely she knows them and knows what they like- or she can ask her BF what he thinks?!? Perhaps offer to make a pudding- and make a trifle, or something else you are good at. Plus a good bottle of wine or some good quality chocolates and a plant?
Thanks, but to be honest it's not a solution in my current situation - am currently working around the clock on a new project (IT banking can be at the moment), so baking out of the question.

You're right though, will ask my daughter - but anticipate she will have no clue...
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lol, a trifle is not baked, is it (buy a cake for the cake base is easy enough). And takes very little time to put together- but ok.
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About "no clue what I should bring. "

Alka-Seltzer ?
Well, that's just a pre-requisite to the visit, but any ideas for the prospective Mom-in-law?
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Well, that's just a pre-requisite to the visit, but any ideas for the prospective Mom-in-law?
What about the Father? He doesn't matter?

Flowers for MIL and wine for FIL?
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Re: Scared as hell about meeting new Swiss Mom-in-law

If it makes you feel any better, remember that they're probably just as worried as you are.
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SVP politician? A bottle of Appenzeller Alpenbitter?
Actually, having googled it that could be a very good suggestion. Will just need to ask my daughter which party the Dad belongs to ...
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What about the Father? He doesn't matter?

Flowers for MIL and wine for FIL?
Better a motorcycle.

Just saying.

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Actually, having googled it that could be a very good suggestion. Will just need to ask my daughter which party the Dad belongs to ...
Just to be clear - the FID is a significant "Amtlich" - not Morgeli or so on...
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Re: Scared as hell about meeting new Swiss Mom-in-law

My english sons both have high flying in-laws (doctors, lawyers and accountants), it's no big deal.

Take something traditionally English, and therefore in their eyes exotic; such as mince pies (shop bought will do), Port and Stilton, English wine. That one still gets talked about as they simply couldn't get over the fact that it really existed and wasn't just an urban legend.
Ps; what on earth is a 'part-time'spouse???

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My english sons both have high flying in-laws (doctors, lawyers and accountants), it's no big deal.

Take something traditionally English, and therefore in their eyes exotic; such as mince pies (shop bought will do), Port and Stilton, English wine. That one still gets talked about as they simply couldn't get over the fact that it really existed and wasn't just an urban legend.
Ps; what on earth is a 'part-time'spouse???
That sounds really good (can't stand the stuff myself).

Well spotted - part-time spouse in this case is meant as a woman who spends two-thirds her time washing and cleaning and the rest working. Not good wording in retrospect.
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Re: Scared as hell about meeting new Swiss Mom-in-law

Surely in Zurich you have very fine delis/cheese shops that sell top quality Beer cheddar, Stilton, Red Leicester...


In its cheese section, Manor stocks Whisky Cheddar, Beer Cheddar and Herbs Cheddar. Nice proper fudges or tablets go down well too (Co-op sell fudge in their "English" section. A pack of nice Xmas crackers would be hugely exotic and "wildly eccentric" to a Swiss family, at least it will keep them talking!


Add a pack of nice Scottish salmon, a waving Queen (sold in any gadget shop) and a nice bottle of wine, done.
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Re: Scared as hell about meeting new Swiss Mom-in-law

Your going to hate me. Just be your glorious self. What ever these peoples jobs, they are only human. The fact that a pair of Swiss dudes have invited you for Christmas eve speaks for it's self. They want you there.

Untwist your knickers. Source a few bottles of good wine, maybe bring a few mince pies but quit the schitt. Hold your head up high and go and enjoy an evening out with your daughter. Forget everything you've heard about the Swiss and go and be successful you!

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It does sound super stressful to meet the future in-laws on Christmas eve, but it is also kind of neat that you have been invited into the home of complete strangers to share the "most important family holiday of the year" with them. Well done on their part.

I reckon Christmas crackers would go down a treat. They would be sooooo much more interesting and memorable than e.g. flowers and chocolates. Your daughter and future SIL could be in charge of explaining how to use them in case your Christmas cracker German isn't up to snuff, and, well, you get to make everyone laugh during the whole cracking process, see the future MIL wearing a ridiculous tissue-paper crown, and have wind-up toys whiz across the table while you listen to them attempt to read aloud nonsensical jokes written in grammatically incorrect English. The way I see it, the whole evening is going to be "Swiss", this would be representing the Brits and introducing a bit of your own culture. It's also easy.

Normally you can buy them at Globus for a small fortune, but five minutes of googling would probably give you lots of reasonably-priced mail order options with the ability to choose what's inside. (Although I'm not sure if there are restrictions about sending them by post overseas?)

Anyway. My 2p.

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