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advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

I live in Lachen, SZ - a small village by the Zurich lake. It is generally very quiete lovely town.
Two days ago, on Monday evening I went for a walk and on the way back around 6pm when I was entering my building a young boy (13-14 year old) approached and asked me (in German) if I can play a game with him. I said "I don't understand German". He switched to a basic English and asked if I can play a game with him again, described the game with his hands. ( it was stone, paper, scissicor game) And he said if he wins he will kiss me. I said no. That moment I was also looking for my key to enter into the building but I couldn't find it. So far all was under control, but when I said no, he took a step forward me and asked "why". He had a strange look in his face but it was around 18.30,not dark and I am infront of my house. I didn t get too scared, but felt very uncomfortable. I just told him that I was sick. He said "ok" and walked away.


But yesterday on the same street I saw him again, he was coming across, I look to his eyes to show that I remember him and I am not scared. But 50m after I turned back and he started to follow me again. I didnt get what he was trying to do, I looked back a few times but he didn't give up to follow.


I called my husband, luckily he was at the building door just that moment, he started to walk to me. I stopped in the middle of street and wait the boy. Once he came closer, he saw my husband coming towards he started to look his mobile. My husband shout him and tell him off to not follow, talk, he was about to punch him but I stopped. The boy was scared said "ok, ok" and run away. The case is closed for me, he was young slimsy boy but what if he does this to younger girls or smaller kids? What if he continues this behaviour when he grows up and became stronger too?
Is this just a stupid boy or shall I report this to police? I also took a photo of him when he was running away.
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Old 15.03.2017, 14:10
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

Kick him in the balls the next time.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

It sounds a bit overkill but maybe mention it to the police or, better, if you know where he lives or goes to school report it there.

If nothing else, he seems to need some kind of protection because if he tries it on with other people, or kids, it won't be long before someone thumps him, and he is only a kid, as you say.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

I would tell cops, and add a plea for discretion. It seems like this kid needs some serious help.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

I guess threatening and almost beating up a kid is pretty serious, but to avoid trouble at home, I would let it slide and not report your husband to the police.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

Just shout at him to go away if he comes near you again. He hasn't touched you. He hasn't threatened you. It sounds like he was lonely & thought it would be a joke. I don't see any reason to report him to the police or threaten to beat him up just for talking to you. Some nationalities do have rather loose boundaries, shall we say, in what is acceptable when approaching women but he might think you want to talk to him. Just make it clear in an assertive manner that you do not want his company.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

The original post has already degenerated to " nationalities" . Next you will be saying he was probably Muslim
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Just shout at him to go away if he comes near you again. He hasn't touched you. He hasn't threatened you. It sounds like he was lonely & thought it would be a joke. I don't see any reason to report him to the police or threaten to beat him up just for talking to you. Some nationalities do have rather loose boundaries, shall we say, in what is acceptable when approaching women but he might think you want to talk to him. Just make it clear in an assertive manner that you do not want his company.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

I was just about to report the OP for trolling.

But then remembered that there are very many kids on the streets who are genuinely seeking, and needing help. I know this.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

WTFF

He's just a kid. Kids experiment, it's their very nature.

He accepted the "no" without any fuss so what justifies calling the police? What problem is there?

Instead of getting rude or threatening (some man your husband, what a hero!) you should talk to him and explain. Once you did, and onyl then, may you have gotten enough of an impression to decide that there is indeed some kind of issue, behavioral, psychological or otherwise.

*You* are the grownups. Act accordingly!
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

It certainly strikes me as more than a bit odd. I would say write yourself a note including details about date, time and location, and make a copy of the photo on some medium external to your phone. If he does something similar again, then I would report it, using the note and the photo.
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

And the kid probably thought that the reason you did not kiss him was that you felt sick?
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It certainly strikes me as more than a bit odd. I would say write yourself a note including details about date, time and location, and make a copy of the photo on some medium external to your phone. If he does something similar again, then I would report it, using the note and the photo.
that's an idea, what do you mean "medium external to your phone"? Is there anything that you can use later on and has a value legally?
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I live in Lachen, SZ - a small village by the Zurich lake. It is generally very quiete lovely town.
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The case is closed for me, he was young slimsy boy but what if he does this to younger girls or smaller kids? What if he continues this behaviour when he grows up and became stronger too?
Is this just a stupid boy or shall I report this to police? I also took a photo of him when he was running away.
Perhaps he just tries his charm with MILFs?
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WTFF

He's just a kid. Kids experiment, it's their very nature.

He accepted the "no" without any fuss so what justifies calling the police? What problem is there?

Instead of getting rude or threatening (some man your husband, what a hero!) you should talk to him and explain. Once you did, and onyl then, may you have gotten enough of an impression to decide that there is indeed some kind of issue, behavoral, psychological or otherwise.

*You* are the grownups. Act accordingly!
I agree to a certain extent - well remember (and still have nightmares) over stealing flowers from neighbouring gardens (and successfully reselling them to other neighbours about 40 years ago in the U.K.).

Also a number of very other stuff, which is reported on-line nowadays. Went to the local police station after a few years at the time, but it was closed.

The childs action may, or may not well have to do with serious abuse.
Would you encourage your child to enact in this way?
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Re: advise needed: shall I report the case to police or not

What if, what if, what if? . Your husband wanted to beat up this 13 old child. What if......?
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I live in Lachen, SZ - a small village by the Zurich lake. It is generally very quiete lovely town.
Two days ago, on Monday evening I went for a walk and on the way back around 6pm when I was entering my building a young boy (13-14 year old) approached and asked me (in German) if I can play a game with him. I said "I don't understand German". He switched to a basic English and asked if I can play a game with him again, described the game with his hands. ( it was stone, paper, scissicor game) And he said if he wins he will kiss me. I said no. That moment I was also looking for my key to enter into the building but I couldn't find it. So far all was under control, but when I said no, he took a step forward me and asked "why". He had a strange look in his face but it was around 18.30,not dark and I am infront of my house. I didn t get too scared, but felt very uncomfortable. I just told him that I was sick. He said "ok" and walked away.


But yesterday on the same street I saw him again, he was coming across, I look to his eyes to show that I remember him and I am not scared. But 50m after I turned back and he started to follow me again. I didnt get what he was trying to do, I looked back a few times but he didn't give up to follow.


I called my husband, luckily he was at the building door just that moment, he started to walk to me. I stopped in the middle of street and wait the boy. Once he came closer, he saw my husband coming towards he started to look his mobile. My husband shout him and tell him off to not follow, talk, he was about to punch him but I stopped. The boy was scared said "ok, ok" and run away. The case is closed for me, he was young slimsy boy but what if he does this to younger girls or smaller kids? What if he continues this behaviour when he grows up and became stronger too?
Is this just a stupid boy or shall I report this to police? I also took a photo of him when he was running away.
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that's an idea, what do you mean "medium external to your phone"? Is there anything that you can use later on and has a value legally?
Mail it to yourself and save the photo to your PC, the cloud, a memory stick, a NAS... The point is that if you decide to wipe your phone, or something else goes wrong you don't lose the pic.

As to the legality of the photo as evidence in a court case, unless the OP asked his permission to take a pic beforehand, then it won't be admissible anyway. (Particularly if she said "Sure, I'll snog you, Ok if I take a photo first?"). But for the plod who do their work before the case goes to court, having a photo really would make their job a lot easier. If and when it gets to court, the OP's testimony would probably be more valid than a photo anyway.
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Wow it's getting heavy now!!!
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Mail it to yourself and save the photo to your PC, the cloud, a memory stick, a NAS... The point is that if you decide to wipe your phone, or something else goes wrong you don't lose the pic.

As to the legality of the photo as evidence in a court case, unless the OP asked his permission to take a pic beforehand, then it won't be admissible anyway. (Particularly if she said "Sure, I'll snog you, Ok if I take a photo first?"). But for the plod who do their work before the case goes to court, having a photo really would make their job a lot easier. If and when it gets to court, the OP's testimony would probably be more valid than a photo anyway.
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As to the legality of the photo as evidence in a court case, unless the OP asked his permission to take a pic beforehand, then it won't be admissible anyway. .
It is up to the judge if it is admissible or not. No law which would make it forbidden evidence.
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So La La-next time first ask the kid if you can take his picture.
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It is up to the judge if it is admissible or not. No law which would make it forbidden evidence.
Sure. My point with the photo is that it is of great value to the Plod, regardless of validity before the court. Lachen isn't all that big. If the OP makes a complaint about some "kid, slight, blonde, roughly 13" then that won't help them much more than that they know they can ignore any Yeti that they know of. But if she shows them a pic, they might well raise an eyebrow and say (or think) "Ah... him."
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