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Old 08.05.2017, 12:09
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I met a swiss guy online and we have been talking online very happily for more than ten days. He is a doctor. He shared his idea and stories of his ex-girlfriend but never initiate to see me.

On the fifth day, I suggested to meet him in person, he proposed to meet on that night. I said I had a meeting till 8pm, it would be ok we met at 9pm. He said it was too late for him and he had to get up early the next day, nothing else.

Then I went to the meeting and my phone just ran out of battery. When I came back home, he waited in front of my house and asked why I didn't answered his message. I explained to him my phone had no charge and we had a very good conversation that night. Then he left and sent me a message immediately saying that he liked me and proposed to meet on Thursday (the next day). I told him I would be on a business trip the next day and was not sure when would be back. I would let him know.

On Thursday, I sent him a message saying that I would be back in the afternoon, we chatted for a while, and he said he would be out of the town the next day and had to pack his stuff, assuming that I needed some rest from my trip and proposed to come here to say hi to me. Then he came, we had a short talk and he went away for a 2-day trip and only texted me twice with short messages.

When he came back, he explained to me that he was super busy till next Tuesday, as he had some very important work to do and said after Tuesday, he wouldn't be busy. He then proposed to watch a movie with me on Thursday at my place and said he lived with his friends and didn't want so many people to be around. Through our texting, he always said he liked me, wanted to be with me and I was the right girl for him.

I don't know about dating culture in Europe since I am Asian. But by ex-swiss bf tried to ask me out for a picnic the third day we knew each other. Since we never have a formal real date, I doubt: Is he really interested in me or he is just a bit bored?
I he's real he's cheap, just wants a shag for less than the price of a meal.
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Old 08.05.2017, 12:16
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You are awesome, problem solved. I will either cancel the movie or propose to meet in another place. If no, I will move on.
Hang on a minute. This guy has tracked you down to your home address and you're giving him another chance? That would set all my alarm bells going and I'd be telling him to get back to Langstrasse.

Before meeting him again, if you really must, I'd want his linkedin, facebook and twitter profile at the very least. Currently, you're very vulnerable and have nothing from him to even the balance. Please don't tell him when you will be leaving your apartment or arriving home, and please don't let him into your apartment until you have solid proof that he is who he says he is.
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Old 08.05.2017, 12:17
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You are awesome, problem solved. I will either cancel the movie or propose to meet in another place. If no, I will move on.
I do not know if it still exists. But a few years back we had this places in the city, full of chairs all facing in the same direction, in front was a white cloth, then the room became dark and the screen was illuminated with with light in different colors. It was magic, the light on the white cloth looked like a movie and there was also sound. At those places they also sold popcorn, beer, ice cream and such. As far as I can remember they called this places cinemas, also "the movie."

Those where the days.
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Old 08.05.2017, 12:19
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He asked me whether my parents could accept foreigners and whether I wanted a relationship or not. He insisted on that he wanted a relationship not a friendship. Crazy guy, are doctor weird?


Now you are clearly trolling. 'Cause no Swiss would give a chip what the parents thinks.
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Old 08.05.2017, 12:55
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Hang on a minute. This guy has tracked you down to your home address and you're giving him another chance? That would set all my alarm bells going and I'd be telling him to get back to Langstrasse.
Just read the first two paragraphs in the first post - chatting online usually implies no closer contact, definitely not actually meeting. Nonetheless she says they met on day five or six and thereafter.

The real question is how much relevant stuff she left out and which that is.
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Hang on a minute. This guy has tracked you down to your home address and you're giving him another chance?
He probably saw it as a challenge - the OP gave him enough clues.
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Old 08.05.2017, 12:58
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Now you are clearly trolling. 'Cause no Swiss would give a chip what the parents thinks.
True that.


Many moons ago, pre-online dating, back in the days when I was young and beautiful , I met some guy at a festival. Well "met" is too much to say - he was part of a group of people I hung out with one afternoon, I probably spoke three sentences with him. The guy knew my first name and the neighborhood I lived in, which at the time was in a comparably large city in CH, same as he lived in. Fast-forward to a few weeks later, I came home to find a hand-written letter in my mailbox. Turns out, the guy had looked up every person with the same first name in the phone book in my neighborhood - there were about 35 - and wrote a letter to all of them, trying to find me.

Well. Some would say this is romantic. I would say that is slightly creepy

Same here, if some internet guy shows up at my place without having met me before (actually even after a date or two), then I'd probably run for the hills. Granted, something's off with this dude anyway, but something slightly off with OP as well, or at best she's just very naive. If she's not a troll that is.
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True that.


Many moons ago, pre-online dating, back in the days when I was young and beautiful , I met some guy at a festival. Well "met" is too much to say - he was part of a group of people I hung out with one afternoon, I probably spoke three sentences with him. The guy knew my first name and the neighborhood I lived in, which at the time was in a comparably large city in CH, same as he lived in. Fast-forward to a few weeks later, I came home to find a hand-written letter in my mailbox. Turns out, the guy had looked up every person with the same first name in the phone book in my neighborhood - there were about 35 - and wrote a letter to all of them, trying to find me.

Well. Some would say this is romantic. I would say that is slightly creepy

Same here, if some internet guy shows up at my place without having met me before (actually even after a date or two), then I'd probably run for the hills. Granted, something's off with this dude anyway, but something slightly off with OP as well. Provided she's not a troll that is.

Men are hard to understand sometimes, especially some Swiss guys...
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Men are hard to understand sometimes, especially some Swiss guys...

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
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Old 08.05.2017, 13:42
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Nah, gender has nothing to do with it and men and women, as a respective group, are not as fundamentally different as pop psych would like us to believe. People are different, surely, but men are not from another planet than women.
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Old 08.05.2017, 13:43
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I do not know if it still exists.
There's still one running in Zürich, direct on the Limmat close to the Hauptbahnhof

Convienient to trains and a pretty location.

I think they even have private viewing booths for extra together-ness
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Why not?

It's a great way to meet people.

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Agreed. Online dating works, I know. However, buyer beware etc. You have to be safe, first and foremost.

People make contact online for all sorts of reasons.
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Old 08.05.2017, 14:20
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Turns out, the guy had looked up every person with the same first name in the phone book in my neighborhood - there were about 35 - and wrote a letter to all of them, trying to find me.

Well. Some would say this is romantic. I would say that is slightly creepy
That's romantic. I once had an ex-boyfriend (of 18mths) turn up at my mum's house to ask if I'd split up with my new boyfriend (of 6mths) yet because he missed me.

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Same here, if some internet guy shows up at my place without having met me before (actually even after a date or two), then I'd probably run for the hills.
Turning up at a single man or woman's home without having been specifically given the address and invited to call round is at best, not normal behaviour, and at worst, it's stalking.

I once dated a guy who called my manager to book time off work for me so that he could take me on holiday. My manager though it was so romantic until I told her we'd only had one date. I went on a second date just to dump him face to face and be sure he knew what he'd done wrong.
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Old 08.05.2017, 14:23
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Amazing that in 2017, someone would say that only awkward or ugly people use online dating services.

On an internet forum.
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Lives with his friends 2...you would imagine his social life must be pretty good. Is he ugly, or awkward...or both? If neither then why is he online dating?

Um.... a tad harsh, methinks.

It is possible to be a fully functionning socially integrated human being with a good job, great social life etc and still use online dating. Dspending on your lifestyle it can be remarkably difficult to meet people IRL.
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Old 08.05.2017, 14:43
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Turning up at a single man or woman's home without having been specifically given the address and invited to call round is at best, not normal behaviour, and at worst, it's stalking.
Errrrmmmm that's exactly what I did to my future wife
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Old 08.05.2017, 14:54
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Hang on a minute. This guy has tracked you down to your home address and you're giving him another chance? That would set all my alarm bells going and I'd be telling him to get back to Langstrasse.
Maybe she likes being "chased"!

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I once dated a guy who called my manager to book time off work for me so that he could take me on holiday. My manager though it was so romantic until I told her we'd only had one date. I went on a second date just to dump him face to face and be sure he knew what he'd done wrong.
Spoil sport!
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Errrrmmmm that's exactly what I did to my future wife
What does your existing wife think about that?
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Old 08.05.2017, 15:14
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What does your existing wife think about that?
the future one doesn't know yet either, these high powered binoculars are ace
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Men are hard to understand sometimes, especially some ...
So, in the end what did you decide, OP? He has some controlling tendencies, would that suffice to put you en garde?
No one is asking to have a "relationship" after the first date.
I want news.
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