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I'm a woman - Yes 39 33.33%
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Old 14.07.2017, 20:36
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Can a man and a woman be just friends?

This is a vexing question that I have yet to find a satisfactory answer to. Can a woman and a man be "just friends"? I have been in all sorts of situations where I thought "yes"... then "No"... Does the sexual chemistry always get in the way? Or is it OK to be friends with a member of the opposite sex, knowing there is an attraction, but just not acting on it? Mutual chemistry makes for very interesting conversation.
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Old 14.07.2017, 20:41
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

Why would you want to be just friends if there is mutual attraction and chemistry?
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Old 14.07.2017, 20:46
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

Because anticipation is often better than reality. Oh, and I'm married.
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Old 14.07.2017, 20:50
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Because anticipation is often better than reality. Oh, and I'm married.
Lots of guys have trouble being friends with their wife.

Seriously though. If you're happily married, and you're not hiding anything from either woman, why would it be a problem?

If you're not happily married, then do something about that before you start making extra terrestrial contact.
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Old 14.07.2017, 20:52
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

Yes they can. I have very good guy friends that are only friends
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Old 14.07.2017, 21:12
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

You ever heard of "the friend zone"? Largely populated by young males who have a desperate crush on their female 'friend', who in turn is either blissfully unaware of or shamelessly exploiting the fact.

It doesn't have to be that way, of course, but many/most guys in platonic friendships with women would always at least vaguely consider the possibility of it spilling over into something more, even if they absolutely definitely would not do anything on that front. It's hardwired into the brain
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

Yes.
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Old 14.07.2017, 21:38
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

In order to answer this question, we'd need to throw in to the equation

"Can a woman and a woman just be friends"
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Old 14.07.2017, 21:40
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In order to answer this question, we'd need to throw in to the equation

"Can a woman and a woman just be friends"
Yes. HTH.
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Old 14.07.2017, 21:56
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Or is it OK to be friends with a member of the opposite sex, knowing there is an attraction, but just not acting on it?
Yes. I think it's called restraint.
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Old 14.07.2017, 21:58
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

OP, have you just recently watched When Harry Met Sally, or something? You're a grown up, surely you have friends of both genders ?
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Old 14.07.2017, 22:03
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OP, have you just recently watched When Harry Met Sally, or something? You're a grown up, surely you have friends of both genders ?
Both genders?

Are we back in the binary dino times?

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Old 14.07.2017, 22:09
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Yes. I think it's called restraint.
And both parties need to practice it. Very difficult to make it work if one party is pining for the other without end.

I've a number of male friends and am still friends with several of my ex-boyfriends. It largely depends on the individuals involved, and their commitment to make the friendship work.

Sometimes the "but can't we at least be friends" is a way to hang on to hope for more at some point in the future.
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Both genders?

Are we back in the binary dino times?

FFS. I made an 80s movie reference so possibly.
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Old 14.07.2017, 22:19
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

I'm thinking more along the lines of "yes, I'm attracted to you, and obviously you are attracted to me, but we both know we can't act on that due to our personal situations, so let's just have lunch and enjoy each other's company" kinda thing.

Is it OK to just enjoy the company of an attractive person, but just leave it as that? Nothing more required?
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I'm thinking more along the lines of "yes, I'm attracted to you, and obviously you are attracted to me, but we both know we can't act on that due to our personal situations, so let's just have lunch and enjoy each other's company" kinda thing.

Is it OK to just enjoy the company of an attractive person, but just leave it as that? Nothing more required?
If you fancy her, steer clear.
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Is it OK to just enjoy the company of an attractive person, but just leave it as that? Nothing more required?
pictures please.
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Re: Can a man and a woman be just friends?

Where did it get you last time you tried? My advice from back then still stands.

https://www.englishforum.ch/1405084-post26.html
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I'm thinking more along the lines of "yes, I'm attracted to you, and obviously you are attracted to me, but we both know we can't act on that due to our personal situations, so let's just have lunch and enjoy each other's company" kinda thing.

Is it OK to just enjoy the company of an attractive person, but just leave it as that? Nothing more required?
Er... it may be the real ale talking but are you, dear OP, actually seeking some sort of collective "go for it, son" response?
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I'm thinking more along the lines of "yes, I'm attracted to you, and obviously you are attracted to me, but we both know we can't act on that due to our personal situations, so let's just have lunch and enjoy each other's company" kinda thing.

Is it OK to just enjoy the company of an attractive person, but just leave it as that? Nothing more required?
No, other than to take into account the natural consequences of a quick screw.

If you're already thinking along these lines, then you already need to take this thinking into your calculation.
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