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I want 6 real friends!

I've read all the discussions about the difficulty about making friends here in Switzerland, but I've been giving it 8 years. Result: I know plenty of lovely Swiss people (and other nationalities) with whom I get on well, but we've never crossed over the threshold of what I call true friendship.


So here are my criteria and see if you fit the profile:


Nationality is irrelevant --> Interested in other cultures, including Swiss, and languages --> Must live in Geneva, ideally left bank and centre because friends whom you can never see because it's a 1 hour drive to meet just for a drink won't last --> leaning slightly to the left but with my "old age" I have been known to tolerate "Righties" as long as they don't go on about Brexit or they're truly out! --> Love of British culture (Scottish a big bonus!) --> is not emotionally retarded and can discuss the deep things in life while enjoying a good laugh around a pint or a bottle of wine --> if you read "Private Eye" AND "Tribune de Genčve", I like you already! --> Eclectic musical taste, but must not be adverse to Yodel as a musical genre in its own right, same with bagpipes --> does not undermine women for effect (so lads and blokie blokes, keep out) --> You are educated but don't shove your knowledge into people's face --> you like hiking, nature but super sporty guys and lasses you would be bored in my company --> you are a good listener and can keep your eyes off your bloody smartphone for more than 10 minutes --> You like world cinema and reading --> You don't think farting and burping in public is funny! --> You don't think this little group of friends will be an excuse to practise your English or your French on the cheap.


I think I've just stated why I have no friends!


More seriously, if anyone in the Geneva region thinks: "Yeah, it would be nice to meet with a like minded bunch of around 5-6 people", then why not give it a go?
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Old 14.06.2018, 22:24
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

Interesting list! Given that nobody's perfect, how many of the criteria does a person have to meet, before applying?
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Old 14.06.2018, 22:43
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Lead bagpipes!

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Old 14.06.2018, 22:50
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Lead bagpipes!

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Yeah! You're in for the music criteria!
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Old 14.06.2018, 22:57
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Yeah! You're in for the music criteria!
The guitar ('61 LP) I have, alas no bagpipes!

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Old 14.06.2018, 22:58
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

I don't want to upset you, but here's my two Rappen: If you're looking at every person as a list of boxes that need to be ticked, you may well miss out on some amazing people that would add joy to your life. Not all people fit in boxes nicely. I sure don't.
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Old 14.06.2018, 23:00
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

Also, could you please make your list more like a list?

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Re: I want 6 real friends!

people who fit that list, are a right cunch of bunts, i am the exact opposite on nearly all counts, especially that bit about education, puts me in a right mucking fuddle
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Old 14.06.2018, 23:16
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I don't want to upset you, but here's my two Rappen: If you're looking at every person as a list of boxes that need to be ticked, you may well miss out on some amazing people that would add joy to your life. Not all people fit in boxes nicely. I sure don't.

You're right, of course but one has to start somewhere.
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

The farting part rules me out.. I think it's extremely funny to fart in a crowded place.

Will you be holding interviews?
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Old 15.06.2018, 07:40
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The farting part rules me out.. I think it's extremely funny to fart in a crowded place.

Will you be holding interviews?


Absolutely! Bring your own copy of Private Eye.
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Old 15.06.2018, 09:36
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

Um, good luck McTavge. With a list like that, you are bound to find lots of new great friends very quickly!
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

I don't live in Geneva, I'm already out
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

I feel your pain!

12 years here and not a friend (as I know it) in sight, a lot of colleges but as you say it is not the same. In the absence of mates we started a facebook group, Aussies in Zurich, a bunch of us get together once a month for drinks. It keeps me sane here being able to blow off a bit of steam with others who are able to understand you, sometimes talking shite or having an in depth discussion that goes off on tangents. It started slow but now we have 450 members, not all are that active but enough to get together for beers regularly.
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I think I've just stated why I have no friends!
Indeed. I make that twenty separate criteria, and even if each has a 50/50 chance of being met by a given individual, the probability of one person meeting them all is 1 in a million. So you should expect to work through six million applications to find your six friends.
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

Kind of makes sense why it's so hard to make friends with such rules.
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

As a Swiss I would say, 6 real friends is quite a lot. I grew up in Switzerland and have not that many real friends...

Just stay open for new friendships I guess.
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cv sent by PM.
let me know when the interviews start.
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Absolutely! Bring your own copy of Private Eye.
I definitely have much less quality control.

You like to drink beer (other intoxicating stuff is ok too).
You are not politically correct all the time.
You don't encourage me to like stuff you are passionate about (You can be a planet saving lbgt vegan equal rights campaigner who loves helping refugess and saving orphaned monkeys if you want, i just don't care about it)
You don't smell of pee

Bonus points to good looking fit females who can teach me to paddle board cos i just spent lots on a new board. Double bonus to drink beer while doing that.
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Re: I want 6 real friends!

Where do the Australian drinks take place if I may ask?
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