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I provoked her by replying I was taught that is how it worked?

What should i have replied with? I'm curious now. I didn't say it with any snark or rudeness, it is just honestly the way I've always seen it done.
Look, let's face it.
You brought the nationality card into play.
You could be Swiss for all I know.

What reaction did you expect?
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:06
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Look, let's face it.
You brought the nationality card into play.

What reaction did you expect?
so I explained I hadn't thought I did something wrong as it was the way I was taught, what should I have said instead then?
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Look, let's face it.
You brought the nationality card into play.
You could be Swiss for all I know.

What reaction did you expect?
I replied to her in English but yes I could have been swiss still, so I don't know, I did say I was taught that you allow the people waiting to go first, could have also been I was taught this in another canton
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so I explained I hadn't thought I did something wrong as it was the way I was taught, what should I have said instead then?
Just "OK", with a smile.
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Re: Go back to your own country, anyone else hear this?

My stock response is always "I'm here because your country doesn't produce the skills necessary to do the job that I do." Usually has the desired impact!
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so I explained I hadn't thought I did something wrong as it was the way I was taught, what should I have said instead then?
Dunno, reminds me of the time I was on business in a top hotel in Amsterdam yonks ago. I was in a sauna and solarium, and there were people of the opposite sex wandering in and out. I made a complaint to the reception of the hotel spa (wrapped in my bath towel), saying / screaming you may do this here, but I am British
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:14
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Re: Go back to your own country, anyone else hear this?

Even if it's well meant, I would never preface a response with "Well, in my Country it's like this..."

It just does not come across nicely when you hear that.

Although I think it every time I'm on a blocked escalator, which is practically every escalator here!
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:16
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I am honestly quite grateful for being able to function well in a different place, it's been a mindset that I've had since teenhood when I moved countries, though..It has been rough at the beginning, but nothing to do with CH. I have never heared "go back". But then I tend to grin 24/7. I sing to people, tell them stories, cook for them, play music and help them create things...But then, we live in a such a cosmopolitan area, despite my friends being local, they have lived abroad, and there are so many foreigners here, it is very open.
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:17
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Re: Go back to your own country, anyone else hear this?

People that have grown up in a queueing country find others, who didnít, are being incredibly rude.

They should understand that people are not being rude when they donít act like them. They are doing what is considered normal in their environment. Pointing out that they are barbarians because they donít follow other peoples rules is just being arrogant. You should be slapped down by the locals.

I am a dual-national and I certainly donít expect people in one culture to act like people in the other (and vv). You are a guest, act like one.
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:18
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Rule of thumb when driving and queuing: always allow the nutter to go first.. that way, they have the freedom to cause their upset and mayhem somewhere else.
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:20
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I am honestly quite frateful for being able to function well in a different place, it's been a mindset that I've gad since teenhood when I moved countries, though..It has been rough at the beginning, but nothing to do with CH. I have never heared "go back". But then I tend to grin 24/7. I sing to people, tell them stories, cook for them, play music and help them create things...But then, we live in a such a cosmopolitan area, despite my friends being local, tgey have lived abroad, and there are so many foriners here, it is very open.
Ditto ZŁrich, we recognise that we don't have the same country of origin, but who t.f. cares
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:25
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Back end of the country here, mostly Swiss who haven't lived abroad. No problems, ever.

People are naturally decent, and, obviously, being English or American works a charm.
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:32
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Just "OK", with a smile.
Agree 100% with this. Don't even get into a conversation/confrontation with that kind of person. It's not worth your time or energy
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:34
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People that have grown up in a queueing country find others, who didnít, are being incredibly rude.

They should understand that people are not being rude when they donít act like them. They are doing what is considered normal in their environment. Pointing out that they are barbarians because they donít follow other peoples rules is just being arrogant. You should be slapped down by the locals.

I am a dual-national and I certainly donít expect people in one culture to act like people in the other (and vv). You are a guest, act like one.
I was not the one to start any discussion, she was very mad when I didn't see I had done anything wrong, to say I "should be slapped down by the locals" well this is horrifying to be quite honest

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Rule of thumb when driving and queuing: always allow the nutter to go first.. that way, they have the freedom to cause their upset and mayhem somewhere else.
Yeah I did that for the one, the one who came up from behind I hadn't expected.
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:38
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Agree 100% with this. Don't even get into a conversation/confrontation with that kind of person. It's not worth your time or energy
Or theirs, as he provoked it
Otherwise agree with you, life is actually so much more laid back here if you let it...
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:43
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People are naturally decent, and, obviously, being English or American works a charm.
This.

I eat every day on the same Migros restaurant. I take my books to read during lunch. They saw the titles - all in English. People were friendly, wanted to know about my books, make small talk.

One day they asked where I'm from.

"Oh..."

Small talk ended that day.
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Old 21.02.2019, 20:45
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I was not the one to start any discussion
I realize you don't see it, but the hard truth is that if one is in a foreign land, the WORST way to reply or start a conversation with someone is with the phrase "where I come from".

The phrase implies your way is better than the way of where you are, and that's bound to get some people upset.

You were trying to give context for your behavior. The woman doesn't care about the context as she'd already decided you were wrong. There was nothing you could have said to change her mind.
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so I explained I hadn't thought I did something wrong as it was the way I was taught, what should I have said instead then?
First, "what-evs".

Then roll your eyes.

then throw a peace out


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Old 21.02.2019, 20:49
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Don't think I've ever encountered a Swiss person serving behind the desk at Coop
At the local Coop speaking local (and not generic) Ticinese, they for sure are.

Also, at a Coop in Zollikerberg and they (with a heavy Swiss accent) could respond to my wife's Italian (Germans CANNOT do that).

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I said well where I come from the people waiting already go to the new queue.

Well you are in MY country and you should back to YOUR country she shouts. Of course no one says anything.

Just happens all the time, when I ask questions, don't speak french, is it just me? Does it happen to others? Does it bother you?
What is the problem? The woman behaves exactly the same like you. It doesn't bother me as the "where I come from..." remarks are rather pedantic.
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