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So, you tried with two girls and it didn't work out. As my mother said to my sister many, many years ago: "You have to kiss a lot of toads."

To judge all women on the basis of your experience with two individuals is a mistake.
Agreed, it's a numbers game (literally ).
But there is no more experience coming my way at the moment ...
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he's cute but I wouldn't swipe right because who wants a guy who is just bragging and trying to shag anything?



He is not bragging, he is being sarcastic.


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Old 20.06.2019, 09:53
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Old 20.06.2019, 10:07
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Agreed, it's a numbers game (literally ).
But there is no more experience coming my way at the moment ...
You don't have to actually experience stuff yourself in order to learn something useful. You can learn from others and it gets especially convenient when you can avoid mistakes others made. Get interesting friends...female friends.
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You don't have to actually experience stuff yourself in order to learn something useful. You can learn from others and it gets especially convenient when you can avoid mistakes others made. Get interesting friends...female friends.
You make an interesting point. From my understanding you learn most through personal (painful) experiences. I don't think that by just listening to others you can really "learn". Of course you can absorb and acquire their "knowledge", but then if you don't put into practice, you don't really "learn". Maybe a bit philosophical question but I hope you see what I mean. I've always been much more of a theoretical guy (both at university and by reading books and so on) and, although I agree to some extent with what you say, I have a really hard time to make the transition to practical aspect / real life.

And for your second advice (I'd like to!): WHERE ? And HOW ? I mean I can go to some Meetup about topics I like (last night I went to one - only girls) but I don't feel motivated to go to an event "just to meet girls". It has to be an event / activity that already motivates me in the first place
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Thank you for all mostly interesting replies. I don't get notifications every time somebody replies, which is why I didn't know the thread grew so big .

I have hobbies but the problem is that they don't really involve socializing too much. I like mainly programming, engineering, dogs and psychology. Went yesterday to a psychology meetup in Basel there were only girls . Nothing happened though

I used to do martial arts
Please tell me you are not collecting knifes in your parents basement.

BTT:
First of all you should correct your image about women in general, and your attitude. Because this:
"Probably everybody here agrees & accept all the bullshit talk from girls as it's their "way of speaking"

will get you an ottomanic slap and a lot of disappointment, but won't get you laid or a relationship.

(and stay away from eastern europe with this attitude, except if you are keen to meet the girls brother's/cousins and their friends... who carry knifes)
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Venturing dangerously into /r/TheRedPill-territory now.


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You make an interesting point. From my understanding you learn most through personal (painful) experiences. I don't think that by just listening to others you can really "learn". Of course you can absorb and acquire their "knowledge", but then if you don't put into practice, you don't really "learn". Maybe a bit philosophical question but I hope you see what I mean. I've always been much more of a theoretical guy (both at university and by reading books and so on) and, although I agree to some extent with what you say, I have a really hard time to make the transition to practical aspect / real life.

And for your second advice (I'd like to!): WHERE ? And HOW ? I mean I can go to some Meetup about topics I like (last night I went to one - only girls) but I don't feel motivated to go to an event "just to meet girls". It has to be an event / activity that already motivates me in the first place
Most people I know met their significant others in college, at work, parties. If you are a kind guy, don't brag about your possessions, your diplomas, your car, etc etc, show interest in the other person, it's just impossible not to find anyone.
Is Switzerland so different?

Btw: talking about me me me me all the time is a big NO.
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Btw: talking about me me me me all the time is a big NO.
Well, since I am not in a relationship at the moment, who else do you think I should be talking about ? I can talk about my dog if you are interested
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he's cute but I wouldn't swipe right because who wants a guy who is just bragging and trying to shag anything?
obviously you're over 30 and can't follow instructions
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"OK for anyone that thinks it is a **serious** hormonal disturbance right now here's the thing. If you know what a (ultra) low-carb / ketogenic diet is (did that) I can assure you that there it gets really much worse. I could yank myself 20-25 times per day there. Right now it's only 3-5 times per day so still relatively low."

Is this even possible? I can't decide whether you are a Troll or a horse.

Mostly I fear you truly need professional help. As Annie Dillard wrote, "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." (in her book, The Writer's Life). Are you on a road of interminable dissatisfaction? Get the days right and your life will be satisfactory, even joyful. As a start, think about how you approach relationships by considering this excerpt from a poem, "The More Loving One", by W. H. Auden:

How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.

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He is not bragging, he is being sarcastic.


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Oh? you don't know that whole new trend is swipe-sex-block?
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obviously you're over 30 and can't follow instructions
I am whatever age I put in the box darling
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Re: Meeting Girls / Hooking Up / Finding a GF in Switzerland

The issue is still there, not just for the OP but I heard from many friends (ahem) about the same problem.
Dating in Switzerland, especially in the German speaking part, is up there at about lvl99 wizard magic.
As most of EF users are married old farts you probably forgot or don't know how it is :P but unless you look like Mr. Schweiz, top banker with a ferrari and a yacht on the Zurisee (or Zugersee also does it), the probability of finding a lady interested in you for longer than an hour, while you pay for her outing at the baur au lac, will actually be negative.


To the OP, I'd say you're in a global market, play to your strengths.
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Re: Meeting Girls / Hooking Up / Finding a GF in Switzerland

I think it took some courage to expose self so much as a first post. So compliments!

I agree with some previous posts, seeking psychological help would probably be the first step.There is no need to feel shame to chat with psychologists. We all have psychological problems, slight or severe, including psychologists themselves.
The second step I would suggest is to start some sports involving and combination of self-awareness and body movements, such as Yoga.

It helped so many people go through their difficult periods of time. Maybe after practicing regularly, the ultra strong sex-drive issue will get eased.

And of course, after those steps, getting to know some girls and find someone you love would be ultimately great.



GO for it and all the best!
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Old 20.06.2019, 16:46
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The issue is still there, not just for the OP but I heard from many friends (ahem) about the same problem.
Dating in Switzerland, especially in the German speaking part, is up there at about lvl99 wizard magic.
As most of EF users are married old farts you probably forgot or don't know how it is :P but unless you look like Mr. Schweiz, top banker with a ferrari and a yacht on the Zurisee (or Zugersee also does it), the probability of finding a lady interested in you for longer than an hour, while you pay for her outing at the baur au lac, will actually be negative.


To the OP, I'd say you're in a global market, play to your strengths.
If that's the case, how come most people, even average ones, are in a relationship sometimes, somehow?
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Re: Meeting Girls / Hooking Up / Finding a GF in Switzerland

Hmmmm...I thought relationships were arranged in kindy. And then, pragmatic place will have pragmatic reasons for love, like splitting rent? I still can't put Ikea furniture together.

Seriously, I find it interesting when a local person shows up asking for tips on how to date locally. Shouldn't we be picking his brains?

Let's!
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(and stay away from eastern europe with this attitude, except if you are keen to meet the girls brother's/cousins and their friends... who carry knifes)
Well, not all of them do.

You are funny.
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Well, since I am not in a relationship at the moment, who else do you think I should be talking about ? I can talk about my dog if you are interested
You're supposed to ask ?s about them and then pretend to listen to the answers, ya dope!

No wonder you've been unsuccessful!
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Re: Meeting Girls / Hooking Up / Finding a GF in Switzerland

You are supposed to fake interest? Seriously? Sounds laborious.

How about hanging with interesting folks, so one doesn't have to fake anything.

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