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Fascinating.
To the OP, not sure there is an easy answer. But with all things in life, what you give out comes back to you. A wise man once said, you get whatever you go looking for. If you want to see good in people, you will find it. If you want to see the bad in people, you will find it. Ask yourself what are you looking for.
Well I'm not sure I fully agree with your two points.

I generally agree with the karma philosophy I just didn't see it happen. Which doesn't mean I treat girls like shit because of what they did in the past to me. I always play fair and square telling them what I want (which is - in any case - lots of sex, and a relationship in they want to work for one).

Strange that I didn't find it then . Well not that I met many girls outside of Tinder or stuff. I also heard people saying that the more you search the less you find. I don't believe that bullshit though

For your third point I'm not sure I have an answer. Somewhere at the boundary between sexfriend and girlfriend. Lots of sex, going to events together, without too much pain in the ass to handle

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But the big down side of these apps is that people are getting so fixated on them that more traditional methods of meeting up are dying off.
So true ... I'm getting so pissed off every time a girl sets a date and then cancels with an excuse . But my pool outside online dating is ... VERY small (basically non-existing).

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So if people are all now happy with just casual sex, no dating, no companionship. Sex then back to their own home with their netflix and social apps, at what stage would this change back to a thinking of family? Or would it? Would people even know what a relationship is to be able to revert back to that way of thinking? Many under 30's haven't a clue now.

Are families and kids just on the way out the door? A trend that is now over?
Given my bad childhoold experience with my parent's divorce and they way girls have been so far with me (not that I expect the major traits to change), in no way I'll ever want a kid.

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I am not moving this in the Complaint Corner. I got the impression that the OP isn't really complaing. Advertizing, oder? It is a way to posture.
Not really. More like looking for suggestions. Except the "go to bars" bullshit talk. I hate them .

If a chick would be willing to meet I wouldn't say no though .

Care to explain the posture stuff?
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It's pretty simple really. Many guys who would make excellent boyfriends/partners/husbands simply don't know how to spark attraction in a woman to get a chance to demonstrate their positive characteristics. Unfortunately, many of the guys who do know how to spark this attraction aren't the best types for long term relationships. This leads to the endless cycle of women complaining that there aren't any decent guys out there and the decent guys scratching their heads wondering why they never get chosen.

There was a good study done by online dating site OKCupid which showed that the women using the site rated 80% of the men on the site below average in looks, which confirms that old 80/20 rule that seems to hold true for many things in life. So get off those dating apps if you're an average guy as they only suck money from you and leave you feeling bitter and worse off than you really are.

https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/ok...ox-attractive/

If you're a guy and you're not able to generate that spark, and to be fair most men can't, you have to develop a social circle where girls will get to know you and see your positive qualities. Case in point, in almost every relationship I know it goes like this: (guy) "It was love at first sight for me when I saw Susan in that sexy bikini on the badi in Thalwil all those years ago, I just knew I had to have her." (girl) "I didn't really like John all that much when we first met, but over time I got to see his funny side and great personality and one day I realized I was madly in love with him."
Couldn't agree more. I also had a brief sex friend telling me how good I was in bed, much better than most men, ... She told me that I should work more on my confidence and my posture (stay straight). Well I am working on that. The posture is the easy part though . I'm currently trying to reprogram my subconscious mind by listening to positive affirmations all day long. Not sure if it will work but it's better than the noise in the office or car

Getting off of those dating apps should be the way to go. Unfortunately then I won't have any other girl talking / possibly meeting at all. I don't have life outside work or if I don't set a date. And I don't really meet many attractive girls walking on the street, in supermarkets, ...

As I'd like to put it: I'm absolutely awkard to make the first contact (first impressions matter ) but I'm very good in bed (which I guess why all girls come back at least for a second night). Which is not the right combo because I barely get 2 night stands / sex friends per year
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Old 24.06.2019, 20:23
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Couldn't agree more. I also had a brief sex friend telling me how good I was in bed, much better than most men, ... She told me that I should work more on my confidence and my posture (stay straight). Well I am working on that. The posture is the easy part though . I'm currently trying to reprogram my subconscious mind by listening to positive affirmations all day long. Not sure if it will work but it's better than the noise in the office or car

Getting off of those dating apps should be the way to go. Unfortunately then I won't have any other girl talking / possibly meeting at all. I don't have life outside work or if I don't set a date. And I don't really meet many attractive girls walking on the street, in supermarkets, ...

As I'd like to put it: I'm absolutely awkard to make the first contact (first impressions matter ) but I'm very good in bed (which I guess why all girls come back at least for a second night). Which is not the right combo because I barely get 2 night stands / sex friends per year
Why not just pay? Plenty of options in AG/ZH
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Why not just pay? Plenty of options in AG/ZH
Pay for sex ?

Don't make me think about shit girls like my cheating exes. Makes me want to slaugher all of them
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Don't make me think about shit girls like my cheating exes. Makes me want to slaugher all of them
I don't know what the problem is, you seem a delight.
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Pay for sex ?

Don't make me think about shit girls like my cheating exes. Makes me want to slaugher all of them
You don't pay for the sex, you pay to walk away without any hassle after having sex.
I suspect the $ & emotional cost per fxxk is less than being married.
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You don't pay for the sex, you pay to walk away without any hassle after having sex.
I suspect the $ & emotional cost per fxxk is less than being married.
That's why I never want to get married. You don't want to pay to get married, pay to sustain the marriage, pay the divorce and (hopefully not) the kids if any

It also depends how much sex you want. If you want to have sex once per month maybe but 2h per day I think it's too expensive
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You don't pay for the sex, you pay to walk away without any hassle after having sex.
I suspect the $ & emotional cost per fxxk is less than being married.
Don't encourage him...Do I want to delete a "I fell in love with a street worker" thread?

OP, there are two themes reoccuring: cash and sex. Why?

(Positive affirmation only works for people who have no problem with self-esteem, btw.)
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Don't encourage him...Do I want to delete a "I fell in love with a street worker" thread?

OP, there are two themes reoccuring: cash and sex. Why?
If you were to read closely, MC, you would also notice that there is a third theme: violence towards women.

I thought that was a big issue for you?
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Don't encourage him...Do I want to delete a "I fell in love with a street worker" thread?

OP, there are two themes reoccuring: cash and sex. Why?

(Positive affirmation only works for people who have no problem with self-esteem, btw.)
Because had enough of GFs that were only after my money and I lack sex at the moment.
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It also depends how much sex you want. If you want to have sex once per month maybe but 2h per day I think it's too expensive
My boss just bought his wife a Mercedes cabrio for a price north of 60K. Just go figure what else that money could buy.
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That's why I never want to get married. You don't want to pay to get married, pay to sustain the marriage, pay the divorce and (hopefully not) the kids if any

It also depends how much sex you want. If you want to have sex once per month maybe but 2h per day I think it's too expensive
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Because had enough of GFs that were only after my money and I lack sex at the moment.
If that's how you feel then just go to one of the Swiss FKK clubs like Globe etc, at least then you will know exactly what you are getting for your money. I am 100% serious, it's perfectly legal so just go and get rid of that frustration, because it's not healthy (psychologically) having it all pent up inside.
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If that's how you feel then just go to one of the Swiss FKK clubs like Globe etc, at least then you will know exactly what you are getting for your money. I am 100% serious, it's perfectly legal so just go and get rid of that frustration, because it's not healthy (psychologically) having it all pent up inside.
As the OP fancies himself as a bit of a stud, I would suggest Soprano in Urdorf where he can have 4 girls for 200 CHF. As he is tight if he can't manage all 4 he can save 10 CHf on the room rental
https://soprano-club.ch/#preise
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As the OP fancies himself as a bit of a stud, I would suggest Soprano in Urdorf where he can have 4 girls for 200 CHF. As he is tight if he can't manage all 4 he can save 10 CHf on the room rental
https://soprano-club.ch/#preise
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Given my bad childhoold experience with my parent's divorce and they way girls have been so far with me (not that I expect the major traits to change), in no way I'll ever want a kid.

Care to explain the posture stuff?
The posture issue is probably your head being up your own ar$e.

Seriously, your childhood issues? Newsflash, we all had rubbish happen to us, in my case pretty shocking level stuff. But you put in the work to grow and develop past it. You do not expect other people to accommodate you for your unwillingness to let go of the past. On the one hand you claim emotional trauma but on the other you don't want a girlfriend who is a pain in the backside. Double standards, much?

My advice: get over your real and imagined issues and walk tall as an actual man rather than a little boy pretending to be one.
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The posture issue is probably your head being up your own ar$e.

Seriously, your childhood issues? Newsflash, we all had rubbish happen to us, in my case pretty shocking level stuff. But you put in the work to grow and develop past it. You do not expect other people to accommodate you for your unwillingness to let go of the past. On the one hand you claim emotional trauma but on the other you don't want a girlfriend who is a pain in the backside. Double standards, much?

My advice: get over your real and imagined issues and walk tall as an actual man rather than a little boy pretending to be one.



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Seriously, your childhood issues? Newsflash, we all had rubbish happen to us, in my case pretty shocking level stuff. But you put in the work to grow and develop past it. You do not expect other people to accommodate you for your unwillingness to let go of the past.
Some who may be very willing to let go of the hurts of childhood, and who may want to develop past those hurts, don't know how to achieve that.

Until there, life can at least be conducted more generally peacefully and amiably by developing the skills to manage the emotional pain, even if it hasn't yet dissipated.

And yes, one of the steps is to stop expecting that anyone else should accommodate - let alone compensate one for, or pay a penalty for - the symptoms that remain.
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Some who may be very willing to let go of the hurts of childhood, and who may want to develop past those hurts, don't know how to achieve that.

Until there, life can at least be conducted more generally peacefully and amiably by developing the skills to manage the emotional pain, even if it hasn't yet dissipated.

And yes, one of the steps is to stop expecting that anyone else should accommodate - let alone compensate one for, or pay a penalty for - the symptoms that remain.
And until you can stop making your problems into those of other people or blaming them for how you are, you should maybe work on your relationship with yourself instead.

I'm saying this as someone who wasted a lot of time on messing around under the guise of "I just want to have fun" but then noticed that it is not actually that fun after all. Just a distraction from what matters in life. Sounds impressive and daring but really, messing around is just being too lazy or afraid to let a real connection grow.
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This is what 40 years of misguided western feminism gets you. Enjoy the utopia.
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