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Old 07.09.2019, 15:38
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It's about people, not dogs really.
Pretty much says it all, itís all about you.... the dog is just an accessory.

All through my childhood and up until the year before I went to college I owned dogs and I cannot thing of anything cruller than letting a kid and dog have a relationship on a part time basis.

The only reason I did not get a new dog when my last one died before college was because I knew Iíd be going away and it would not be fair on the dog. Put obviously you donít care about the dog.

Personally I would not want you anywhere near my dog if you think the dog does not count.
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....we have an example in our friends' family....

Finally - do you think if we had friends with dogs we would be wasting time asking for them on the English Forum???
Which one is it? I also don't like my time wasted.

Also, since you keep mentioning the 400.- outing, consider yourself having got a good deal getting a DogFriend experience this cheap. If only, I could get all the benefits of dog ownership with no downside except occasional 400.- I would signup in a heartbeat
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Old 07.09.2019, 15:47
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Only a person with a mind of a goldfish or a troll would write the way you do and make such crude and groundless conclusions. Hire a shrink and learn some proper psychoanalysis.
Says the person who brought emotional turmoil on their child by coming up with a harebrained dog-sharing scheme and then blamed those who tried be of help for it not working out..
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Which one is it? I also don't like my time wasted.

Also, since you keep mentioning the 400.- outing, consider yourself having got a good deal getting a DogFriend experience this cheap. If only, I could get all the benefits of dog ownership with no downside except occasional 400.- I would signup in a heartbeat

Our friends' little girl waks their neighbours dog. Answers your question?

Regarding the dinner bill - you are a cheap date, I see
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Says the person who brought emotional turmoil on their child by coming up with a harebrained dog-sharing scheme and then blamed those who tried be of help for it not working out..

I didn't come up with 'the scheme'. These arrangements are increasingly popular in the UK/US and are reasonable and mutually beneficial. What is not beneficial - some empty verbiage as a trolling exercise.
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Moderators, please close the thread - I have already received several PMs with good options. Thanks
Sure you have NOT.
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Sure you have NOT.

Jim, I honestly DID. Believe it or not, there are some fine and pleasant people reading EF (although, as a forum LEGEND you can be forgiven for thinking otherwise )
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Old 07.09.2019, 16:20
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I didn't come up with 'the scheme'. These arrangements are increasingly popular in the UK/US and are reasonable and mutually beneficial. What is not beneficial - some empty verbiage as a trolling exercise.
So you are saying that what took place was beneficial for your child? He cries himself to sleep with a picture of someone else's dog, and that's reasonable?

Sounds like you didn't think this through very well before you made empty promises to your kid.
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Old 07.09.2019, 16:23
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I didn't come up with 'the scheme'. These arrangements are increasingly popular in the UK/US and are reasonable and mutually beneficial. What is not beneficial - some empty verbiage as a trolling exercise.
Perhaps now is a good time to remind yourself that Switzerland is not the UK or USA. I'm American, so I can totally see how such an arrangement would work in those two countries.

Unfortunately when I saw your first post I thought gee, I don't know how or if that would work here. It's hard enough to make friends here with the locals, so the idea you want an instant, consistent relationship including the dog sounded too good to be true if you found it.

Ghosting is not nice, but it happens all the time. Even if the couple had come back to say sorry, it's not going to work out, would you have let it go? I get the impression this is very important to you and your son, and that you would have tried to convince them to change their minds...
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Perhaps now is a good time to remind yourself that Switzerland is not the UK or USA. I'm American, so I can totally see how such an arrangement would work in those two countries.

Unfortunately when I saw your first post I thought gee, I don't know how or if that would work here. It's hard enough to make friends here with the locals, so the idea you want an instant, consistent relationship including the dog sounded too good to be true if you found it.

Ghosting is not nice, but it happens all the time. Even if the couple had come back to say sorry, it's not going to work out, would you have let it go? I get the impression this is very important to you and your son, and that you would have tried to convince them to change their minds...

Thank you for your response. We have at least one example of this working here (with our friends) and heard of others too. This is not an experiment but a well-used practice.



I would not try to convince anyone to change their mind, especially people who are not civilised enough to conduct themselves with dignity - why do you think so? And what makes you think we haven't 'let it go'? I have had several PMs already, with good suggestions, one in our area of Zurich. Doesn't the very post here mean we are looking at other options??
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So you are saying that what took place was beneficial for your child? He cries himself to sleep with a picture of someone else's dog, and that's reasonable?

Sounds like you didn't think this through very well before you made empty promises to your kid.

Mommy-shaming, huh?... The last resort, I guess...
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Old 07.09.2019, 16:42
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Perhaps now is a good time to remind yourself that Switzerland is not the UK or USA. I'm American, so I can totally see how such an arrangement would work in those two countries.
Not sure it would work in the UK. Dog theft is pretty widespread in the UK (up to 100 dogs a week are stolen for fights and puppy farms, etc) so owners are unlikely to release their dog to someone randomly advertising such services.

It sounds harsh but it’s not just a case of pinching a pup from a garden anymore. Thieves are masters at finding ways to get you to let your guard down and willingly hand the dog over.

Not saying for one second that the OP has nefarious intentions. Far from it. But it’s just to address the point that it’s ‘a thing’ in the UK.
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Old 07.09.2019, 16:47
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Tough, you got stiffed for a free dinner......sucker
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Not sure it would work in the UK. Dog theft is pretty widespread in the UK (up to 100 dogs a week are stolen for fights and puppy farms, etc) so owners are unlikely to release their dog to someone randomly advertising such services.

It sounds harsh but itís not just a case of pinching a pup from a garden anymore. Thieves are masters at finding ways to get you to let your guard down and willingly hand the dog over.

Not saying for one second that the OP has nefarious intentions. Far from it. But itís just to address the point that itís Ďa thingí in the UK.

Well, it does work in the UK. We are from Cambridge and know at least four families who walk dogs for busy people who work in London, and take dogs in for holidays. Most of them were strangers before.



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I just want to say I think itís a great idea and completely could work with the right people. I loved animals and didnít have pets growing up and spent a lot of time dogsitting for a variety of neighbors. Of course it can work. Unfortunately sometimes it wonít and this time it didnít, Iím sure the little boy will be okay. I think itís great that you are willing to try again. I would try and ignore the nay-sayers and alternative suggestions that donít really match your current needs. Thereís nothing wrong with your idea and I hope you eventually find the right people/dog.
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Tough, you got stiffed for a free dinner......sucker

This is the level of debate and the vocabulary I am not familiar with... In English perhaps?...
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This is the level of debate and the vocabulary I am not familiar with... In English perhaps?...
Pulling the stick out of your ass might help with your social and comprehension skills. Have you considered a "sharing the boy" scenario? I imagine that it would do "the boy" a world of good to be around some rational adults for a change.
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This is the level of debate and the vocabulary I am not familiar with... In English perhaps?...



MUPPET, does that stike a chord ?
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Wow. I truly hope you are childless. 'Sharing the boy'? Sounds like a child abuse scenario to me. Seek help before it's too late.

You beginning to sound just like Clocker.....
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The personal comments going back and forth in this thread are going too far. Use some restraint, please.
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