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The personal comments going back and forth in this thread are going too far. Use some restraint, please.

I asked to close this thread on page 1 - I received PMs with some good options and see no point to allow for this thread's unhealthy venting from some truly odd people...
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Old 07.09.2019, 17:25
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I asked to close this thread on page 1 - I received PMs with some good options and see no point to allow for this thread's unhealthy venting from some truly odd people...
You could just step back from the thread and let it burn out by itself.
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Old 07.09.2019, 17:31
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NatAlexander, You should perhaps consider that dogs are a precious part of the family to people, me included, and it is a big decision to allow strangers to borrow them, however good the intentions.

Your language and tone do you no favours when you are asking for help. People may have been more inclined to help you if you had been polite and more appreciative of comments, even those you decided were not adequate. Rudeness and name calling is never acceptable behaviour. I have a gorgeous child friendly puppy and am still trying to decide what to do with him when I need to travel in December. Your attitude crosses you straight off a list of possibilities and likely those people who have PM'd you and are reading this
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NatAlexander, You should perhaps consider that dogs are a precious part of the family to people, me included, and it is a big decision to allow strangers to borrow them, however good the intentions.

Your language and tone do you no favours when you are asking for help. People may have been more inclined to help you if you had been polite and more appreciative of comments, even those you decided were not adequate. Rudeness and name calling is never acceptable behaviour. I have a gorgeous child friendly puppy and am still trying to decide what to do with him when I need to travel in December. Your attitude crosses you straight off a list of possibilities.

I had dogs all my life, up until we moved to CH - just after my sheltie died of old age. So I don't need lecturing on this topic, thanks.


I already received several PMs from nice adequate people who really want to help, not empty venting from habitual trolls.


If you haven't noticed, I have been remarkably polite and restrained in response to some pretty nasty personal abuse.


I wish you and your puppy all the best.
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If you have noticed, I have been remarkably polite and restrained in response to some pretty nasty personal abuse.

You started out in the opening post being personal and abusive - the 'mostly idle /out of work' chap who you 'wouldn't want to be friends with', etc. Obviously your opening post is an attempt to guilt trip him/them, whoever they are.

You bought them dinner but now they don't want to share their dog with your kid even though you are willing to share your kid with their dog... aw shucks.

I wish your kid all the best.
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You started out in the opening post being personal and abusive - the 'mostly idle /out of work' chap who you 'wouldn't want to be friends with', etc. Obviously your opening post is an attempt to guilt trip him/them, whoever they are.

You bought them dinner but now they don't want to share their dog with your kid even though you are willing to share your kid with their dog... aw shucks.

I wish your kid all the best.

Your analysis defies logic. I told the story and didn't direct it against a named person. I told the story to give whoever responds to it the full background, to think about responsibility of getting involved. Having dog friends is a rather common practice with families these days. I am amazed at how many people spend their weekends throwing insults and accusations, using any, even the most innocent opportunity. All the vitriol! Oh well, perhaps someone will start another thread on Brexit - especially for you and others to indulge in your favourite sport...
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Your analysis defies logic. I told the story and didn't direct it against a named person. I told the story to give whoever responds to it the full background, to think about responsibility of getting involved. Having dog friends is a rather common practice with families these days. I am amazed at how many people spend their weekends throwing insults and accusations, using any, even the most innocent opportunity. All the vitriol! Oh well, perhaps someone will start another thread on Brexit - especially for you and others to indulge in your favourite sport...
This after you accused them in the opening post of messing with your child's emotions for fun, just out of boredom.

You really need to take a step back and look in the mirror.
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This after you accused them in the opening post of messing with your child's emotions for fun, just out of boredom.

You really need to take a step back and look in the mirror.

The mirror should be firmly held to people who are directing their relentless personal abuse in response to the most innocent post about dogs and kids. They will see vicious trolls at their worst.
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Re: Dog-friend wanted for little boy

This has got to be one of the most depressing threads I have ever read on this forum. It almost seems like people going out of their way to insult each other the best they can. I am also disappointed that the mods have let it go on so long. Nothing constructive can possibly come out of this thread now...
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Thank you for your response. We have at least one example of this working here (with our friends) and heard of others too. This is not an experiment but a well-used practice.

I would not try to convince anyone to change their mind, especially people who are not civilised enough to conduct themselves with dignity - why do you think so? And what makes you think we haven't 'let it go'? I have had several PMs already, with good suggestions, one in our area of Zurich. Doesn't the very post here mean we are looking at other options??
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Well, it does work in the UK. We are from Cambridge and know at least four families who walk dogs for busy people who work in London, and take dogs in for holidays. Most of them were strangers before.

What kind of a world would we live in if we forgot how to (reasonably) trust others?...
Are these the people who also have Swiss bank accounts with zero fees who are no longer resident here?
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This has got to be one of the most depressing threads I have ever read on this forum. It almost seems like people going out of their way to insult each other the best they can. I am also disappointed that the mods have let it go on so long. Nothing constructive can possibly come out of this thread now...

I asked the moderators to close this thread hours ago. Wrote PM to them with the request. Nothing. They are probably enjoying this as much as their friends, the 'legends'.
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Are these the people who also have Swiss bank accounts with zero fees who are no longer resident here?

If it's another way to make me feel sad, it ain't working. I hope your bank account is healthy and very very very private.
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This has got to be one of the most depressing threads I have ever read on this forum. It almost seems like people going out of their way to insult each other the best they can. I am also disappointed that the mods have let it go on so long. Nothing constructive can possibly come out of this thread now...
I had let it be, hoping that people would cut out the personal comments while still defending/expressing their viewpoints. Unfortunately, that didn't really work.

I hope OP finds a solution that keeps her son happy and also fills the need of another family.
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I asked the moderators to close this thread hours ago. Wrote PM to them with the request. Nothing. They are probably enjoying this as much as their friends, the 'legends'.
As I believe had been explained, we don't close down discussions just because the person that started it doesn't want to hear what other people have to say. As for being abusive, well, your posts seem to be full of unpleasant accusations, and as far as I can tell from a quick scan the only 'abuse' you've received is just people disagreeing with you. If you don't want to hear alternative opinions, why post on a public forum in the first place?
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