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Old 15.12.2020, 19:04
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Gifting -- To whom and what..

It's that time of year again..
When i argue with the wife over who gets xmas gifts 'from the kids' ..

The kids have each:
A main teacher
2 other assistants who do music / crafts etc
A separate private language teacher
Ballet teacher
Gymnastics teachers
The school crossing patrol ladies - like 6 of them
The school bus driver

Probably others i missed.

I'd give the main teacher something, end of .. Unless one of the others was stand out amazing .. (we have one in that category) ..
But all the others... I mean i already pay a fortune for ballet classes.. am i scrooge?

Who do your kids give a gift to? Do you buy it? Do you make it? Does one get a bigger gift?
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Old 15.12.2020, 19:19
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Buy a nice present for the main teacher, and the "amazing" one you mentioned ... kids make cards for the others (it's personal, so worth far more than one just bought in a shop, right?).

Oh, kids make the cards for the other ones as well, with the bought presents, of course ...
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Old 15.12.2020, 19:23
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

I would just give something to the main teachers and possibly the truly awesome one.
Either home made gifts or a bought gift and a homemade card to go with it.

I’m probably a Scrooge too but I don’t think it’s necessary to buy anything for the others.
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Are they in local schools, or international? Same question about the others you mention.
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

The kids (or parents if very young) often organise a group gift to the head teacher, everyone chips in a bit.

For the others, I usually suggest kids make a nice card or homemade cookies (albeit not exactly easy this year with covid), doesn't have to cost much or anything and gets the kids involved.
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Old 15.12.2020, 19:41
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Kids are at local primary school ..

I think the main teachers have been good, I don't mind getting them a little something .. The kids are totally indifferent though. They don't even know the name of the crossing ladies for example.

We asked the kids what others do and the answers varied .. From zero to one who apparently gave the teacher a watch for her birthday recently .. (The kids mum works for Rolex or Hublot or one of similar) .. Although who knows it could have been a chocolate watch or just a kids story.
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Why would you/kids give them anything?
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Never heard of any Christmas gifts being given to the teachers in my children's school (local). It hasn't even occurred to me. I doubt other parents are giving anything either. This year one of mine are doing secret Santa at school (including the teacher), that is all.

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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Do you think the teachers actually want anything? My brother used to teach primary school years 3-4 and every year he received mugs, pens, boxes of chocolate, etc. that he had no desire or need for. It made him feel awkward, and he felt that it caused awkwardness amongst the students as well, as if there was some sort of pressure for everyone to provide a gift because a few did. He found the whole thing not cool.



If the point of giving something is to show appreciation, a handmade card from the student is the best thing. And only to the really important people, not the crossing ladies.
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one who apparently gave the teacher a watch for her birthday recently .. (The kids mum works for Rolex or Hublot or one of similar) .. Although who knows it could have been a chocolate watch or just a kids story.
That I find out of order actually. Why would a parent give a teacher an expensive gift? Does that not put the teacher under obligation to that child and parent? Really strange.
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Old 16.12.2020, 10:43
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Somewhat related to this thread, yesterday at work each of us received an end-of-year thank you present from the direction, which was a not particularly practical custom printed desk calendar containing work-related images. I think half of them went straight in the garbage. To me presents just for the sake of giving something seem like a waste of resources and money.

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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

If you are in the Nyon/Lausanne area, I wholeheartedly recommend Chocolatier Tristan in Perroy. During my Big 4 years, we got into a habit of ordering our Christmas gift chocolates for clients abroad from them. Excellent customer service and delicious chocolate, especially the "boîte damier de pavés" Definitely pricier than a box of Merci, but Tristan is truly an artisan who takes great pride in his craft and they also do custom pieces. I used to have to go through a bit of a dance to order but I see they have set up a web shop now, well done them.

I'm not a teacher but I wonder if instead of a gift, you could get your kids to write personal cards where they say thank you and maybe give an example of a positive different the teacher made to them during this year? I think it is nice to know you are appreciated and making a positive difference to someone's life.

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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

We get a lot of stuff this year. Nobody is obliged, though.
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Why would you/kids give them anything?
Why not? An appreciation gift, something small and relatively inexpensive or even better, handmade or homemade by OP's kids.

@OP,

My general rule:
Women - a card and/or flowers and/or chocolate/pralines.
Men - a card and/or booze.

How imaginative.
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Speaking as a teacher myself, chocolate is generally appreciated - the more "basic" the better, as you can be fairly certain the teacher will enjoy it. Be careful of allergies, too ...
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

To be honest, though, OP ask your kids. Since they will say that nobody brings anything and when somebody else does, it makes other kids feel bad...not all parents have the means to gift something. And when we are at the card making, not all kids feel like making a handmade gift at 12 years of age when parents have been tossing their handmade gifts away.

The chocs are spilling out of the fridge.

We even have chocolate for dinner.
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Old 16.12.2020, 19:34
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To be honest, though, OP ask your kids. Since they will say that nobody brings anything and when somebody else does, it makes other kids feel bad...not all parents have the means to gift something. And when we are at the card making, not all kids feel like making a handmade gift at 12 years of age when parents have been tossing their handmade gifts away.

The chocs are spilling out of the fridge.

We even have chocolate for dinner.
My kids couldn’t care less! They’d happily go with nothing..
Well youngster likes giving her teacher a six pack of Guiness because all the kids are shocked and the teacher gives her a massive hug.. (her teacher is best friends of our neighbour and we’ve had some drunken times)

Mummy has enjoyed doing some crafting with kidos so it’s gone that direction this year mostly. Plus the guiness :-)
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

Yes! Xmas craft is the best.
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My kids couldn’t care less! They’d happily go with nothing..
Well youngster likes giving her teacher a six pack of Guiness because all the kids are shocked and the teacher gives her a massive hug.. (her teacher is best friends of our neighbour and we’ve had some drunken times)

Mummy has enjoyed doing some crafting with kidos so it’s gone that direction this year mostly. Plus the guiness :-)
I'd like to see how the Guiness would go.

But why do kids have to embarrass themselves? If it's not a card or something made by them, I think it's the parent(s) who should show up at school and thank the teacher(s) in person. Keeping the social distance, eh.
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Re: Gifting -- To whom and what..

I actually just wrapped gifts for my son's two teachers earlier this evening, so he can bring them tomorrow.

We get his teachers something every year, for Xmas. This year, it's Läderach chocolates and a Yankee candle for each of them. Also some Lindt hot chocolate mix for his main teacher was thrown in there as well. (The scent of the Yankee candles is called "After Sledding," so I somehow thought it appropriate to put some hot chocolate in there, too ). I had my son write the cards and design them with stickers.
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