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But please, this is Switzerland, there is CCTV everywhere...
You are thinking of the UK.

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Old 13.02.2021, 10:57
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You should know better - this is clearly spam, Reported
How is it spam?

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Old 13.02.2021, 11:18
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Re: Public Toilets - [shady experience]

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Hahaha �� .. maybe I should try not to look gay and avoid urinals at Burkliplatz.

For gay dudes- now you know your blind dating spot. I think it was Monday or Tuesday. Let us know about your (s) experience ��
Is cottaging still a thing in the age of Grindr? Although maybe like vinyl, it's making a comeback.
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How is it spam?
One of her bog-standard posts
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Re: Public Toilets - [shady experience]

@OP,
All these incidents should be reported to police. Period.
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@OP,
All these incidents should be reported to police. Period.
The 'similar' old one where someone exposed his aroused self certainly should have been, but TBH the one the OP talks about, while it would seem likely that the guy was asking the OP if he was looking for a sexual encounter, doesn't strike me as anything illegal.

Dodgy, perhaps, and certainly can see why an anxious person would be uncomfortable with it, but I don't think the police would be interested in it. "Muttering" and staring at someone is something you'll come across every day if you spend much time in the city, after all.

And the OP may have lived a sheltered life - this has been fairly common practice ever since public toilets were first invented. Perhaps less so now than it was fifty years ago, but as kids I recall that we were always aware that this sort of thing happened, although most such stories were apocryphal, but nobody would have been hugely surprised to be so approached at that time of night.
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Old 13.02.2021, 11:49
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Re: Public Toilets - [shady experience]

Assuming the story is legit, I applaud the OP for posting it and giving us a chance to talk about what often is considered a "taboo" topic.

I know so little of this topic (cottaging) and, except for filthy stalls or malfunctioning toilets, have never had a negative experience in a public toilet.

Genuine question: Let's say you've been propositioned to join in an illegal sexual activity in a public toilet. Would the simple question be considered a legal offence?
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Old 13.02.2021, 12:07
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I'm pretty sure this was all it was, nothing really seemed to have happened, but sure, you theoretically could have been raped and killed or killed and raped. Someone spotting you, approaching and asking for money is not at all unusual, and also, is surely not illegal albeit being certainly anti-social.

The other incident was surely odd but I've not heard of anything like that before so no, I don't think it's common.

Anyone remember when the toilets only used to be full of junkies?
It is actually, in most cantons. Interesting article here.

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Assuming the story is legit, I applaud the OP for posting it and giving us a chance to talk about what often is considered a "taboo" topic.

I know so little of this topic (cottaging) and, except for filthy stalls or malfunctioning toilets, have never had a negative experience in a public toilet.

Genuine question: Let's say you've been propositioned to join in an illegal sexual activity in a public toilet. Would the simple question be considered a legal offence?
What's an illegal sexual activity?
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Old 13.02.2021, 12:24
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Re: Public Toilets - [shady experience]

In a public place? I suppose.
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Old 13.02.2021, 12:29
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It is actually, in most cantons. Interesting article here.


What's an illegal sexual activity?
One that takes place in a public toilet between two people or if one person exposes themselves to another person.
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Re: Public Toilets - [shady experience]

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The 'similar' old one where someone exposed his aroused self certainly should have been, but TBH the one the OP talks about, while it would seem likely that the guy was asking the OP if he was looking for a sexual encounter, doesn't strike me as anything illegal.

Dodgy, perhaps, and certainly can see why an anxious person would be uncomfortable with it, but I don't think the police would be interested in it. "Muttering" and staring at someone is something you'll come across every day if you spend much time in the city, after all.

And the OP may have lived a sheltered life - this has been fairly common practice ever since public toilets were first invented. Perhaps less so now than it was fifty years ago, but as kids I recall that we were always aware that this sort of thing happened, although most such stories were apocryphal, but nobody would have been hugely surprised to be so approached at that time of night.
They would watch the area more carefully. Maybe?
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Old 13.02.2021, 12:46
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Re: Public Toilets - [shady experience]

I take it you are a guy...? What is the world a-coming to when a man get´s his panties in a twist over something like this? Just point and laugh, "looks like a penis only much smaller!" At the end of the day the whole worlds is a man´s urinal.
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Old 13.02.2021, 12:56
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I take it you are a guy...? What is the world a-coming to when a man get´s his panties in a twist over something like this? Just point and laugh, "looks like a penis only much smaller!" At the end of the day the whole worlds is a man´s urinal.
Your name "slammer" evokes an aggressive man every time I see it. Not everyone is as "tough" as you.
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How is it spam?

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It isn’t.
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But possibly he just wanted a bit of money from you...


On the one hand, you should not feel unsafe. On the other hand, be street-wise... but very likely the guy thought you might have some spare cash...
He didn`t look like a beggar or a junkie. Although I didn`t pay any special attention to check his clothes/appearance, from what I remember seeing him while crossing the road, he seemed like a well-dressed man (I think).
If he wanted to sell/buy drugs or if he wanted money, he could have waited outside the toilet. He could have followed me back to the tram station if that was the case..

There were three urinal blocks and I was emptying my bladder in the far end block (which seemed cleanest of all, but I think it was the stupidest choice as I was far from toilet entrance ). This dodgy man entered the toilet and was peeing (or maybe was pretending like peeing) in the first block, but his face and shoulders tilted towards me (thats what I felt as I gave a quick glance at my 1 o´clock position when I heard him murmur something). At least he had some decency to respect my privacy by not standing in the block very next to where I was peeing.
Whatever his intentions were, this incident scared the hell out of me. Given I was wearing a rather expensive watch and had some gold jewelry on me might have caused more fear in me.. Anyways nothing untoward happened and I lived to tell the tale.
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He didn`t look like a beggar or a junkie. Although I didn`t pay any special attention to check his clothes/appearance, from what I remember seeing him while crossing the road, he seemed like a well-dressed man (I think).
If he wanted to sell/buy drugs or if he wanted money, he could have waited outside the toilet. He could have followed me back to the tram station if that was the case..

There were three urinal blocks and I was emptying my bladder in the far end block (which seemed cleanest of all, but I think it was the stupidest choice as I was far from toilet entrance ). This dodgy man entered the toilet and was peeing (or maybe was pretending like peeing) in the first block, but his face and shoulders tilted towards me (thats what I felt as I gave a quick glance at my 1 o´clock position when I heard him murmur something). At least he had some decency to respect my privacy by not standing in the block very next to where I was peeing.
Whatever his intentions were, this incident scared the hell out of me. Given I was wearing a rather expensive watch and had some gold jewelry on me might have caused more fear in me.. Anyways nothing untoward happened and I lived to tell the tale.
It looks like he wanted some "illegal sex".......OP, shite happens.

Slammer might be a tough guy but he's got a point.
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Old 13.02.2021, 13:44
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I thought "slammer" comes from slamming one beer after another.

With a cute frog avatar like that..
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Your name "slammer" evokes an aggressive man every time I see it. Not everyone is as "tough" as you.
Actually I am a big human bouncy castle without an aggressive bone in my body.
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Whatever his intentions were, this incident scared the hell out of me.
Scared witless because someone looks at you???

Seriously: get a grip.
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Actually I am a big human bouncy castle without an aggressive bone in my body.
I was about to make a very inappropriate joke about the bone thing but I better not..

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