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Safety of Children

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My Son was pushed down the stairs, rolling to the bottom of it in school building, by another child who used the stair railing as a slide. We've been here only few month's, not familiar with child protection in schools, but I have noticed that supervision of children is not paramount at this school.
(My 7 yrs old son battles with physical and mental difficulties everyday, he was using the railing to hold his body weight while walking down the stairs. I was advised by Intentional Social Services in Switzerland to approach Consultation Center Victim Assistant, they work from 2 pm on Thursdays.
Any info on how to approach it is welcomed, school management ignored it first until i held them responsible for putting my sons life in danger.
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Not sure if I understand this correctly. Your son fell down the stairs as another kid used the railing to slide down?


Are you looking for compansation, medical advice?



At least or rather at first have a chat with the teacher, explain the situation and ask her what can be done. Did he hurt himself?
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Yes he was hurt, bruises with concussions, second day developed slight fever. He's very angry and bitter, frightened, continues disturbed sleeps since Tuesday. Frightened to go back to school. Last night he said 'I've done nothing to that boy, i don't understand why he pushed me'?
I'm very concerned for His safety. I asked him to demonstrate how it happened by using our building stairs. He said: 'the boy was standing on the top of the stairs leaning on the railing. My heels were hurting, I went around him to grab on to the railing, when I reached third step he pushed me with his tummy and I rolled down to the bottom of the stairs. When I was laying at the bottom he looked over me, puffed, said something German and left' other kids were passing by going out fast (it was late afternoon brake time) so I decided to be brave and got up went to a quite area and was angry talking to myself. He did not report it to anyone, said I didn't know I had.

My concern is my child's safety. Was it an accident, was he targeted because his new without friends, not speaking the language not understanding others, is he going to be pushed again?

Teachers did not respond to my messages, or email. One of them texted the next day, after I send a second email.
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Yes he was hurt, bruises with concussions, second day developed slight fever.
Did you take him to the doctor or hospital? Did you report this as an accident to your son's health insurance company? Is your son receiving ongoing medical attention?

I think you need to contact the school principal. If your son has not been at school surely they must be wondering why.
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Did you take him to the doctor or hospital? Did you report this as an accident to your son's health insurance company? Is your son receiving ongoing medical attention?

I think you need to contact the school principal. If your son has not been at school surely they must be wondering why.
Kids pick on other kids because they are different. Differences that comes in all shapes and sizes. Different colour, different race, different language. Difference sizes. As others have said the authorities here have very much a not my problem attitude. Our son was push down the hill when he was in kindergarten banging his head on ground/a stone I don't know what. He needed stitches, it happens. It wasn't an accident, its just kids being mean to other kids.
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Kids pick on other kids because they are different. Differences that comes in all shapes and sizes. Different colour, different race, different language. Difference sizes. As others have said the authorities here have very much a not my problem attitude. Our son was push down the hill when he was in kindergarten banging his head on ground/a stone I don't know what. He needed stitches, it happens. It wasn't an accident, its just kids being mean to other kids.
Of course kids can be mean to each other, but I don’t agree that the authorities ignore the situation, especially in the case of a special needs child, if they have been informed. In fact they are required to have an education support plan in place for the child and regular meetings with parents, healthcare staff etc... I know, I’ve been there.

Now the OP has got some good advice and suggestions here, but instead of responding to that in their second reply, we just got another variation of the original story. This not what I expected to hear. Given the description of the child’s behavior I expected to hear that the child was under medical care and was at least on the way to receiving the help they needed.

Now I just hope that it is a case of an over protective mother going of the rails and not the case of a special needs child being forced through the system without the support they need. But we don’t know.
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Did you take him to the doctor or hospital? Did you report this as an accident to your son's health insurance company? Is your son receiving ongoing medical attention?

I think you need to contact the school principal. If your son has not been at school surely they must be wondering why.
I guess this is step #1. A letter from a doctor describing the injuries can be quite handy.
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Yes he was hurt, bruises with concussions, second day developed slight fever. He's very angry and bitter, frightened, continues disturbed sleeps since Tuesday. Frightened to go back to school. Last night he said 'I've done nothing to that boy, i don't understand why he pushed me'?
I'm very concerned for His safety. I asked him to demonstrate how it happened by using our building stairs. He said: 'the boy was standing on the top of the stairs leaning on the railing. My heels were hurting, I went around him to grab on to the railing, when I reached third step he pushed me with his tummy and I rolled down to the bottom of the stairs. When I was laying at the bottom he looked over me, puffed, said something German and left' other kids were passing by going out fast (it was late afternoon brake time) so I decided to be brave and got up went to a quite area and was angry talking to myself. He did not report it to anyone, said I didn't know I had.

My concern is my child's safety. Was it an accident, was he targeted because his new without friends, not speaking the language not understanding others, is he going to be pushed again?

Teachers did not respond to my messages, or email. One of them texted the next day, after I send a second email.
You need to contact the teacher and the principal. The other boy is a bully and needs to be punished. However, there also needs to be an open dialogue on the special needs of your child. As one poster mentioned, children are usually more sympathetic towards others once they understand why a child is different.

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You need to contact the teacher and the principal. The other boy is a bully and needs to be punished.
A bully is using force, physical or not, to gain the upper hand. From the kid's perspective punishment is confirmation that using force is legitimate or even just, you just need to make sure you're the stronger one.

Assuming it is indeed bullying. Kids do stupid things (and not just them), you can't honestly claim to know without hearing his side.
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Yes he was hurt, bruises with concussions, second day developed slight fever. He's very angry and bitter, frightened, continues disturbed sleeps since Tuesday. Frightened to go back to school. Last night he said 'I've done nothing to that boy, i don't understand why he pushed me'?
I'm very concerned for His safety. I asked him to demonstrate how it happened by using our building stairs. He said: 'the boy was standing on the top of the stairs leaning on the railing. My heels were hurting, I went around him to grab on to the railing, when I reached third step he pushed me with his tummy and I rolled down to the bottom of the stairs. When I was laying at the bottom he looked over me, puffed, said something German and left' other kids were passing by going out fast (it was late afternoon brake time) so I decided to be brave and got up went to a quite area and was angry talking to myself. He did not report it to anyone, said I didn't know I had.

My concern is my child's safety. Was it an accident, was he targeted because his new without friends, not speaking the language not understanding others, is he going to be pushed again?

Teachers did not respond to my messages, or email. One of them texted the next day, after I send a second email.
Not wanting to be dismissive here but it sounds like normal day in a primary school to me. I think kids do stupid things. I think your son just happened to be in this other boy's way.

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You need to contact the teacher and the principal. The other boy is a bully and needs to be punished. However, there also needs to be an open dialogue on the special needs of your child. As one poster mentioned, children are usually more sympathetic towards others once they understand why a child is different.

Good luck.
That isn't necessarily true. Kids need be made aware that their actions have consequences and that they might unwillingly seriously hurt other kids.
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Re: Safety of Children

Why oh why oh why do people make complaints like this while holding back on any of the salient details?

OP says something about another kid sliding down the railing, but then later seems to imply that his/her kid thinks he was deliberately attacked. Which is it? And why are you, apparently, trying to withhold some of the facts?
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OP says something about another kid sliding down the railing, but then later seems to imply that his/her kid thinks he was deliberately attacked. Which is it? And why are you, apparently, trying to withhold some of the facts?
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Re: Safety of Children

Hello!
First of all I would like to thank everyone for taking the time to advise and inform me on the matter. I very much appreciate the input i have received from all of you.

I trust in the near future I can learn better how to use this site, to respond and comment individually.

My son gave full account of what happened only after his Doctor raised some of the questions to him. When I posted first that was all I knew about it.

We have had meetings arranged with School Principal and the relevant medical professionals through his Doctor.
School has received his medical docs from his previous Doctor few months ago.
School Principal had him put in a waiting list for professional help.
Principal has arranged German lessons.

I trust I have given you the info on some of the questions the forum members have raised.

Once again thank you very much for all the information and advise.
Have a great Day!
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We've been here only few month's, not familiar with child protection in schools, but I have noticed that supervision of children is not paramount at this school.
This is true of ALL schools.

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Hello,
My Son was pushed down the stairs, rolling to the bottom of it in school building, by another child who used the stair railing as a slide. We've been here only few month's, not familiar with child protection in schools, but I have noticed that supervision of children is not paramount at this school.
(My 7 yrs old son battles with physical and mental difficulties everyday, he was using the railing to hold his body weight while walking down the stairs. I was advised by Intentional Social Services in Switzerland to approach Consultation Center Victim Assistant, they work from 2 pm on Thursdays.
Any info on how to approach it is welcomed, school management ignored it first until i held them responsible for putting my sons life in danger.
Please help!
Well first off, I think you need to address your son's special needs. Do you have a diagnosis? is it recognised by the education authorities and is the school aware of this and do they have an education plan for him?

My son has Aspergers Syndrome and he had a lot of help going through school. First of all at the start of each year his classmates had a few lessons where they learned what it would be like to have him in there class and the parents received an information pack as well. And then he had a special assistant in some classes and so on. But there is no doubt in my mind that if it was not for his colleagues in class he would not have been able to go through the school system. Once they understood the situation they always, always watched out for him. Little things like making sure he took his meds etc when the went away over night as well. So it is important to ensure that people know the situation and give them a chance to deal with the situation, before blaming them. Of course if they know and are not reacting that is a different thing.
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Re: Safety of Children

If your son needs extra attention at school, you need to bring this up with your son's teacher and principal. Your son's doctor/paediatrician may also need to be involved.

Sorry to hear about your son falling down the stairs. Hopefully it was an accident and not intentional on the part of the kid sliding down the rails. It sounds like kids were being kids and your son was in the wrong place at the wrong time?

But otherwise, it's true that there is little supervision in the school outside of classes. At my son's school, there is rarely a teacher on duty in the school grounds during the class breaks. The kids are supposed to know to stay within the school grounds. If a child gets hurt, it's almost up to another child to alert a teacher or adult nearby.
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Sorry your child fell down, never a happy experience. Is he ok?

You will see that here children are given lots of independence and little to no parents involvement is wished - on the basis that kids sort themselves out.

You will need to find your way and what works for you. I would recommend:
1) If your son has a disability please inform the school with an official diagnoses. The school.is obliged to put measures in place. Your school may or may not do that easily, may or may not try to the you that a private school is better etc. Truth of the matter is that public school is responsible to get your child through obligatory education hence smile and push for that. Your pediatrician can help.
2) Threats of "you risked my son's life by not supervising him" don't work well at all here. At best this will be considered an accident. If medical costs are involved, your accident insurance will pay.

Please talk to the teacher calmly and fact based - never forget that with children there is often another side of the story (I have learned the hard way) so I find it helps to say "My son told me so and so happened. He was hurt and I would like you to talk to him and the other child in bed to understand what really happened". The teacher can then look into it and let you know. No threats please and no drama - I do understand you are shocked but if you want to be taken seriously just be short and factual and use deepl if needed.
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True, but in our experience once the kids (8+) understood the situation and how it was for him, they were very supportive most of the time.

As I already said, he managed to attend every outing his class had, because of their support. One of his big problems, was that he forgot something or it became damaged, he'd never ask for help. So his mates, would inform the teacher if they noticed he did not have toothpaste, a lacer broken in his shoe, if he wandered off from the group they went after him and so on.

For me the key is having a recognised diagnosis and informing the school....
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So you have already involved the principal and social services? I think you may be overreacting a bit. How far did he fall? Did he get hurt?
It sounds to me like it was an accident, not intentional. These things happen. Yes, kids should not be allowed to slide down (the staircase at our school has metal guards to prevent it), but there are always some that will not follow the rules. I would not focus on blame, as that will get you nowhere, but focus on how this could be prevented in the future. Maybe your son could be let out a little sooner or wait a little longer, so there are less kids in the stairway when he is using it.
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Any info on how to approach it is welcomed, school management ignored it first until i held them responsible for putting my sons life in danger.
I'd be careful of focusing too much on the liability issue. The school quite probably has an accident insurance. As long as they show they take reasonable care of children (enough trained teachers to student ratio), no gross negligence (i.e. drunk teacher), and no risky infrastructure (i.e. exposed sharp steel on the stairs)…….the insurance will pay for medical expenses but not prevent an accident.

Protecting the child is team work among you and the teachers. Telling them you're liable for whatever happens to my son will only motivate them to look for legal advice on how to deal with you, not help the child. Don't be surprised if school management is also posting in another forum a parent came today and held me responsible for putting his son's life in danger, what should i do? . If that's the case, only lawyers will win from this approach.
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