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Re: My son is getting bullied at school, need some advise how to handle it, pls???

There not a "gang" they are just a bunch of older kids. who gives a damn.


Fine go to the police and see what happens
Go talk to the principal and see what happens
Go and hold his hand everyday and see what kind of person he becomes.

We all get bullied at one point and bully at another. It is called being a kid.


Im glad the way my parents tought me to stand up for myself.

And on the karate kid point: its not the fact that you are gonna beat up everyone around you but the fact the other kids know you do karate.....will make em mellow down a bit
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well several possibilities.

1 not go down from a snowball
2 learn how to run.
3 learn how to take a blow (in this case from the snowball)
4. learn how to talk back

Yes I am very well aware that he is 6 but those little fellas are quit capable of defending themselves if YOU let them.

how many children do you have??

2. learn how to run - from where to where? its a village ffs the boy will be running for the rest of his life
3. er ok, the boy is 6!!
4. again, wtf! wind up a bully, really good move that, how to make your life worse.

Our son was bullied a bit when we first came here, a quick meeting with the teacher sorted it out, now the bully is one of his best friends.
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Old 21.01.2010, 15:31
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There not a "gang" they are just a bunch of older kids. who gives a damn.


Fine go to the police and see what happens
Go talk to the principal and see what happens
Go and hold his hand everyday and see what kind of person he becomes.

We all get bullied at one point and bully at another. It is called being a kid.


Im glad the way my parents tought me to stand up for myself.

And on the karate kid point: its not the fact that you are gonna beat up everyone around you but the fact the other kids know you do karate.....will make em mellow down a bit
Nobody is saying you should not put your kids in some kind of self defense class, I am all in favour but that is a long term solution.
Everybody was bullied? yes sometimes by a parent that does not mean it should be considered normal.
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There not a "gang" they are just a bunch of older kids. who gives a damn.


Fine go to the police and see what happens
Go talk to the principal and see what happens
Go and hold his hand everyday and see what kind of person he becomes.

We all get bullied at one point and bully at another. It is called being a kid.


Im glad the way my parents tought me to stand up for myself.

And on the karate kid point: its not the fact that you are gonna beat up everyone around you but the fact the other kids know you do karate.....will make em mellow down a bit
So you were never taught to sort out a conflict amicably? Always fight fire with fire? Not a very useful life skill outside of the playground, is it?

Parents who support a child (particularly one as young as 6) will give the child confidence that they are always there for him no matter what. What kind of message does a child get when a parent gives him a punchball or a course of martial arts lessons and tells him to learn to sort his own battles out?
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Old 21.01.2010, 15:35
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Re: My son is getting bullied at school, need some advise how to handle it, pls???

I agree with you principally, a child should know how to protect him/herself.

But what is it going to be next? 4yr olds taking kickboxing classes, because that's life? Because their parents didn't step in to protect them?

I agree that parental intervention sometimes does create more trouble and more bullying happens. But sometimes it is the oposite, you know? Especially here, a lot of kids seem genuinely respecting the authorities (teachers, parents) so if they did something so awful as they did, it is because they didn't count on that boy reporting or didn't believe in any consequences. Let's surprise those little bastids, though. I am all for nipping violence in the bud, while it is "only" bloody noses in the snow. Since if you do jack-sh*t now to make your kiddo feel ok to go to school again, it might create big problems for him later on. Training takes time. It's a good idea, though, sure.
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Re: My son is getting bullied at school, need some advise how to handle it, pls???

I'd agree that kids knowing you do martial arts does to some extent help, I did martial arts for quite a few years in my school days, but, You will always get someone who see's it as a challenge, lets go beat up the karate kid (the 2 black belts in our class both got a huge beating from a gang who saw them on tv)
And martial arts are generally only any help fighting another martial artist, street fighting is completely different and usually ends up as a bundle on the gound, not much chance to use you roundhouse kick!
It gives you a totally false sense of security
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Re: My son is getting bullied at school, need some advise how to handle it, pls???

No but self defence classes will not only help to protect yourself, it creates mainly confidence.

As I checked in the marketplace even, confidence is most feared by people....

Fight fire with fire, In this case yes cause he is 6, if anything he will prob become good friends with him cause he stood up for himself.

On another note maybe you noticed the people responding here have all been bullied and took the steps they recommend....

I have been bullied also, stepped up to the plate and guess what It stopped ...
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Old 21.01.2010, 15:42
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Re: My son is getting bullied at school, need some advise how to handle it, pls???

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So you were never taught to sort out a conflict amicably? Always fight fire with fire? Not a very useful life skill outside of the playground, is it?

Parents who support a child (particularly one as young as 6) will give the child confidence that they are always there for him no matter what. What kind of message does a child get when a parent gives him a punchball or a course of martial arts lessons and tells him to learn to sort his own battles out?
Your last point of what kind of lesson..... Isnt that the lesson someone needs the most.

I would prefer knowing that my rents are behind me in the case I could resolve it myself.... just my view
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I'd agree that kids knowing you do martial arts does to some extent help, I did martial arts for quite a few years in my school days, but, You will always get someone who see's it as a challenge, lets go beat up the karate kid (the 2 black belts in our class both got a huge beating from a gang who saw them on tv)
And martial arts are generally only any help fighting another martial artist, street fighting is completely different and usually ends up as a bundle on the gound, not much chance to use you roundhouse kick!
It gives you a totally false sense of security
Yeah, I agree. I did Kung-fu and can meditate, hold my balance, and all the other useless stuff. Could probably whack someone quite elegantly with some stick. But street fights are totally different.

My brother did Judo after he was bullied, and it was cruel for a little child. So many falls and rough hits, it was like he was beat up a few times a week in his Judo class just so he gets used to being beat up in real life...
He finally quit his Judo class after his eyes got bad and his glasses thick from falling so much. But it did create a myth amongst his peers, and mine, haha, so there is a bit of truth in it, as well.
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I have been bullied also, stepped up to the plate and guess what It stopped ...
Oh I did too and I learnt it from my mom...pushed the little rat once, accidentally made her knock herself out end of story. My mom was so proud of me, still it is nice when your parents stand up for you too.
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Oh I did too and I learnt it from my mom...pushed the little rat once, accidentally made her knock herself out end of story. My mom was so proud of me, still it is nice when your parents stand up for you too.
Very true but you have to remember also he will be with these kids in school for quit a while.....better to fix it now than to drag it along and involve teachers and things which I believe is gonna lead to more confrontation in the future...
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I'd agree that kids knowing you do martial arts does to some extent help, I did martial arts for quite a few years in my school days, but, You will always get someone who see's it as a challenge, lets go beat up the karate kid (the 2 black belts in our class both got a huge beating from a gang who saw them on tv)
And martial arts are generally only any help fighting another martial artist, street fighting is completely different and usually ends up as a bundle on the gound, not much chance to use you roundhouse kick!
It gives you a totally false sense of security
not quite true if the kids learn to be humble even if they do martial arts. It's important to tell them it's for defence and not offence.

my girl was only 2 years old when she got beaten up by 3 same age kids. The teacher said she just stood there and not fight back or saying no. She still have the scar on face even after 4 months! At home, I always teach my girl not to hit people but obviously it's wrong. Now I didn't say it anymore but i keep on reminding her to push people away and say no if she gets attacked.

I'm actually considering sending her to learn basic martial art soon. There're always aggressive kids in a class and you could hardly avoid it. Even worse, there're terrible parents not know how to teach their kids the basic manner -not beat people up. That's why we need to start teaching our kid to defend.
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Martial arts/self protection classes for kids in Switzerland ... it's enough to make you want to move back to the UK ....
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not quite true if the kids learn to be humble even if they do martial arts. It's important to tell them it's for defence and not offence.

my girl was only 2 years old when she got beaten up by 3 same age kids. The teacher said she just stood there and not fight back or saying no. She still have the scar on face even after 4 months! At home, I always teach my girl not to hit people but obviously it's wrong. Now I didn't say it anymore but i keep on reminding her to push people away and say no if she gets attacked.

I'm actually considering sending her to learn basic martial art soon. There're always aggressive kids in a class and you could hardly avoid it. Even worse, there're terrible parents not know how to teach their kids the basic manner -not beat people up. That's why we need to start teaching our kid to defend.

Do Boxing (basic) it is the best defence one.
I did it for the last 10 years and it is the best one on the street I find
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Do Boxing (basic) it is the best defence one.
I did it for the last 10 years and it is the best one on the street I find
If you are a girl and like long nails not an option Ok stop this non sense, any thign that will keep you fit is good...even running, at least could save you...lifting weights not so much.
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Do Boxing (basic) it is the best defence one.
I did it for the last 10 years and it is the best one on the street I find
Do you get involved in street fights frequently?
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Martial arts/self protection classes for kids in Switzerland ... it's enough to make you want to move back to the UK ....
Nah, they've gone onto carrying knives and guns - faff about with a karate chop over there and you've got 4 inches of steel getting acquainted with your liver...
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