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How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

Hello all

Some of you might remember me from last week. I was really down after all that happended with my wife(separation) last week but I finally decided to be pro active to change my life around.

I have managed to move out of our apartment and found a flat to share with some mature students (you know how difficult it is to get an apartment quickly here!)

I have now bought a membership to a local gym and also planning to go on a strict diet

And finally I also started to learn German so that I can mingle with the locals and make friends.

So I would like you all to share, how did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start? I am assuming most people must have had a rough start as I found that moving to a foreign country can be quite a shock at the start.
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I just got on with it.

And, strangely enough, I managed to do that without relying on the advice and sympathy of strangers on the internet...
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Old 22.03.2010, 10:04
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

I began to take a dictionary with me grocery shopping. Little thing but it made a big difference.
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Bootstraps. Pulled myself up by them.
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Old 22.03.2010, 10:07
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Congratulations!! Fitness will help you gain confidence and release endorphins for a good mood!!
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Old 22.03.2010, 10:11
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

I think you have already made some steps for the positive changes. It does not happen overnight but important is to have a right attitude and not to give up too soon.
I believe there is always a balance when one door is closed there is a new one waiting to be opened.

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Old 22.03.2010, 10:18
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I just got on with it.

And, strangely enough, I managed to do that without relying on the advice and sympathy of strangers on the internet...
Sometimes people are not strong enough to manage it by themselves They need a shoulder to cry on even if it's a stranger's shoulder. I think few cheerful posts will make a difference and knowing that there were positive experiences will also help.

I also had tough times (like anyone else I suppose) and did manage to go through mostly on my own but looking back I would not mind to get some moral support from the strangers. Surprisingly they tend to look from different angle which helps to access the situation.
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Old 22.03.2010, 10:26
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

Spent a week in Christiania. Best vaca ever. Heading back for the 20th of April
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This Christiania?
Small wonder you felt better ...
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Old 22.03.2010, 10:38
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

Kulchandra, the fact that you are moving forward with the right attitude is such a positive step.
You have new accomodation, etc so instead of wallowing in self pity you have taken the decision to look ahead and I am sure all will be fine. In no time you will feel that actually, life is good here, and you will feel happier in your new circumstances. Best of luck
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

Also Kulchandra, make sure you join in a bunch of activities through sites like this and glocals.com etc.

If you can get involved with a mix of expats and Swiss folk, so much the better.

Are you learning German at a school? That's also a great way to meet people 'in the same boat' arrival/life-wise.
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

I MET the right people in the wrong place
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I just got on with it.

And, strangely enough, I managed to do that without relying on the advice and sympathy of strangers on the internet...
I think a little compassion may be in order.

Good for you at being so quick to find a new apartment and start learning German. You're also lucky you've got the good weather on your side. I think you'll be fine. Maybe it's time you should start building friendships with real people in your life, as opposed to coming to the forum with your intimate problems.
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

Nice how people give advice, The Forum is made for people to help each other no differnce where exactly the problem lies
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Well, if you chaps want to believe this troll's ever changing drivel, please be my guest.

I'll save my compassion for those who aren't taking advantage of the goodwill of the forum.
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Well, if you chaps want to believe this troll's ever changing drivel, please be my guest.

I'll save my compassion for those who aren't taking advantage of the goodwill of the forum.
I don't really care. I would feel bad if he was real, and really did break up etc. And I would feel just as bad for his pathertic existence if it was just made up. It's not even very original, and theres no humour it it and I don't see where the thrill factor should lie.

I was just pulling the compassion line because its what you said about the Canadian girl who was whining about Switzerland.
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Well, if you chaps want to believe this troll's ever changing drivel, please be my guest.

I'll save my compassion for those who aren't taking advantage of the goodwill of the forum.
Please stop accusing me of being a troll. If you think I am fake then you shouldn't waste your valuable time posting in my thread.
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

I absorbed the Swiss attitude to financial management and developed an aversion to debt having come from credit happy Britain.

I drink about half as much as I did in London.
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Re: How did you make a positive change to your life in Switzerland after a bad start?

I'm a firm believer in that if you want to make a positive change in your life anywhere, not just here in Switzerland that the first place to begin is inside - to look at yourself and analyze your own behavior.

You can go on a diet, you can go to the gym and you can amuse yourself with lots of activity - all good things but you can also fill your life with lots of activity and never really understand yourself, which is such an opportunity lost. What I'm saying is don't busy yourself with so much activity that it's an excuse to not think about what is happening and changes that you want to make in your life. You can get ideas from others but ultimately you have to pursue what you are comfortable with.

I didn't read the thread about the details of your separation kulchandra and I don't know if some of the troll-like behavior you might have engaged in on the forum (you do have a number of groans and red blobs) is due to your marital difficulties and using the board to act it out but separating from your spouse is a big thing and is something that can leave scars on you and leave you feeling very much alone regardless of who left who.

I guess what I am taking the long way around saying is to devote some time to being quiet so that you can hear yourself think about what you want to do.
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