Oh it's in German .... then nothing for me.

Very funny I have to point out that I did not say "happy ending" however funny it would have been if I did

Nil, I dont go out to the pub to try to find someone to marry
Anyone that does is only going to be disappointed

Yeah my german is also not that great! I guess it could be an adventure though - improve my speaking skills

On the contrary, it would work perfectly

You're right. Like most of the girls I know don't go to a speed dating to get laid. You don't have to do that much effort for that, a bar is enough!

Do a survey instead. Wear sexy clothes with a deep decolte and see how many guys you can catch without 1 word of german!

Good point - Nil, just a mid-week drink at the Carlton is enough for that haha!

Nah expectations are clear - im not looking for the man I marry but making one new contact in a completly different circle of friends could be enough I guess! Who knew it would be so difficult!! :|

You don´t even have to go that far, just turn up, bring beer.

Does nobody see the irony in the irony with the reasons women often seem to provide to not picking up?

"I don't like meeting men at a club, all they want to do is get you into bed. I don't even know them"

Yet the concept of speed dating is ............ ?


It's the old fashioned way for me or not at all.

When you meet someone for the first time, you should know if you are interested in them or not. It's called "A first impression", sure you only get one of those, but no different to whatever this speed dating is.

I have this adventurous experience... and what I have learned out of it, is, always date a person with whom you can communicate good and easy... in spite of being busy in formulating a new hand symbol to ask her whether she wants a coffee or a tea

Well, the typical expat event in Zurich is not unlike speed dating. You spend 2-5 minutes giving your boring intro spiel repeatedly to about 20+ people.

Sadly, nowadays it got a bit more complicated. People don't have much time, or have many friends with an husband and kids so they get less and less people to get introduce to from their circles. Also when you are in a different country and don't speak well the language and where they have a reputation to not be ''open'' to foreigners it makes it way more complicated...

The old fashion way would be maybe the best way but not necessary the most practical one depending on where you are in your life...

I would definitely do it for fun. Go there and pretend I have a stammering problem.

Yeah, that'd be a riot.

Just imagine, though, you really fancy someone there and he does not pick you..It's gona bug the hell out of you, maybe. Or being turned down, repeatedly, must make people feel weird. I think, good conversationalists and attractive folks have a decent chance, otherwise why not sign up to some activity, where you meet interesting folks, it is not so forced, you end up learning something new and practice your German instead? I think people just need to be more active socially, not necessarily speed date, but that's just me. As I said in a dif thread, I have friends who benefited, made them more open, confident, gave them options, but they were impossible hermits to start with, so..

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Only if you plan 6 months in advance and are home with your lights turned off by 10pm

Well honestly, i think i am reasonable attractive, I have many friends, very chatty, bubbly, sociable etc.. I go out at least 3-4 times a week - aannnndddd I am still single so not sure what this says about me

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Speed dating seems a bit shallow. Some of us need a bit more than five minutes with someone to work out if things are going anywhere.

A friend of mine went to a speed dating event in London and wrote in his intro (these were available for people to read before actually sitting down face-to-face) that he was some kind of aristocratic fencer. Imagine his surprise when he was faced with an actual aristocratic fencer and had to parry awkard questions about whether he'd known Annabel from Millfield's team.