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Why not accelerate the whole thing with a pre-screening questionnaire? You know, the sort of thing that will separate the weed from the chafe...
Do you know where to buy brown sugar?

What is the recipe for making self-raising flour?

Can I survive on XXX in YYY?

Do you like fondue?

Is the speed provided, or were we meant to bring our own?
or maybe have a "dating on speed" night instead. You only get 5 minutes with each person but your likely to say a whole nights worth of conversation in that period.
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So a friend of mine proposed we try speed dating! My first thought 'Ahhhh - no way!!' however after thinking about it a little bit I am considering it.

I have never tried anything like that before, but as its coming up to 2 years of being single maybe its time to try some new things!

Just wondering what you guys thought!
thanks. this thread kept me entertained for the entire train journey

re: speed dating, i was told it was full of desperate, geeky, shy and commitmophobic people. i think it would be fun to chat to random people, even more funny for me since my german is so bad.

but if you keep going to certain places (you know which ones!), you can't be surprised that you find only purveyors of meat

for a friend, i would be happy to offer you a free consultation.
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Re: Speed-dating - thoughts?

Someone told me the best way to meet someone of the opposite sex here is at Church (you don't have to be religious to go). There are often very comely women at the English speaking churches here, such as this one http://www.englishmission.ch/ and they are often expats in similar situations.
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Someone told me the best way to meet someone of the opposite sex here is at Church (you don't have to be religious to go). .
Oh No........ You can't be serious ?
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Someone told me the best way to meet someone of the opposite sex here is at Church (you don't have to be religious to go). There are often very comely women at the English speaking churches here, such as this one http://www.englishmission.ch/ and they are often expats in similar situations.
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Someone told me the best way to meet someone of the opposite sex here is at Church (you don't have to be religious to go). There are often very comely women at the English speaking churches here, such as this one http://www.englishmission.ch/ and they are often expats in similar situations.
If you are not religious, you should never target "Holy Pie".... It's just immoral.
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Someone told me the best way to meet someone of the opposite sex here is at Church (you don't have to be religious to go). There are often very comely women at the English speaking churches here, such as this one http://www.englishmission.ch/ and they are often expats in similar situations.

No way!! Haha this is definitly not for me!! But if anyone else out there follows this advice id love to know the results!!
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but if you keep going to certain places (you know which ones!), you can't be surprised that you find only purveyors of meat

for a friend, i would be happy to offer you a free consultation.
Haha, Phil boo you know me too well I know you are right but said places are just too much fun to stop visiting I love my mid week dancing session haha!!
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Old 14.10.2010, 13:15
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Also, a good point Dan But yes I think 'that' person does exist here in Switzerland - or at least i very much hope so as I have no intention of leaving here any time soon but I take your point supermarket browsing it is!!

Ps: Really is it too much to ask for a guy, 27-38, good looking, financially stable, well educated, taller than 5ft 8", dark hair, blue eyes, active, tanned skin, good dancer, has a chalet in the mountains, good sense of humour, caring, likes to travel, a bit of an extrovert, probably a bit arrogant, owns his own house, has a dog, has a boat on Zurich lake, who speaks more than 2 languages?? - honestly i dont think I ask for much
I know that was supposed to be a bit cheeky BUT I'm thinking that "owns his own house" is something you will have a VERY hard time finding here in Switzerland - at least from what I've read.

Meanwhile, I think the concept of speed dating is "alright".. a chance to chat for a couple minutes with someone when otherwise one or the other of you might find the other too intimidating to straight up approach.

In regular situations (be it an event of some type or a night at the pub), many people don't just walk up to someone and start talking, particularly since they tend to have a friend or two with them so it's not even just a matter of being comfortable with yourself enough to talk to someone.

Speed date cuts through that hassle... you don't have to worry about a "wing man" to talk to the friend, it's one on one but shorter.

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Someone told me the best way to meet someone of the opposite sex here is at Church (you don't have to be religious to go). There are often very comely women at the English speaking churches here, such as this one http://www.englishmission.ch/ and they are often expats in similar situations.

My grandmothers tried to get me to go to church to meet guys too...

Turns out, my hubby is just as disinterested in the Catholic Church as I am so even if we had lived in the same country at the time, I'd never have met him at church anyhow.



So far as meeting people in general goes, I guess I am sometimes too bold, at least within my areas of comfort.

I was behind a guy in Migros who was having difficulty understanding the amount the cashier was telling him his bill came to, he asked her to repeat it in French and she gave him a blank look. *I* reached over and turned the digital readout thing to position it where he could see it (dumb cashier didn't think of it ) and wound up chatting with the guy as he'd walked slowly when he left, waiting for me and he asked my number and such.

It was a 5 or 10 min chat before we went our separate ways, long enough to know he'd be interesting to talk to again, if I weren't married.



Finally, as MusicChick said, I think sometimes it is a matter of not recognizing when there is interest. Even if it isn't a "romantic" interest, sometimes people are curious and interested in you and who knows who they know that might work out for you.
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No way!! Haha this is definitly not for me!! But if anyone else out there follows this advice id love to know the results!!
it has nothing to do with religion. Church (or any other organized social activity that is not based on meeting the opposite sex) gives people a neutral platform to interact without pretenses. This allows getting to know another person better without sexual inuendo, or "I am only talking to you because I want to know if you are a potential sexual partner" which is precisely what speed dating is. I mention English-speaking Church here only because this thread is focused on meeting other like-minded English speakers, and that is one of the few organized activities that involve mainly English speaking expats here in Switzerland (outside of this crazy forum). I do not go to church by the way, I find it boring (and I am already married anyway).
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Re: Speed-dating - thoughts?

Where the heck do they have speed dating in CH?
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Re: Speed-dating - thoughts?

In the face of all the pisstaking, I'm going to support Karl's suggestion that churches are good places to meet people: you get all kinds of people going to church and church related events, from the seriously pious to those who are there mainly for the social side of things. They tend to be very diverse in terms of ethnicity and nationality, which always makes things interesting, and, best of all, nobody is pretending to be "cool": people are just down to earth, friendly and decent.

I was advised to join a church when I first moved here, and I, too, sneered at the suggestion. Just shows how much of a bigot I was, really.

Of course, if you don't go, you'll never know...

Anyway, back to speed dating...
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it has nothing to do with religion. Church (or any other organized social activity that is not based on meeting the opposite sex) gives people a neutral platform to interact without pretenses. This allows getting to know another person better without sexual inuendo, or "I am only talking to you because I want to know if you are a potential sexual partner" which is precisely what speed dating is. I mention English-speaking Church here only because this thread is focused on meeting other like-minded English speakers, and that is one of the few organized activities that involve mainly English speaking expats here in Switzerland (outside of this crazy forum). I do not go to church by the way, I find it boring (and I am already married anyway).

Well, here's the thing about going to church to meet people even though one isn't religious...

Chances are, they are religious. Nothing like setting yourself up for future issues about what, for many, is a very touchy subject.


Rather than church, a better idea (which I believe has been touched on in this thread and I know has been touched on in other, similar, threads) is to get involved in something you are truly interested in and simply meet people you'd like to socialize with through that.

You like to cook? Take or give cooking classes or join something like The Grub Club.

You like to read? Join or start a book club.

You like to ski? Join or host a skiing group.

You like computer and / or video games? Start a group to discuss various games coming out and pros and cons of various rigs and consoles.

You like specific movie genre? Start a movie group to meet up to view and then discuss those sorts of movies.


The best way to meet someone with whom you'll be happy is to meet someone who is happy to do similar things you enjoy. Of course, you want SOME freedom too so each of you having some separate interests as well is important BUT for a "jumping off point," why not start with shared interests.

If you don't like going to the pub, why would you want to meet someone at the pub? Chances are you'll either a. be bored going back to the pub with them or b. be jealous when they go to the pub without you, knowing that's how they met you.
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Chances are, they are religious.
I wouldn't put money on that, you know.
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Well, here's the thing about going to church to meet people even though one isn't religious...

Chances are, they are religious. Nothing like setting yourself up for future issues about what, for many, is a very touchy subject.
Exactlky. I can't think of anything worse (in terms of the subject matter at hand) than joining a church group when you have zero interest in religion... it's just odd. There are plenty of other social activities that put the opposite sex in one room without the added pressure of worrying about any religious views you may or may not share. Just... why?
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There are plenty of other social activities that put the opposite sex in one room without the added pressure of worrying about any religious views you may or may not share. Just... why?
Overdramatic, much?
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Well, I went out with one very religious girl for 2 years, and had a couple of dates with girls who were less religious but still enough to bring it into the conversation. It never ends particularly well, and always come sup eventually even if its not on the initial meet. I can't imagine there are too many people who go to church meets who aren't religious in some way.
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Gold star for Karl. I haven't seen or heard the word 'comely' used in at least a decade.
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Exactlky. I can't think of anything worse (in terms of the subject matter at hand) than joining a church group when you have zero interest in religion... it's just odd. There are plenty of other social activities that put the opposite sex in one room without the added pressure of worrying about any religious views you may or may not share. Just... why?
I agree to be honest, I wouldnt feel at all comfortable in a church setting - have you sinned my child? - hmmm yes lots! Not for me like I said, but it might work for some other less sinful people than I
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