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Old 21.11.2010, 18:14
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There's a contact who'd like to meet up.

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Any trick question to find out if he's a weirdo or a decent person?
Take him to an EF event and he'll get a few stern looks if he tries anything funny
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Old 21.11.2010, 18:28
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Depends which one it is. If it's the straight-talking kind, don't EVER put face pics up. Ever, ever, ever. Only send face pictures once you got one from him.
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I found my partner on line, I had my photo online & I only bothered with people that had photos. There was always a good reason for no photo, ugly as hell!
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Old 21.11.2010, 19:12
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I found my partner on line, I had my photo online & I only bothered with people that had photos. There was always a good reason for no photo, ugly as hell!
what?? no avatar???
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Old 21.11.2010, 19:34
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It might filter out some wierdos, but actually it might also just disadvantage those who are no good on the phone. I don't buy that 'sounds-good-on-phone' = 'definitely not wierdo' and vice-versa.
Me neither... in fact i'd find it a bit off to talk to someone (in this context) on the phone that i'd never met in real life. Meeting someone in person is the only real way to get the measure of someone and see if there's any chemistry there.
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Hi,

I found my partner on line, I had my photo online & I only bothered with people that had photos. There was always a good reason for no photo, ugly as hell!
Note the "depends on the site". Normal dating site, no problem, more open-minded site - potentially an issue. Oh and some people don't have photos on dating sites because they are not in a position to be seen on such a site. Because, for instance, they are well-known.
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I'll throw www.okcupid.com into the ring.
I know I could just sign up to check, but isn't this popular mainly in the US?
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Old 22.11.2010, 13:24
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Hi,

I found my partner on line, I had my photo online & I only bothered with people that had photos. There was always a good reason for no photo, ugly as hell!
yeah. not sure i'd want my photo on a dating website. what i liked about the site i used was that there were chat rooms, so you could have a bit of banter first as a filter and then, since most do not have photos on there, you can then verify through webcam chat.

photos on dating website are notorious for being out of date or 'deceptive' but the webcam is brutal.
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Nooooooo c'mon!
I know, I know... but past midnite there are no guarantees. Any guy at that hour on the blueballs (not that funfair in Zurich) is more likely to come across as a weirdo.

What I dont understand is women like weirdos once they are in a relationship, then why not be open about it from the start?

Lot of Bankers and other high flying professionals are into "weirdo" stuff, so better not miss out on them, I'd say!

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Which website was that again?
This site, this thread is going quite well in that direction

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There's a contact who'd like to meet up.

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1. What information should I ask of him before agreeing to a date?
I've got the general stuff like family status, hobbies, etc. Any trick question to find out if he's a weirdo or a decent person?
Nothing can prepare you or filter out, against a sufficiently talented weirdo, so just let it be. Try to talk over the phone and skype (no nude stuff ok) just to get a feel for the person so you guys feel a bit more comfortable when you meet up. If you dont really fancy him, then you can just say "Im looking for a husband and want to get married asap, as all my friends are married"

Anyway, how do you define a "weirdo" or a psychopath? We are all your reguler everyday folks.

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yeah. not sure i'd want my photo on a dating website. what i liked about the site i used was that there were chat rooms, so you could have a bit of banter first as a filter and then, since most do not have photos on there, you can then verify through webcam chat.

photos on dating website are notorious for being out of date or 'deceptive' but the webcam is brutal.
Just go for the "exhibitionsists" they would not even ask you for your webcam
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Old 22.11.2010, 19:23
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As I said though, I am sure that the experience is different for men and women. I know a number of women who have had success with these sorts of sites, just don't know very many men who have.
and who would you imply these women were having success with ...?
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Old 22.11.2010, 19:29
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Also bear in mind (guys make note) that if a woman is not interested she will just ignore you, not respond but if one does make an effort to send "no thank you" all she means is "try harder."
So you've been single for a long time, eh?
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So you've been single for a long time, eh?

"Its complicated, I'll tell you later"
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Old 23.11.2010, 12:36
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and who would you imply these women were having success with ...?
Well, from my observation, there are a few guys all the women want to date and a few that none want to date.
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Old 28.11.2010, 13:47
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Re: Best Dating Websites

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Have politely declined meeting two possible contacts.

One was a very nice gentleman who could only speak English (I'm looking for a bilingual German / English or German only partner) and the other man (German speaking) sent me a picture of himself and his two children which, although very touching, was just too much info for me at this time.

And, just to mention, all contacts who are looking for a sexual adventure are politely requested to look elsewhere.

I've asked a number of men to be friends but most don't seem to be interested and just ignore it. I get more feedback when sending a "heartbeat" than a "friendship" symbol.

The search goes on. Guess I'd like start with friendship and have it grow into something. Don't want to put the cart before the horse.
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Update:

Have politely declined meeting two possible contacts.

One was a very nice gentleman who could only speak English (I'm looking for a bilingual German / English or German only partner) and the other man (German speaking) sent me a picture of himself and his two children which, although very touching, was just too much info for me at this time.

And, just to mention, all contacts who are looking for a sexual adventure are politely requested to look elsewhere.

I've asked a number of men to be friends but most don't seem to be interested and just ignore it. I get more feedback when sending a "heartbeat" than a "friendship" symbol.

The search goes on. Guess I'd like start with friendship and have it grow into something. Don't want to put the cart before the horse.
surely the english speaker could learn german? as for friendship - not sure what website you're on, but if a dating website, then i guess most people are after more than just friends. nice to hear the update though
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Old 28.11.2010, 15:29
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Re: Best Dating Websites

One advice - do not throw anybody away only because he doesn't fit the ideal image to 100%. Nobody ever does. And if he does, you just don't know him/her good enough
'Vibes' as mentioned are important, but you can't feel them from email/messages.
I did give a chance to lady few years back, even when she was something else than I expected. But there was mutual sympathy... and at the end, she changed my life so much, everything in positive direction.

The sad point - she dumped me 2 days ago, after 3.5 years. I am here in CH breaking through, building 'nest', while she's finishing her PHD studies back home. I guess the current separation was too much for her. Hell it was hard for me, and I am a man.
We made together 6 months of trekking and travelling through india & nepal. Experience that would break many working marriages (24/7 together for more than month-weird things start to happen, compromising etc). But even these kind of shared experiences weren't enough.
So everybody, get out and buy a flower for Your lady and tell how much You love her. Trust me, it's worth it

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Does someone has experience with Smartdate or Badoo ?
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I know quite a lot of women that have had success through these sites but don't really know any men that have. Just my experience.
I`m not great at maths, but shouldn`t there be some sort of 1:1 success rate going on here? Unless there are a lot of woman happily matched up with a lot of unhappy men.
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I`m not great at maths, but shouldn`t there be some sort of 1:1 success rate going on here? Unless there are a lot of woman happily matched up with a lot of unhappy men.
Not really. Older women and younger men are marginalized.
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Update:

Have politely declined meeting two possible contacts.

One was a very nice gentleman who could only speak English (I'm looking for a bilingual German / English or German only partner) and the other man (German speaking) sent me a picture of himself and his two children which, although very touching, was just too much info for me at this time.

And, just to mention, all contacts who are looking for a sexual adventure are politely requested to look elsewhere.

I've asked a number of men to be friends but most don't seem to be interested and just ignore it. I get more feedback when sending a "heartbeat" than a "friendship" symbol.

The search goes on. Guess I'd like start with friendship and have it grow into something. Don't want to put the cart before the horse.
Maybe you would be more successful with the "Friends with benefits" approach.
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Update:

Have politely declined meeting two possible contacts.

One was a very nice gentleman who could only speak English (I'm looking for a bilingual German / English or German only partner) and the other man (German speaking) sent me a picture of himself and his two children which, although very touching, was just too much info for me at this time.

And, just to mention, all contacts who are looking for a sexual adventure are politely requested to look elsewhere.

I've asked a number of men to be friends but most don't seem to be interested and just ignore it. I get more feedback when sending a "heartbeat" than a "friendship" symbol.

The search goes on. Guess I'd like start with friendship and have it grow into something. Don't want to put the cart before the horse.
To be honest I think you're going to be looking for quite some time... turning guys away because they're not bilingual. Stop being a fuddy duddy with all these friendship requests (men don't go on dating sites to make friends, they want to chase and romance) and just get out there and meet people already. This may then make your updates a bit more interesting.

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