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Old 29.11.2010, 09:06
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Hi,

I found my partner on line, I had my photo online & I only bothered with people that had photos. There was always a good reason for no photo, ugly as hell!
Did the website dates (blind dates ) for a while.
Some were fun and are good friends now, others are never to be seen again

I found my girlfriend at work, and works well for the last 7 years

But back to your line " no photo, ugly as hell "
Stumbled accross this one earlier on, a dating site for "ugly "people.. how do you define yourself ugly then?

They say " real dating for real people " on http://www.theuglybugball.com/

* note , i am not affiliated with the site above, i may be ugly
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Old 29.11.2010, 20:55
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To be honest I think you're going to be looking for quite some time... turning guys away because they're not bilingual. Stop being a fuddy duddy with all these friendship requests ...
yeah, do tell Olygirl... I'm curious. What's with the bilingual thing?
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To be honest I think you're going to be looking for quite some time... turning guys away because they're not bilingual. Stop being a fuddy duddy with all these friendship requests (men don't go on dating sites to make friends, they want to chase and romance) and just get out there and meet people already. This may then make your updates a bit more interesting.
Well, if I was looking for something serious I'd want the guy to understand English and another language. Doesn't have to be fluent in it but enough to hold a conversation. My sister's boyfriend speaks almost no English and he really struggled with our relatives in England, same with a boyfriend I used to have, who really struggled with my French-speaking relatives. Not that bothered about the French, to be honest but if, for whatever reason I have kids against all odds, I want them to grow up speaking three languages like I did, there are so many advantages to this. Speaking several languages also often correlates with good education, another "must have" for me.

So yes, really picky and probably to stay single for a while. But - it has become apparent to me that many men struggle with a partner that has a certain advantage over them in some areas, very few are those who are proud to have a wife that is more educated / successful / whatever than they are. And I'm not talking because you rub it in their faces, I spent an entire year with this guy always being careful not to use "long words" or start complicated discussions, as he would get angry and accuse me of making him feel stupid. I don't want to be in that situation ever again.
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Old 29.11.2010, 23:21
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Fair enough Kittster

You do make some valid points....
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Old 30.11.2010, 09:56
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Re: Best Dating Websites

I was a member in some dating websites. Still have that account although i dont use it. Anyway. Its funny how many messages i receive that start with hello baby or hello sweetheart and say how beautiful i am when i have no pics on the profile and my description is something like "Im tall" :P
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I spent an entire year with this guy always being careful not to use "long words" or start complicated discussions, as he would get angry and accuse me of making him feel stupid. I don't want to be in that situation ever again.
So I take it English wasn't his first language?
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Old 30.11.2010, 10:19
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Well, if I was looking for something serious I'd want the guy to understand English and another language. Doesn't have to be fluent in it but enough to hold a conversation. My sister's boyfriend speaks almost no English and he really struggled with our relatives in England, same with a boyfriend I used to have, who really struggled with my French-speaking relatives. Not that bothered about the French, to be honest but if, for whatever reason I have kids against all odds, I want them to grow up speaking three languages like I did, there are so many advantages to this. Speaking several languages also often correlates with good education, another "must have" for me.

So yes, really picky and probably to stay single for a while. But - it has become apparent to me that many men struggle with a partner that has a certain advantage over them in some areas, very few are those who are proud to have a wife that is more educated / successful / whatever than they are. And I'm not talking because you rub it in their faces, I spent an entire year with this guy always being careful not to use "long words" or start complicated discussions, as he would get angry and accuse me of making him feel stupid. I don't want to be in that situation ever again.
My Husband speak German, English and Turkish (his parents only german and turkish)

I speak French, English and Turkish. (muy parents only french with a bit of english)

I can communicate with his parents, but he needs me to talk to my parents. Who cares if he doesn't speak french? My mother and him are pretty good to understand each other and have a great relationship (better when you don't understand everything, believe me)

My daughter is 2 and speak and understand 4 languages.

As long as to 2 persons in the relationship understand each other, this is the only thing that really matter. The rest will come.
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As long as to 2 persons in the relationship understand each other, this is the only thing that really matter. The rest will come.
I want to highlight this part, because it's the most important thing.

And it's not only about language.....
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Old 30.11.2010, 11:41
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Re: Best Dating Websites

Hi! Half my world is in English and the other half is in Swiss German. Both worlds are important to me and I'd like my next partner to be at home in both. Kittster summed it up quite nicely for me.

Very appreciative of all your comments. Thanks!
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So I take it English wasn't his first language?
He was a Swiss plumber, so him not speaking much English is pretty normal. But then I speak Swiss German so it didn't matter that much.
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He was a Swiss plumber, so him not speaking much English is pretty normal. But then I speak Swiss German so it didn't matter that much.
I was just curious about your apparent correlation between speaking a second language, and intelligence. I know many intelligent people who can speak only English, and i'm not quite sure that speaking only one language has a direct affect on your ability to understand complicated words or topics. It sounds like your ex just wasn't particularly bright.
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I was just curious about your apparent correlation between speaking a second language, and intelligence. I know many intelligent people who can speak only English, and i'm not quite sure that speaking only one language has a direct affect on your ability to understand complicated words or topics. It sounds like your ex just wasn't particularly bright.
I can only speak english but my mum says I'm a bit thick.
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I was just curious about your apparent correlation between speaking a second language, and intelligence. I know many intelligent people who can speak only English, and i'm not quite sure that speaking only one language has a direct affect on your ability to understand complicated words or topics. It sounds like your ex just wasn't particularly bright.
Ok, I say that from a Swiss perspective, most educated people speak at least two languages here. And to be honest, if you are living in this country for any length of time, it's just common sense to learn one of the local languages.
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Ok, I say that from a Swiss perspective, most educated people speak at least two languages here. And to be honest, if you are living in this country for any length of time, it's just common sense to learn one of the local languages.
Ok I get you, but for many ex-pats don't come from multi-lingual countries (Americans, UK etc) where second and third languages are nurtured as children. Language comes in time, and I wouldn't discount a potential match because of that one facet when they might otherwise be perfect for you... and you do speak perfect English yourself so it shouldn't be a deal-breaker.
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Ok I get you, but for many ex-pats don't come from multi-lingual countries (Americans, UK etc) where second and third languages are nurtured as children. Language comes in time, and I wouldn't discount a potential match because of that one facet when they might otherwise be perfect for you... and you do speak perfect English yourself so it shouldn't be a deal-breaker.
Sure, some people are also not very good at language learning, I understand that, but a lot of expats make no effort whatsoever.
But then I'm not looking for a relationship, so this discussion is purely academic.
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What's with these men that have posted bare-chested, almost homo-erotic pictures of themselves but are looking for women? It seems kind of creepy but maybe I'm being naive? Are they trying to market themselves as sexy?
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What's with these men that have posted bare-chested, almost homo-erotic pictures of themselves but are looking for women? It seems kind of creepy but maybe I'm being naive? Are they trying to market themselves as sexy?
How old are you kid? Does your parents know you are on the internet?
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22, living above the cows in a bed made of straw and just got my first computer.
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22, living above the cows in a bed made of straw and just got my first computer.
Ok, now Im not sure whether to teach you about how to use a computer or the "date" thing, you know about the birds and the bees, even the cows and the bull, but have to start from somewhere.

Now these (bad bad) men have post their bare chested pictures for the same reasom some (actually a lot of) women post their pictures in bikinis and negligees, lips parted, head thrown back, hands clasped on their front, making a S shape etc etc. Now do you hear any grown up (even kids nowadays) complain about those pictures being homo-erotic? Infact they will not complain even if they are, but thats another discussion.

If you don't find them attractive (or just denying in public) then they are not for you. Look for some nice farm boy in red chequered shirt, buttoned up to his throat and dark blue jeans and muddy boots.

If you do manage to find a date, then we can continue with the next chapter or lesson.
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What's with these men that have posted bare-chested, almost homo-erotic pictures of themselves but are looking for women? It seems kind of creepy but maybe I'm being naive? Are they trying to market themselves as sexy?
It's just harmless projection. "I like to look at scantily-clad female bodies therefore women like to look at scantily-clad male bodies. I'll show them mine and it will attract them."

I'll bet on harmless/clueless.
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