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Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

I'm just about to head to my child's school to have a talk with the principal. I expect that the teacher should admit her fault and apologise to my son.

Anyone else have experience with a teacher physically abusing their child?

If I'm not satisfied with how it goes this afternoon, I'll be writing a letter to the Kreisschulpflege. I might do that anyways, to have this on record.

She pulled his hair so hard that he fell down. He says it's the hardest his hair has ever been pulled, that it hurt very much and he was scared.
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Old 07.12.2017, 14:31
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Take a friend. Emotions are likely to rise and a local friend will help find a calm resolution.
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I'm just about to head to my child's school to have a talk with the principal. I expect that the teacher should admit her fault and apologise to my son.

Anyone else have experience with a teacher physically abusing their child?

If I'm not satisfied with how it goes this afternoon, I'll be writing a letter to the Kreisschulpflege. I might do that anyways, to have this on record.

She pulled his hair so hard that he fell down. He says it's the hardest his hair has ever been pulled, that it hurt very much and he was scared.
I presume you've had your boys story verified? If not, you could be about to make an ass of yourself.
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Old 07.12.2017, 14:39
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I'm just about to head to my child's school to have a talk with the principal. I expect that the teacher should admit her fault and apologise to my son.

Anyone else have experience with a teacher physically abusing their child?

If I'm not satisfied with how it goes this afternoon, I'll be writing a letter to the Kreisschulpflege. I might do that anyways, to have this on record.

She pulled his hair so hard that he fell down. He says it's the hardest his hair has ever been pulled, that it hurt very much and he was scared.
Teachers who physically abuse their students in any way will be threatened with being fired or will be fired. This is a serious matter so please treat it as such.

What I find odd about the situation is the above sentence in bold. Who else has been pulling his hair? Is this a typical punishment for him?

I sense there's more to the story than just the hair pulling.

Good luck.
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Old 07.12.2017, 15:03
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I'm just about to head to my child's school to have a talk with the principal. I expect that the teacher should admit her fault and apologise to my son.

Anyone else have experience with a teacher physically abusing their child?

If I'm not satisfied with how it goes this afternoon, I'll be writing a letter to the Kreisschulpflege. I might do that anyways, to have this on record.

She pulled his hair so hard that he fell down. He says it's the hardest his hair has ever been pulled, that it hurt very much and he was scared.
This is just half the story. what was the said punishment for? what did your boy do? I am not trying to justify the act of the teacher, just trying to understand the motive. Sometimes things happen with an uncontrollable reflex.
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Old 07.12.2017, 15:25
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Re: Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

Just call his teacher and confront him/her with the story.
Based on the result, you can think about the next steps.
At least, this is what i would do.
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Re: Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

It's good you're going to speak with the principal and not the teacher herself.

Just remember the principal didn't pull your child's hair and you need to give him/her time to investigate exactly what happened.

Follow all school conversations/meetings with a short, polite email summarizing what was said, action to be taken and when they will get back to you.
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Re: Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

Why skip the teacher?
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Just call his teacher and confront him/her with the story.
Based on the result, you can think about the next steps.
At least, this is what i would do.


This!
As others said you just have the word of your son and don't know any background.
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Re: Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

My daughter's primary school teacher slapped one of her class across the face in the middle of a lesson. I believe she was put on sabbatical for a year.
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My daughter's primary school teacher slapped one of her class across the face in the middle of a lesson. I believe she was put on sabbatical for a year.
makes me want to be a teacher and slap a kid every year...
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Why skip the teacher?
Because if the teacher, an adult, actually did pull a child's hair, it's a very serious matter.. and the Principal of the school has a duty of care to protect and keep kids safe. It is her/his job, therefore, to deal with it asap in an official capacity once the parents have informed him/her of all the details.

If the teacher is a nutter, or lost the plot, why would you want to have a conversation with them? You need to let the principal do his job.
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Because if the teacher, an adult, actually did pull a child's hair, it's a very serious matter.. and the Principal of the school has a duty of care to protect and keep kids safe. It is her/his job, therefore, to deal with it asap in an official capacity once the parents have informed him/her of all the details.

If the teacher is a nutter, or lost the plot, why would you want to have a conversation with them? You need to let the principal do his job.
Not to mention that if the teacher hadn't contacted the parent(s) themselves immediately after the fact, then chances are they're probably not going to grasp (or admit) the severity of the situation.
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Re: Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

Hi Everyone,

Thank you for your replies.

This happened in Handicraft class. During class, there is a "chill-out" break where the kids can do what they want. The large tables in the classroom have a shelf underneath them, which the kids are not supposed to rest their feet on.

Apparently many of the children were resting their feet on the shelf, and my son had gone under the table and was lying on the shelf. The teacher came and pulled him by his hair so hard that he fell off the shelf.

Regarding his comment that it was the "hardest his hair has ever been pulled", I just asked him and he said that his sister used to pull his hair when they were younger. No other kids or teachers have ever pulled his hair.

I spoke with the principal, and he said it is usual to speak with the teacher first rather than him, but she is not there this afternoon. He will speak with her and then he will be in contact with me.

I think it's important that the principal knows about this incident, in case it is or becomes a pattern with this teacher. If she's pulling kids' hair every now and then, and the parents only ever speak to her directly, no one will really be aware that it's a pattern of behavior.

I won't write a letter to anyone at this time, but if something like this happens again with her, I will write it up.

Only one thing concerned me about speaking with the principal; my son pointed out that she should have told him first to get off the shelf, instead of immediately resorting to pulling his hair, and the principal said, "Maybe she did say it and you didn't listen." To me, there is no excuse to resort to physical violence. There is no situation where a child "deserves" to have their hair pulled. The teacher is supposed to set a good example for the children about how to resolve conflicts without physical violence.
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Hi Everyone,

Thank you for your replies.

This happened in Handicraft class. During class, there is a "chill-out" break where the kids can do what they want. The large tables in the classroom have a shelf underneath them, which the kids are not supposed to rest their feet on.

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Only one thing concerned me about speaking with the principal; my son pointed out that she should have told him first to get off the shelf, instead of immediately resorting to pulling his hair

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Most likely all kids involved already knew of the "don't touch the shelf" policy so they all knew they were in the wrong.

Teacher f*kd up big time, but Render To Caesar What Is Caesar's
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Most likely all kids involved already knew of the "don't touch the shelf" policy so they all knew they were in the wrong.

Render To Caesar What Is Caesar's
They deserved a bollocking, not an act of physical violence.
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Re: Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

yes, I'm sure that he and the other kids knew they weren't supposed to be doing that. They're 8 years old, and my son's class is notoriously difficult. I can imagine she was at the end of her patience. But kids need good discipline, so they can learn to make better decisions. Some of the keys of disciplining children are to be patient and control your anger.

My daughter suggested that he should have been instructed to write a page of text, "I will not lie on the shelf, I will not lie on the shelf, I will not lie on the shelf....."
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True enough I edited my post, because I thought someone could misunderstand my opinion about the teacher's deeds (and I was right apparently). However:

1) when I hit "Save" your reply + quote was not yet there, so you must have seen the final version once you posted your reply
Not true, it often happens that you change something (by the way, that is why there is a part asking to mention why you changed your initial post) and is posted here but not yet visible to someone answering.
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Re: Teacher Pulling Child's Hair

Jeez, and everyone's complaining about the teacher losing their cool....

That was a class of eight-year olds. What's EF?
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My daughter suggested that he should have been instructed to write a page of text, "I will not lie on the shelf, I will not lie on the shelf, I will not lie on the shelf....."
Negative mantras don't work. It should be something like "I'll stay off the shelf" instead.

And you can still make him do that at home, actually.
It might be a good idea to show him that you defend him against physical punishment by the teacher yet don't agree with his behaviour.
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