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Unless I knew the parents, I would go to the class teacher first. Imagine if the father had the same issues as the son....
yeah, i'd start with the school to avoid unnecessary confrontation/escalation with parents.

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Re: remarks on sex-related matters at school

Talk to the school, write an email to the teacher that your son is being bullied. Include the details around the type of bullying. The schools usually have a teacher assigned or counsellor to support in these types of situations. I hope your son is ok.
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Talk to the school, write an email to the teacher that your son is being bullied. Include the details around the type of bullying. The schools usually have a teacher assigned or counsellor to support in these types of situations. I hope your son is ok.
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Old 15.09.2021, 10:57
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yeah, i'd start with the school to avoid unnecessary confrontation/escalation with parents.
But make sure you have the rooftop snipers on call.
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Talk to the school, write an email to the teacher that your son is being bullied. Include the details around the type of bullying. The schools usually have a teacher assigned or counsellor to support in these types of situations. I hope your son is ok.
Not sure if this applies to all of Switzerland, but if you are in the German-speaking areas, I would recommend that you do not begin with a mail. Email just doesn't have the same general use, here, as it does elsewhere, and putting something in writing, about which one has not first tried to have a conversation in person, can be perceived as being unnecessarily confrontational.

Therefore, firsttalk to the teacher(s). And only afterwards write (ask them which address(es) they would prefer you to use), thanking them for the helpful first conversation, and summarising what you had said, and what you had understood, from Frau M and Herr Z, what the next steps would be.
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Re: remarks on sex-related matters at school

Dialogue is your key here, writing submissions will only escalate the matter far too quickly and people will then hide behind whatever rules they can.


Talk to people, works wonders usualy
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Not sure if this applies to all of Switzerland, but if you are in the German-speaking areas, I would recommend that you do not begin with a mail. Email just doesn't have the same general use, here, as it does elsewhere, and putting something in writing, about which one has not first tried to have a conversation in person, can be perceived as being unnecessarily confrontational.

Therefore, firsttalk to the teacher(s). And only afterwards write (ask them which address(es) they would prefer you to use), thanking them for the helpful first conversation, and summarising what you had said, and what you had understood, from Frau M and Herr Z, what the next steps would be.
It is a bit hard with covid regulations, in my child’s school, parents are not allowed in without an appointment, and they should not telephone except in an emergency, therefore either SMS, message, or email, is the only way to get an appointment.
Maybe if it is a brief email to request a meeting specifically about Y mobbing X that will satisfy both cultures?
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Re: remarks on sex-related matters at school

Email would be a disaster as a first step, beyond being used for setting up a time to chat. These are (little) human problems requiring human solutions.



By all means, if it's your only option as a first step, drop an email, but don't get tangled up in what it's about, and endless retyping and filtering info. Ask if someone could call you, if it'd be possible to speak with a teacher, as you'd love their guidance on something going on between the kids which you've been talking with your kid about.



Then within the phonecall, you can ask if it's possible to talk in-person and explain a little bit more about what's going on, but still don't get too tangled up in the details, and convey you'd like their advice and wisdom, and how much nicer it is to talk through things face-to-face.


Then do a bit of prep for the meeting in-person. Ask yourself what your intentions are, considering the wellbeing of all kids involved, and showing a decent amount of compassion to all kids growing and learning to be better.


At that stage, you have every reason to be hopeful that a decent amount of teamwork from the adults can help the kids to both bring a stop to this, but also to move on from it peacefully.


Avoid business buzzwords as best you can.


I overheard a conversation between some young boys earlier, and it was cringeworthy, hearing them repeat phrases and mirror behaviours they've obviously observed adult men saying and doing.
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It is a bit hard with covid regulations, in my child’s school, parents are not allowed in without an appointment, and they should not telephone except in an emergency
In which case, OP should email / SMS that they would like an appointment to discuss mobbing of their child. Either face to face or phone call.

In my book, bullying is an emergency.
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Re: remarks on sex-related matters at school

Again, why not talk to the parents of the bullies. It works wonders.
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Re: remarks on sex-related matters at school

How are you getting on, OP? How are things now?
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