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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

If your company is going to restructure and you feel your job is at risk, this is not helping the feeling of being depressed, as when it will certainly happen it will trigger more anxiety and feelings of rejection. It is not fun to go through redundancy, even when you know it is inevitable!
My advice is to think of a new start, open a new chapter in your life, find a new challenge. You could use a one month medical leave to dedicate to your job search.
The beauty in such approach is that you would have the feeling you do something for yourself not for your employer.
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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

Being a person who has been dealing with depression for a bit longer period of time:
- go for the meds asap. Good antidepressants help restore chemical brain balance (which is pretty much the result of depression). Yes, they increase the risk of suicide since they also 'unlock' the patient, also from the lack of strength and motivation to do so. Therefore ask a friend to check up on you regularly, since people react to the same meds differently. There are also some other side effects, but getting your brain to work normally so that you are able to handle the problems is a priority.



- if you are a man - find a male psychiatrist. This might sound weird, but if you are a man - a male psychiatrist will be more careful with prescribing medications that affect your sex drive. A common side effect of the SSRI is the reduction of it, but there are some really good meds that don't like Venlafaxinum of Tritticco. The same goes for psychotherapy.



- check your health in general, especially Sodium levels, thyroid hormones, vit. D levels. The defficiency of vit. D (easy to suplement) can result in depression and it's quite likely you need to take it anyway as most people in Europe suffer from the deficit. Thyroid malfunction or Hashimoto also can cause lack of energy and some other nasty things and high level of stress can trigger the said condition. (source: my gf has written her bachelor on that. She also suffers from Hashimoto, so I have a lot of insight on that).



Basically: check your body - just in case.



As obvious as it may seem - get some excercise. Walk home from work, do pushups - whatever gets you tired. I know this sounds like a post from captain obvious, but just try. This is one of the things my psychiatrist advised me to do (I play drums so this helps, but anything works) as this might increase the serotonin levels in your body.



Sadly I can not recommend you my psychiatrist as I live in Poland for the time being and he wouldn't be able to give you any prescription. But Venlafaxine and/or trittico are a good mix.
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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

The water has so much calcium you could be suffering from hypercalcemia which causes depression. You should get a reverse osmosis filter immediately but the thing is the calcium is also in the vegetables as well as the soups and everything because a lot of the water comes from ground water except near Zürich which comes from the lake but there is still going to be ground water in the vegetables and everything from the fields. You might have to move somewhere that uses only lake water and does not have a lot of calcium in the vegetables foods chicken etc. Something like 6% of Swiss are apparently clinically depressed and I believe it is because of the calcium
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The water has so much calcium you could be suffering from hypercalcemia which causes depression. You should get a reverse osmosis filter immediately but the thing is the calcium is also in the vegetables as well as the soups and everything because a lot of the water comes from ground water except near Zürich which comes from the lake but there is still going to be ground water in the vegetables and everything from the fields. You might have to move somewhere that uses only lake water and does not have a lot of calcium in the vegetables foods chicken etc. Something like 6% of Swiss are apparently clinically depressed and I believe it is because of the calcium
Your belief is your belief, but the facts and evidence remain that if you have healthy kidneys, there is no reason whatsoever to worry that hard water will cause hypercalcemia, and consequently a risk of depression.

If someone suspects they have hypercalcemia they should first get their kidneys checked. Also a diagnosis of hypercalcemia from a doctor might be a good idea.
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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

The easiest and best thing to do is get 20/30 minutes of exercise a day (fresh air) My doctor even advised getting off the bus 2 stops earlier and walking the rest of the way home. It’s amazing the difference it makes.

Mental well-being is really linked to physical condition and diat.

Once you start, it snowballs.
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The water has so much calcium you could be suffering from hypercalcemia which causes depression. You should get a reverse osmosis filter immediately but the thing is the calcium is also in the vegetables as well as the soups and everything because a lot of the water comes from ground water except near Zürich which comes from the lake but there is still going to be ground water in the vegetables and everything from the fields. You might have to move somewhere that uses only lake water and does not have a lot of calcium in the vegetables foods chicken etc. Something like 6% of Swiss are apparently clinically depressed and I believe it is because of the calcium
I can find no evidence the calcium levels in Switzerlands drinking water are so high as to cause hypercalcemia. If you have evidence, please share it. I won't hold my breath.

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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

Oh my goodness, approaching 30, OP you are so young. Well done for reaching out for help and speaking to a doctor.


There is some great work advice on the thread, especially the first page so I wont re-iterate that. More on the personal side, some tips regarding depression that I am working with:


- Quitting alcohol. This is a hard one as "going for drinks" is a key part of being social. But alcohol does not help at all with anxiety and depression. It supresses everything (including endorphins and brain chemicals that cause pleasure and peace). For me (a totally personal choice) it was a key tool in managing anxiety.
- Nature. We are so lucky to live in such a beautiful country. Try and carve out time everyday, ideally first thing in the morning, so take a walk and breath. Breath. Breath in the air, breath out the worry. Make it a routine.
- Podcasts, audible, etc. During my walks I listen to podcasts or books that help me with anxiety.
- Mediation. The irony of writing this is that Im useless at mediating but if you start your day with a walk in nature then some breathing and mindfulness in the evening is a great way to close it. Apps like calm and headspace are great for this.


Good luck OP, thank you for starting an important thread.
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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

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Mental well-being is really linked to physical condition and diat.

Once you start, it snowballs.

True, not sure if someone mentioned in this long thread or not, keeping a good gut health can have surprising effect on your mood, so-called brain-gut axis.

Good gut health in turn depends on (here I list some factors, not all):

-low salt diet
-low sugar diet
-dietary fiber (so-called prebiotics)
-probiotics (but be cautious as there are so many different strains)
-exercise

Gut health is compromised when the person is in chronic stress.
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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

you mentioned as 'i get older'
whether man or woman, you may have a hormone fluctuation and or deficiency

for women this can be linked to hormone fluctuation during her cycles, during adolescence, post giving birth, and on average 35+ with peri and menopause
if are a women you can go to https://www.balance-menopause.com/?s=depression
and I can recommend a dr office which will help with that
there was a podcast today about it
it is not only for older women

https://www.balance-menopause.com/type/podcast/

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Re: Depressed and unsure who to tell

You can't integrate into the German speaking part of Switzerland if you don't speak Swiss-German. The fact that Swiss-German is designed to make it difficult to integrate doesn't help you much on that front.

I wasted 6 years of my life in Switzerland (as a guy in his mid-30's) who got stuck here after a divorce and who didn't want to be away from his kid. I fell into depression like you, feeling trapped and seeing no way out, until I decided I had enough and made the decision to return to London. I can tell you that I have never been happier since moving back to London. I live in a vibrant, dynamic city full of foreigners, have been on more dates in the past 3 months than I went on in 6 years in Zurich, and get paid more than I ever did. I cringe when I look back at the time I wasted being unhappy.

You made the decision to waste a portion of your 20's (when you should be having the time of your life) in an insular society and, to be frank, there is no point dwelling on the past. But, for your own sake, don't waste your 30's in a place that you aren't happy in and won't integrate into. You're still young enough to make changes and become happy again.

On the surface, you're probably telling yourself that you "should" be happy here, and it was the same for me. I had a nice flat, German car, high salary, went skiing every weekend in the winter and swam in the lakes all summer. But, you realize that you are just a frog in a boiling pot, and take away all the distractions and deep down you have no friends/social life and don't belong here.

Best thing to do is make a plan to leave and go somewhere where you can speak the language and build a social circle. Start planning today to give your mind something to focus on. Avoid pills, all they do is alter the chemical reaction of your brain to the unhappiness, they don't address the underlying issues of why you are depressed, and they can cause ED.

Best of luck and hope you can focus on finding a life again!
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