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Old 25.11.2010, 10:45
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Re: Three months alone

Three months will go by so quickly! Think of what you were up to in August.. we're already in November! That's how quickly it will go.
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#10:30 So nice that video. I agree. Sure I enjoy my lieber around, but sometimes... it feels good to travel, go to cinema (just you & popcorn), dinner, walking,... just on your own... Afterwards I feel like 'renewed' so I am looking forward sharing my best 'me' again...
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Uh ohh!

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Re: Three months alone

Consider this a perfect opportunity for you to get to know the truly most important person in your life -- YOU! What a blessing! Discover new layers to your experience of yourself, and even take a minute to figure out how you can possibly feel lonely when you have YOU. :-D
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Consider this a perfect opportunity for you to get to know the truly most important person in your life -- YOU! What a blessing! Discover new layers to your experience of yourself, and even take a minute to figure out how you can possibly feel lonely when you have YOU. :-D
I would honestly not advise it, women are better off busy in the kitchen. The last woman I know, who embarked on a journey to discover herself, found out a lor more than she expected!
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Old 25.11.2010, 16:56
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Re: Three months alone

It sounds like you have severe anxiety. Relocating is anxiety provoking and you cling to your partner for support. Exercise does help to relieve anxiety. Promise yourself that in the next three months, you will be strong and prove that you are perfectly capable of managing and enjoying life on your own. One step at a time. Make sure you get out of the house. Go see a movie and then go out to dinner. Grab drinks somewhere. You will feel 100% better and alot more self confident.
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Old 25.11.2010, 17:05
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Re: Three months alone

Thanks, I do think part of it is about proving I can sort everything out myself. I've always had someone around, so maybe that's one thing to consider.

My boyfriend left behind a jar of beetles and a jar of wasps that, if you listen really carefully, do make some noise. Maybe they can be my cat.
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Good for her! More than she expected should be considered a boon! No one should be afraid to learn about themselves, should they? Are you?
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Old 25.11.2010, 17:36
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My boyfriend left behind a jar of beetles and a jar of wasps that, if you listen really carefully, do make some noise. Maybe they can be my cat.
WTF

I'd be scared too if I was left alone with those!!! Do you have to feed them!!
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Good for her! More than she expected should be considered a boon! No one should be afraid to learn about themselves, should they? Are you?
I am very afraid to learn about myself, each phase of my life is like a chapter from a B Horror movie.

Maybe someone can teach me how to read myself properly?
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Old 25.11.2010, 17:39
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Lovedoctor, the Quagmire post made me smile, but at the same time the reason I wasn't sure whether or not I should post this topic was because I thought I might get reactions like your "get a grip" comment afterwards. I realise that for some people, this doesn't seem like a problem at all, but for me it's horrible, and I feel really, really down. I know you didn't mean it in a nasty way at all, so I'm not offended, but it shows that people can be really, really different. Are you the kind of person who likes alone time? I'm definitely not!
Well being the ugly count that I am, having alone time comes as second nature, and after years and years of loathing my appearance and whoreing for attention on the internets I learned to love the beautiful me within...

Ok I digress, I guess having a wife and three kids I would love to have some alone time now!
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Well being the ugly count that I am, having alone time comes as second nature, and after years and years of loathing my appearance and whoreing for attention on the internets I learned to love the beautiful me within...

Ok I digress, I guess having a wife and three kids I would love to have some alone time now!
Yeah, you better give it a break after 3 kids!
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Old 25.11.2010, 17:44
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Yeah, you better give it a break after 3 kids!
don't worry it's all good... I don't feel attracted to my wife anymore

Shall I start a thread about that?
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Re: Three months alone

I admire the spirit of the video...
BUT one word fo advice! Do not go to the woods alone!! Ever!
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Re: Three months alone

You know what... I know how it is to wait for somebody or come back to an empty house. And I know how it is to miss somebody. But there is a little difference between "missing somebody" and "learning how to live without that person". It's up to you what you'll decide.

Like you, I came here because of my boyfriend. I finished my two studies in Warsaw but I did only bechalors degrees so I didn't decide to continue to pass masters degrees. I left a good job there, my family, friends, my hobby and I came here. But it was my decision because I knew he's worth of that. And you should ask yourself the same question. If you have the same answer as I had you should think about starting new life here. For you, for him, for both of you. I guess your boyfriend wants to have smiling girlfriend, satisfied, positive... Not unhappy and complaining. So think about yourself-you can't build a great relationship without your own happines
Try langauge courses, when interesting classes are too far away maybe something like e-learning? If you like cooking, invite people from EF-I can be one od your guests Have you visited Basel? Maybe you would like to come here for one day to see something interesting, maybe we can discover something great here together?
I wish you luck and all the best. It looks like you really love him so I hope this feeling will give you enough power to do that
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From what you say about hating to be alone, I think it is something that you personally have to deal with. What I mean is that you are not always going to have someone else's company and you have to start getting to learn how to be with you and enjoying that time.
I think if you can start something new like a hobby or something similar even if they are walks in the park, that is something yours and yours only then it will improve how you feel and also how you relate with your boyfriend in the long run.
Good luck!
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don't worry it's all good... I don't feel attracted to my wife anymore

Shall I start a thread about that?
Thats not good man, you know you have to put some effort into relationships, especially after years of being together when everything seems mundane and not special anymore.

Take her out for romantic dinners, let her take a break from the daily chores sometimes, let her soak in aromatic bath while you cook (microwave) some fantastic dinner (Migros Value), take care of the kids while she goes out with her friends for some gossip and shoes and handbag shopping, buy her presents from time to time, bring in some vigour from your youthful days, tell her how beautiful she looks despite the years and age taking away that lustre, make her feel special, give her blunt and profound compliments to give her that toe curling feelings and blushing hot cheeks, tell her how special she is for you and be open and honest about everything and how you feel and ask her if you can have another younger girlfriend, just for fun, nothing serious, promsie her that.
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Old 26.11.2010, 01:44
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WTF

I'd be scared too if I was left alone with those!!! Do you have to feed them!!
Heh not really. There are also beans in the jars, which is what they eat. Apparently I have to smack the jars on a table and pour the contents of one into the other at some point in January. Then I can write that I have "insect rearing" experience on my CV.


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You know what... I know how it is to wait for somebody or come back to an empty house. And I know how it is to miss somebody. But there is a little difference between "missing somebody" and "learning how to live without that person". It's up to you what you'll decide.

Like you, I came here because of my boyfriend. I finished my two studies in Warsaw but I did only bechalors degrees so I didn't decide to continue to pass masters degrees. I left a good job there, my family, friends, my hobby and I came here. But it was my decision because I knew he's worth of that. And you should ask yourself the same question. If you have the same answer as I had you should think about starting new life here.
I've already moved from the UK to here to be with him (after doing the same 3 months apart, 2 weeks together, 3 months apart, 2 weeks together pattern for over a year) so I am definitely committed to him! It's basically the last time (hopefully) we'll have to do this. I'm just looking for ways to make the next 3 months hurry along. I think Angela is right... there's no miracle cure for me hating being alone in this flat. It's something I'm going to have to live with. I can see myself spending more time at work so I don't have to be here by myself as much.
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I would honestly not advise it, women are better off busy in the kitchen. The last woman I know, who embarked on a journey to discover herself, found out a lor more than she expected!
hmmmm...really?? I beg to differ my dear! Maybe it's just the company you keep

Travelling most of the world solo has been one of the most amazingly life-enriching things I have ever done with my life.

The people and places I have met and seen could never compare to looking at the bottom of a mixing bowl...

OP - Life is for living, it's not a dress rehearsal, and not believing in reincarnation, I don't think we get a second chance. This being the case, don't wish your life away, waiting for your OH to get back.

Enjoy the opportunity to be utterly selfish - you can do what you want, when you want, for whatever reason you want! (within legal parametres, naturellement! )
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Thats not good man, you know you have to put some effort into relationships, especially after years of being together when everything seems mundane and not special anymore.

Take her out for romantic dinners, let her take a break from the daily chores sometimes, let her soak in aromatic bath while you cook (microwave) some fantastic dinner (Migros Value), take care of the kids while she goes out with her friends for some gossip and shoes and handbag shopping, buy her presents from time to time, bring in some vigour from your youthful days, tell her how beautiful she looks despite the years and age taking away that lustre, make her feel special, give her blunt and profound compliments to give her that toe curling feelings and blushing hot cheeks, tell her how special she is for you and be open and honest about everything and how you feel and ask her if you can have another younger girlfriend, just for fun, nothing serious, promsie her that.
I would like to point out that I don't really have a wife or kids LulZ (but as I sense a bit of sarcasm I'm not gonna thank you just yet :-p)
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