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Breast Cancer

Well, this is sure something I never wanted to write about.

So last month I had the sudden appearance of a breast lump and it was examined by my gyn, and it looked like a cyst, so I scheduled a mammogram, they looked at it and said it was probably a benign lump and took a biopsy on Monday. So then yesterday, I found out that it has what are called "poorly differentiated cells", which means it's likely cancer. It points out that imaging, while very helpful is not necessarily completely reliable, either.

So all of a sudden, I'm facing surgery and so on....which is particularly difficult for me because exactly 20 years ago this week, we brought my mother home from the hospital to die - from breast cancer, and indeed she died Jan 14, 1991.

For 25 years, I've tried to walk the line between being paranoid and in denial - breast exams and mammography. It's a hard line to tow too.

So yesterday late I ended up talking to my gyn's partner because my gyn wasn't in, and this morning I talked to the woman who will do my surgery. In the middle, I was also able to contact my family doctor via email who called me back on his day off, another gyn that I know from the american women's club and another friend from the awc who is married to an oncologist. I heard back from everyone relatively quickly, and while I don't plan to change my course of treatment, I received valuable information and I felt as though I was able to manage my care, even at this stage. I feel fairly comfortable with the health care system and I've learned a bit about managing my way through it. I also know that it's ok to ask for information if you're afraid or scared. And it's ok to be strong and question. And it's ok to discuss whether or not you feel confident about a doctor taking a knife to you. When I first went into see the surgeon, I told her that I wasn't sure about her doing the surgery, in fact. But once she explained everything and we talked a little more, I was able to say, ok, I feel comforatble.

So here I am, having a lumpectomy a week from Thursday. And we'll go from there. But I also know that I'm not my mother, so I don't have to have the same outcomes....

Oh and BTW, survival rates for people who take anti-depressants are generally higher than those who don't. But it's also important to exercise, and laugh.... so I'm beefing up my silly movie collection.

Might not be around quite so much for a couple of weeks. But I'm going to keep a blog...

One thing... are there any english speaking cancer resources near Bern? The stuff in Geneva looks great, but... it's Geneva.

Anyway, while not such a merry christmas for me...it has helped me realize that I have good friends and how lucky I am to have such a positive, loving marriage, and I'm thankful that I have a dog too. So I have a lot to live for.

So...we'll see what happens next.
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Old 22.12.2010, 21:31
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Re: Breast Cancer

Hi Edot,

really sorry to heat that you are going through this. For support there is a Yahoo group for English speaking cancer patients & their families, it can be found here: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ExpatC...upSwitzerland/

Wishing you all the best & a speedy recovery.
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Re: Breast Cancer

Edot.. I've just been there.
It ended up being benign.
Found out 3 weeks ago.
You won't know until you get the result of the lumpectomy.
It can be done locally now.

You can not worry about something you can not change.
So I decided to worry only on the very day.
And then I decided to worry only on the day of the results.
It's a quiet question mark, but taking all emotion out of it and having a matter of fact even cold approach to it, did help me.

If you'd like to share.. I'm here

The only thing that I did decide on was that if I was really in for it, I wanted a brand new perfect pair
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Old 22.12.2010, 21:36
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Re: Breast Cancer

Thinking of you, edot - take care.
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Old 22.12.2010, 21:53
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Re: Breast Cancer

This is the sort of thing which happens to other people. One really comes down to earth with a bump when the name on the medical records is ones own. Thinking of you.
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Old 22.12.2010, 21:55
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Re: Breast Cancer

Sorry to hear about your news. However you come across as very positive in your post. My thoughts and good wishes are with you through this time. Good luck.
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Old 22.12.2010, 22:04
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Re: Breast Cancer

My feelings are with you. Hope you will find all the support needed.
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Re: Breast Cancer

Hang in the Edot, my thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time. Remember also that treatments have come a VERY long way in the last year!!!!
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Re: Breast Cancer

I so much hope the lumpectomy results turn out to be fine. Thinking of you, stay positive.
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Re: Breast Cancer

Think of the fact that "likely" is not a firm diagnostic.
Until surgery, you just won't know, and it just might be fine.

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Old 22.12.2010, 22:14
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Re: Breast Cancer

One thing... are there any english speaking cancer resources near Bern? The stuff in Geneva looks great, but... it's Geneva.



Edot ... It's far away but get in touch ... You will be amazed what a large network ESCA have
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Re: Breast Cancer

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Breast Cancer

Thanks to everyone, for your thoughts, stories and info on resources. I can't seem to thank individual posts on tapatalk.

Something I've learned... There are lots of really kind people in the world willing to share their experiences and suggestions. So much better than suffering/worrying in silence.
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Old 22.12.2010, 22:30
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Heartfelt and best wishes to you Edot for a positive outcome. Thank you for sharing your situation and feelings with us.
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Re: Breast Cancer

Dear Edot,

Just needed to send you my wishes of a fast recovery: everything will be alright, I'm sure.
Thank you for sharing, and you are very right, you are not your mother, nothing has to be the same.
In my family cancer is a common word, I heard it since a child and learned what it was the hard way. Now, fortunately because my boyfriend works in scientific research I know the other side, the side that brings hope. New knowledge about the disease is being produced everyday, every hour in fact.
Keep your confidence high, we all stand by you .
Wishing you and your family a peaceful Christmas with happy moments and much love. We will follow your posts.

Kind greetings,

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Old 22.12.2010, 23:17
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Re: Breast Cancer

I send you a big hug and best wishes - keep strong and you know all your forum friends are thinking and praying for you.
When you can do let us know how you are doing..
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Re: Breast Cancer

Edot, from reading your posts over the years, it is clear that you are a very strong woman. You will get through this.


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You can not worry about something you can not change.
So I decided to worry only on the very day.
And then I decided to worry only on the day of the results.
It's a quiet question mark, but taking all emotion out of it and having a matter of fact even cold approach to it, did help me.
Sky's advice here is brilliant. One step at a time - I know it can be difficult, but focus on the known, not on the 'what ifs'. It's a cliché, but a positive outlook really is the first line of defense.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers. You will get through this.
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Re: Breast Cancer

Dear Edot,

I have never been close to this situation in my life, so I can't help you. But I want to let you know that my heart is fully with you and that I am absolutely amazed of the way you wrote it to us. You sounds so strong and confident. I am guessing that you have to come to term with this news and you did it gracefully. I wouldn't be as strong as you are.

I am on your side in my heart and I will think of you a lot.

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Re: Breast Cancer

Dear Edot,

I'm sorry you're going through this, and I wish you all the best. I have no advice because I have no experience, but I must say that your post showed me how someone could handle such a situation with courage, intelligence and grace.

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Re: Breast Cancer

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I live in Basel, moved to stage 4 melanoma in my first year here. I am a part of an english speaking cancer group for women here in Basel. Are you close?
I am not proficient on this board and don't use it much after getting scolded for not asking my questions in the right way. If you want to know more please email me at skysurfing2@gmail.com
My prayers are with you and know what you are going through.

Peace and love,,
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