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Old 13.01.2011, 23:01
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

After reading what Kamarate said, maybe you could take her out. Then you are not closed in & bored with her. You'll have the outside world to distract you & she'll be happy that you were with her.

Honestly if it stresses you out your going to be grumpy while you are there & that's not good. But I do think we should be more respectful to our "elders".

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Old 13.01.2011, 23:12
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

I find that making it a rule turns into a stress - and limits a lot what one can do with the week-ends. I speak with my father daily (he is alone), and try to see him every week-end - but I don't want to get into the "every sunday lunch" type of rule, otherwise I would find myself making up excuses...
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Old 13.01.2011, 23:27
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

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If yours is anything like mine was, then once a year is more than enough...
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Old 13.01.2011, 23:35
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I find that making it a rule turns into a stress - and limits a lot what one can do with the week-ends.
I absolutely agree with this. My suggestion was really only a guideline, but yes... making it regimented probably isn't a good idea!
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

If she lives in the same town, would it be better for you to visit after work and take a welcome meal with her once per week? That would leave all the weekend for you to use, and keep her happy.
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Old 14.01.2011, 09:04
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

Go once a week. Every time ask to borrow money from her. Soon you won't have to go that often anymore
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Old 14.01.2011, 09:41
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

About twice a year (not including weddings and funerals).
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Old 14.01.2011, 11:01
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

I love my MIL, unfortunately or fortunately she didn't live here and the few times that we spent together we had a good time.
My opinion is better to see her few times and spend a great time together that to see her every day or every weekend and end up tired of seeing her face.
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

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My second virtual mother begs and pressures me to visit her every weekend for lunch and dinner. I am flattered by the attention and the love she showers on me but what is a reasonable frequency in your opinion?

Btw we live in the same city. I feel once a month is more than enough. What do you think? How often would you visit?

Would your answer be different if she was alone and lonely?
Obviously she would like to keep her friends close, but the enemy/you even closer
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

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My second virtual mother begs and pressures me to visit her every weekend for lunch and dinner. I am flattered by the attention and the love she showers on me but what is a reasonable frequency in your opinion?

Btw we live in the same city. I feel once a month is more than enough. What do you think? How often would you visit?

Would your answer be different if she was alone and lonely?
Ya know. it seems that you don't feel like being so close to her, that's pretty natural, that happends a lot, but i'd recommend you 2 try 2 b polite 'cause you may hurt her feelings if she realizes you think that way. and to tell you the truth i don't like mothers in law, or rather, they don't like me . i wonder what's wrong with them.
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

New development. My MIL wants to buy me a brand new car She says I deserve it for being a good son in law. I said thanks but I can't take it. She is having none of it. My MIL being of Mexican origin says that refusing a gift is not looked upon nicely.

Would you take it?
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

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New development. My MIL wants to buy me a brand new car She says I deserve it for being a good son in law. I said thanks but I can't take it. She is having none of it. My MIL being of Mexican origin says that refusing a gift is not looked upon nicely.

Would you take it?
Yes I would. You can give it to me.
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Old 04.02.2011, 18:48
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New development. My MIL wants to buy me a brand new car She says I deserve it for being a good son in law. I said thanks but I can't take it. She is having none of it. My MIL being of Mexican origin says that refusing a gift is not looked upon nicely.

Would you take it?
Say you'll take one if you can choose it...

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Old 04.02.2011, 18:54
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

You must listen to your heart! If it's a torture then as seldom as possible. If it's a pleasure as often as you please. There is no rule.

I can sense that you are looking for an excuse... Lol, we can all understand it
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Re: Mother In-Law! How often is too much?

Take the car and continue the MILILFing. Geez, what a silly question.
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