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Old 27.01.2011, 12:05
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if the problem is the kid being too cute, can't you just uglify her? i mean, no need to splash acid on her face or cut a scar along her cheek. but maybe dress her in stupid clothing. or shave off all her hair or if all else fails make her wear a brown paper bag over her head.
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Old 27.01.2011, 12:08
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One way to look at it Nil, is that it makes a refreshing change to get this nice response from strangers compared to the more common "you should do this with your daughter", "she should be wrapped up warmer", "why are you on a tram with a pushchair during peak hours?"
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Old 27.01.2011, 12:09
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if the problem is the kid being too cute, can't you just uglify her? i mean, no need to splash acid on her face or cut a scar along her cheek. but maybe dress her in stupid clothing. or shave off all her hair or if all else fails make her wear a brown paper bag over her head.
Havent we all been dressed in some horrendous outfit or another when we were kids? I'd like to track down this bright canary yellow merringue dress that I was made to put on once, together with all the incriminating photos, rip them to shreds, pour kerosene over and light a bonfire.

Yes Carlos R, I have issues.
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Old 27.01.2011, 12:09
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if the problem is the kid being too cute, can't you just uglify her? i mean, no need to splash acid on her face or cut a scar along her cheek. but maybe dress her in stupid clothing. or shave off all her hair or if all else fails make her wear a brown paper bag over her head.

here's a great website with baby tshirts which will definitely mess with their self-confidence and how people interact with them.

http://www.tshirthell.com/hell.shtml# (click on baby shirts at the top)

warning, perhaps a bit nsfw and definitely not safe for people with moral or beliefs
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Re: Cute kids = Spoiled

What counts is how YOU treat or react to your child. YOU are raising her, not the playgroup teacher or the ladies at the store. Spoil her with your reactions or comments to the thoughtful, generous, observant, etc. ways. Describe to her all the good things she does that come from inside.
Sounds a bit cheesy but if she's spoiled psychologically she'll end up with lots of self-esteem, she'll be a strong person and feel good about herself.
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Old 27.01.2011, 12:35
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Re: Cute kids = Spoiled

..interesting thoughtful posts ..
Nil can you please change your avatar..You look cute and spoilt and your posts grab my attention
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Old 27.01.2011, 12:45
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here's a great website with baby tshirts which will definitely mess with their self-confidence and how people interact with them.

http://www.tshirthell.com/hell.shtml# (click on baby shirts at the top)

warning, perhaps a bit nsfw and definitely not safe for people with moral or beliefs
Just love it!
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Old 27.01.2011, 13:03
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Re: Cute kids = Spoiled

Groan - another Nil thread stating the bleedin' obvious......
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Old 27.01.2011, 13:12
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Groan - another Nil thread stating the bleedin' obvious......
Actually I thought it was your avatar who was stating the obvious...
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Old 27.01.2011, 15:25
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Groan - another Nil thread stating the bleedin' obvious......
Well it was entertaining enough to go to three pages.

If you don't like Nil's posts why don't you use the block user function?

Feel free to add me too as I probably could be accused of starting/contributing to "pointless" threads.
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Old 27.01.2011, 15:26
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My kid's cute, do I get on Leni's ignore list too?
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Old 27.01.2011, 15:49
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Hey - my daughter is gorgeous, but I didn't think of starting a thread about it.......
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Old 27.01.2011, 16:54
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Re: Cute kids = Spoiled

I am sure that teachers and day care workers, and even other parents who see your kids regularly have favourites - how could they not? It's impossible to like some horrible snotty child that fights and shouts all the time in the same way as an angelic looking sweetheart who says please and thank you. If your daughters good looks were matched with a nasty attitude then I'm pretty sure she wouldn't get given things and treated so well.

But if she's cute AND nice, then isn't that something to be thankful for?!

I don't think it's the getting stuff for being cute that's the problem, it's the expecting to get stuff simply because you're cute that's not good.

My two boys are both the kings of charm. They are both cute I have to say (not just being a biased mum!) They have teachers, other kids and other parents wrapped round their little fingers. The best is when they go to the hairdressers - she treats them like gods, sweets, treats, colouring things, little toys, she saves stuff up for her "favourite boys". But actually she's also smart because of course they always want to go back there - so my husband also goes there and has his hair cut at the same time. By treating my boys like kings she's ensured 3 regular appointments in her book .

The boys learnt from a pro though - their father. He could charm the hind legs off a donkey. But he's also a very caring guy who would do anything for the ones he cares about.

So, the conclusion then.... I think a bit of getting your own way because you're cute is fine as long as it's coupled with a healthy dose of "be nice to others" too.
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I am sure that teachers and day care workers, and even other parents who see your kids regularly have favourites - how could they not? It's impossible to like some horrible snotty child that fights and shouts all the time in the same way as an angelic looking sweetheart who says please and thank you.
You'd be surprised at the number of teachers who like a child with a bit of spirit!

Mind, I must admit that I'm not keen on the sneaky sort...
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Old 27.01.2011, 17:25
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Hey - my daughter is gorgeous, but I didn't think of starting a thread about it.......
You see, this is your persception... Apparently you felt insecure enough to take it the wrong way. I didn't say my daughter is the cuttest little girl in the world, yada, yada. I said that she is cute and get away with way too much because of it. She gets to be the favorite of many people in good and in bad behaviors. And my questions were also based on if cute kids gets more spoiled than others. So if your daughter is gorgeous, is was the perfect time for you to give me some nice advices of how to deal with this issue since you must have a good idea of what I am talking about!

You take it as me going around and showing off about my daughter. That is a weird thing to do, and to get straight to that conclusion from you is also pretty weird. You assume something from me but maybe you are the one who would do something like that?

But no, it is better to see the worst in people and assume the weirdest thing from them.

Self-esteem issue here maybe? You seem to be someone who needs to push people down quite a lot on this forum. If you want, we can make a whole thread about your own self, maybe it will make you feel more important? Instead to push people down to make you look bigger...
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Old 27.01.2011, 17:29
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Re: Cute kids = Spoiled

Not really.

I agree with what Tilia said early on.
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You'd be surprised at the number of children who like a teacher with a bit of spirit.

... works both ways.

Teacher's experience taught me: the good looking students in high school are not the ones who were cute in primary. Puberty is so unfair.


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Teacher's experience taught me: the good looking students in high school are not the ones who were cute in primary. Puberty is so unfair.


And at last, a thought from Serge Gainsbourg:
Looks like they'll be a lot of ugly teenagers in Switzerland then if the cuteness of our kids is true and not some kind of motherly blindness
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Not really.

I agree with what Tilia said early on.
What a surprise....
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Looks like they'll be a lot of ugly teenagers in Switzerland then if the cuteness of our kids is true and not some kind of motherly blindness
Exactly my point. That should ring a bell, dear mothers.
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