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Re: Moving away when heavily pregnant? (Last trimester)

If you are healthy I don't see any problems. I was 32 SA when I left Bangladesh to be reunited with my husband in Germany. It was the beginning of my maternity leave.I also had organised the move from Dhaka by myself as I spent the 7 months pregrant alone and working full time. BUt I had lots of friends and the packers did all for me.

With baby 2, I travelled one summer between China and France and I was 36 SA. I travelled alone with my other daughter who was 4 at the time. NOone at the check in or on the plane asked me for any paper . While in France, I went to a doctor to see if I was ok to fly back and before leaving SHanghai I got a certificate from my OB but as I say noone looked at it.
During the flight, I was walking around mre oftern and as I have problem with blood circulation Ihad bought a special pair of tights.

As I say if you are used to travel and have a healthy pregnancy, it's no problem.. good luck with all
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Old 28.02.2011, 13:12
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Re: Moving away when heavily pregnant? (Last trimester)

My oldest was born in Hambourg and I did not speak a word at the time..it was quite stressful as my husband had to translate! But I had managed to find a OBstretician who was American but unfortunately in Germany, Obstreticians don't give birth unlike France. The worst thing was the birth class, all in German I might have well not gone at all. I did not even try In SHanghai!There I gave birth in an international hospital.My doc was Australian but the woman who did the ultrasound only spoke CHinese and it was awful..cos she used to make these very worrying sound but could not explain to me!

At least if you are in Europe, the technology will not be a problem but the language issue might be. And also, if you can chose between car and plane, I think I would fly or stop every 2 hours to go for a wee... as your bladder will control you at this stage of your pregnancy.
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Old 28.02.2011, 13:28
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Re: Moving away when heavily pregnant? (Last trimester)

Did I understand correctly that husband will be back for the 3 to 4 weeks before your due date? If so, my preference would be to take things more slowly, give birth in a place that you know and where you do have an emergency network to help. In your new place, there will just be your husband, maybe no nursery place yet for Petite Nil and then your husband will have all of you to look after plus a new job ...

.. but I also know how very capable you are, and really healthy at the moment, so you would also take moving before the birth quite in your stride.

So perhaps it comes down to the birth itself and looking after Petite Nil while you are in hospital? which, in the absence of a friends/family in the new place, would surely be easier here? And do you think the new baby will be a big deal for her? Would staying put until after the birth be kinder for her, or not really a big issue, so not a factor to be taken into the equation?

Add me to your emergency network list ..... we have the car seats and house is already toddler proofed, so we're good to go!
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Any news Nil? xx
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Old 28.02.2011, 16:07
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Did I understand correctly that husband will be back for the 3 to 4 weeks before your due date? (...)

Add me to your emergency network list ..... we have the car seats and house is already toddler proofed, so we're good to go!
No, actually Hubby will be gone for the 3-4 weeks before birth and will come back for the birth and be home for 3 weeks (after the birth) and we would all move with him. He would travel there every sunday night and come home every thursday night or friday morning.

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Arrgh - hope you hear soon so you can make plans. Tell us how you get on. xx Swissie
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Old 28.02.2011, 16:34
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No, actually Hubby will be gone for the 3-4 weeks before birth and will come back for the birth and be home for 3 weeks (after the birth) and we would all move with him. He would travel there every sunday night and come home every thursday night or friday morning.
So how would husband come back in time for the birth? You've told us it is a couple of hours or so away by plane, so realistically, he wouldn't be with you for around half a day if you went into labour early and he had to come back in a hurry. I couldn't imagine giving birth without husband there so I think that would be the deciding factor for me. Unless you are happy with someone else who is to hand being at the birth ...

On the other hand, I know plenty of stories of friends who absolutely held on until husband was back from business trip abroad, only to pop the baby out hours after his return! And I too went one week late whilst subconsciously waiting for my parents to arrive in CH to look after my first child. They rang from Manchester airport to check everything was fine and by the time they got to Basel, I'd gone into labour and by the time they got to our house, the baby was there! It is amazing what control your brain can have over labour timing, but I don't know if I'd want to rely on that?? This is tricky
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Old 28.02.2011, 16:52
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So how would husband come back in time for the birth? You've told us it is a couple of hours or so away by plane, so realistically, he wouldn't be with you for around half a day if you went into labour early and he had to come back in a hurry. I couldn't imagine giving birth without husband there so I think that would be the deciding factor for me. Unless you are happy with someone else who is to hand being at the birth ...

On the other hand, I know plenty of stories of friends who absolutely held on until husband was back from business trip abroad, only to pop the baby out hours after his return! And I too went one week late whilst subconsciously waiting for my parents to arrive in CH to look after my first child. They rang from Manchester airport to check everything was fine and by the time they got to Basel, I'd gone into labour and by the time they got to our house, the baby was there! It is amazing what control your brain can have over labour timing, but I don't know if I'd want to rely on that?? This is tricky
Last week the doctor and I came to the conclusion that the C-Section was less risky for me than to go throw the natural birth again. (With all what happened the first time around). So I have now a date of birth, it was pretty weird to sit in her office and looking at the calendar for a date... Anyway, for the sake of the baby and me, if this has to be done, that is the way it would be.

So with this information in mind, we came to those two scenarios possible.
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Old 28.02.2011, 17:13
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So with this information in mind, we came to those two scenarios possible.
Apologies! Totally forgotten about the C Section scenario, but that was probably due to trying to do too many things at once whilst posting...

All I can reiterate is that you can certainly add me to your help list, which ever scenario you decide.
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Old 28.02.2011, 17:23
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Last week the doctor and I came to the conclusion that the C-Section was less risky for me than to go throw the natural birth again. (With all what happened the first time around). So I have now a date of birth, it was pretty weird to sit in her office and looking at the calendar for a date... Anyway, for the sake of the baby and me, if this has to be done, that is the way it would be.

So with this information in mind, we came to those two scenarios possible.
Think of the benefits though! You can plan ahead, and as an expat with a smaller support group, say, than a local, this can be really useful, especially as Little Princess will need to looking after too!

On the flip side, don't be complacent though. Our third was "planned" but was still an emergency c-section as he decided that life would be more interesting out than in.
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Old 28.02.2011, 17:39
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Re: Moving away when heavily pregnant? (Last trimester)

Nil just be careful, i was having a very healthy pregnancy right up to 34 weeks, i had no idea my blood pressure would go through the roof between my 31 week scan and 34 week scan - things can change dramatically. Don't rely on that 'planned' c section date.

As for advice, I really have no idea, I would be in a pickle if i was in the same predicament. I think I'd have wanted to stay and have the baby here purely due to the nature of my pregnancy and my relationship with my gyne, I wanted him to deliver the baby. I am unsure I'd have wanted the upheaval of a move.

Is your husband being transferred within his same company? I am with Eco on this, tell HR to shove it, they surely can wait several more months before the move - if they want your husband badly then they can wait, end of? can he not commute and do video conference calls? they can fly him over for important meetings but surely in todays technologically advanced world he can work remotely?

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Re: Moving away when heavily pregnant? (Last trimester)

I think the option where your husband returns for the birth and them sticks with you afterwards etc is the best scenario. But indeed, you can't be sure of the baby won't decide to dome out earlier. Was your first one past the due date? Hm, there's no garantuees whatsoever.

But still, heavily pregnant with 1 toddler is always better than alone in a new place without much people around to help out - AND with a newborn and all the physical stuff - not being able to lift the baby because of the c section!!
You could see if you could hire/find someone to babysit or just support you during the weeks before the C section date, if your husband is away.

Good luck, I hope you will find a plan that makes you feel at ease!
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I've been holding back, as it is so important to be positive. Like Nicky, I was very fit and healthy, and pregnancy was going so well. Our obstetrician was extremely happy with everything until a few hours after he induced the delivery- then it all went downhill at the last minute and I ended up with an emergency C-section. So yes, of course, stay positive, and I am sure all will go well - but rarely, but still too often, things just do not go according to plan, for whatever reason - so please, play safe for all your sakes. Hope you won't be angry with me for this. xxxxx Odile
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Re: Moving away when heavily pregnant? (Last trimester)

The first one came exactly 2 weeks day for days earlier so we schedule it that way this time too. We are looking to get some help when/if hubby goes earlier.
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Re: Moving away when heavily pregnant? (Last trimester)

Further to your new messages Nil I'd suggest: Option 1
Move before with your husband.
Recuperating after a C section by yourself in Switzerland with a toddler and a newborn is really tough.
Even if everything is perfectly fine, just after birth the hormones kick in and it good to have your husband with you to support you fully.

Find a doctor now ahead of time, visit him/her, have your doctor send your medical file ahead, look for some househelp over there now, and make the move as soon as you are both possibly able.
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Old 28.02.2011, 20:23
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Further to your new messages Nil I'd suggest: Option 1
Move before with your husband.
Recuperating after a C section by yourself in Switzerland with a toddler and a newborn is really tough.
Even if everything is perfectly fine, just after birth the hormones kick in and it good to have your husband with you to support you fully.

Find a doctor now ahead of time, visit him/her, have your doctor send your medical file ahead, look for some househelp over there now, and make the move as soon as you are both possibly able.
No no, Hubby will be there for the recovery if we stay here for the birth.

It will go like this:

-Hubby will go middle march / beginning april.

-He will be there from sunday night to thursday.

-He will be home from thursday night to sunday.

When the due date will arrive, he will be with us that week already. I'll give birth and he will be with us for 3 weeks after the birth. Which we will use to recover, organise papers, kids and home, get the movers and fly to the new place at the end of that 3 weeks.

If HR can get their fingers out of their nose....

If we leave before birth, we need to do it ASAFP. Swiss Airline allowed me to travel until 35 weeks of pregnancy without a doctor's paper.

I am in my 31st week...

4 weeks to go and if it is at the very 35th week, it gives us 3 weeks to find a doctor and hospital and someone to take care of mini-me.

I think I'll get Odile to come over while hubby is over there () and I let him handle things over there to organise our arrival after the birth... I would prefer to be there before, but really more I think about it, and I can't see how that is going to happen without me going mad with stress...

Ka pai!! You did move while pregnant, and also with a newborn, didn't you? For us the flight will be into Europe so it will be a 2 hours approx.
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My maths not very good - so when am I expected on duty- just in case you were not joking about having me around - I need to plan my next visit to grand-kids in UK!
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Don't worry, I won't bother you with that! But I wish I had a mommy like you thought!
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No no, Hubby will be there for the recovery if we stay here for the birth.

It will go like this:

-Hubby will go middle march / beginning april.

-He will be there from sunday night to thursday.

-He will be home from thursday night to sunday.

When the due date will arrive, he will be with us that week already. I'll give birth and he will be with us for 3 weeks after the birth. Which we will use to recover, organise papers, kids and home, get the movers and fly to the new place at the end of that 3 weeks.

If HR can get their fingers out of their nose....

If we leave before birth, we need to do it ASAFP. Swiss Airline allowed me to travel until 35 weeks of pregnancy without a doctor's paper.

I am in my 31st week...

4 weeks to go and if it is at the very 35th week, it gives us 3 weeks to find a doctor and hospital and someone to take care of mini-me.

I think I'll get Odile to come over while hubby is over there () and I let him handle things over there to organise our arrival after the birth... I would prefer to be there before, but really more I think about it, and I can't see how that is going to happen without me going mad with stress...

Ka pai!! You did move while pregnant, and also with a newborn, didn't you? For us the flight will be into Europe so it will be a 2 hours approx.
I hope it all goes as planned. I had contractions and was admitted to hospital at 32 weeks and my son had to go into full time day care (thankfully they had a space). Hubby then had to do everything at home, including washing my clothes for my short time in hospital. My baby then didn't have enough fluid, so it was checkups twice a week and bed rest.

I never felt right about booking a trip back home for shortly after the birth of my daughter - Singapore Airlines were offering seats to Sydney for just CHF 1000 too. Friends that were due at the same time booked, and all went well and they were able to fly. I'm glad that I didn't try to fly with a 2 month old baby. My daughter's first hip scan was abnormal then she needed treatment for a mis-formed neck, followed my a 3 month helmet therapy. I'm glad I was in Switzerland where they routinely do hip scans. My doctor was great too, and referred us as soon as possible (at the one month checkup) and we could start treatment earlier.

I would recommend staying for at least your first doctor's check up for your new baby. Your first checkup might be worth staying here for too.
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Arrgghh - I wish I had help when my first was born by emergency C, away from my family and friends and with a OH working 130 hours! so lucky when no2 was born and my next door neighbour took me, well us, under her caring wing. it was great to 'pay' Betty back later on, when she developed Alzheimers and we were able to support her best we could, bless her.
Honest, if I can help I will- if you wish I'll pop over for a couple of days (just find me a cheap hotel or B&B nearby). xx Take care Nil.
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