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Old 19.02.2011, 22:10
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If it's really so close, have you tried making a "final" decision and seeing how you feel about it? You know the old thing of just picking one; if you decide x and then feel miserable, probably you should have picked y, so now you know to pick y.

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Thanks Swissconnors!

For us, the decision is absolutely and totally a family choice. My sleepless nights are on the how we will get there. Which is in an other thread.

For Nic80, I believe that to start a family, you don't need a country but two people. If your husband will be there to help, if help will be affordable and easy access, I don't see why the US should be a problem. And let's face it, it isn't for life, it is for a period of 2-3 years. If you want to come back, you come back, if you want to try somewhere else, you do it.

How is your thinking process?
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Old 19.02.2011, 22:31
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Thanks Swissconnors!

For us, the decision is absolutely and totally a family choice. My sleepless nights are on the how we will get there. Which is in an other thread.

For Nic80, I believe that to start a family, you don't need a country but two people. If your husband will be there to help, if help will be affordable and easy access, I don't see why the US should be a problem. And let's face it, it isn't for life, it is for a period of 2-3 years. If you want to come back, you come back, if you want to try somewhere else, you do it.

How is your thinking process?
Thanks ladies. Yup, we've decided what we would like to do. However my husband needs to do some political derriere covering, and there is a chance that during the required conversations our minds may change. We'll have a final decision by the end of next week. I'm finally getting some sleep.

This has done some real good for my husband and I, its made us analyse what is important to us and look seriously at the next couple of years. We have a good relationship and we know where we want to be in 10 years, we're working towards that place. But neither of us are going to sacrifice our long term happiness for the extra dollar.

How are you going Nil?
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Old 19.02.2011, 22:33
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Thanks ladies. Yup, we've decided what we would like to do. However my husband needs to do some political derriere covering, and there is a chance that during the required conversations our minds may change. We'll have a final decision by the end of next week. I'm finally getting some sleep.

This has done some real good for my husband and I, its made us analyse what is important to us and look seriously at the next couple of years. We have a good relationship and we know where we want to be in 10 years, we're working towards that place. But neither of us are going to sacrifice our long term happiness for the extra dollar.

How are you going Nil?
We should PM!
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Read an interesting quote...

What would you remember the most on your lst few moments of life......
family always....career rarely featured on that list.
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Old 25.02.2011, 21:18
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Just thought I'd give all an update. After weeks (well it's been months really) of uncertainty we've made a decision. A huge load has lifted off our shoulders!
Husband come home early today and we both fell into a stress free sleep in the sun for the first time in ages. We're tired but happy.

Ultimately it come down to what exactly the company was offering. There was a distinct lack of information on career progression and after a week of asking for more information and not getting any, we had another look at the pro and con list and made our decision.

We're staying in Switzerland for the time being. We don't believe we'll be here for the long term but you never know what path life is going to take you on. We're thankful as it has caused us to reassess our situation and we're happy with the outcome.

Many thanks for everyones comments and advice. Your thoughts gave us many a thing to think about that hadn't found our pro or con list

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career first because career can in future boost quality of life and opportunities for family.
But from raising a baby/kid perspective, Switzerland is much better than the US.
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:52
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I moved here because it was what I wanted to do.

I figured to be here two years +/-, but now it's 25!

I have no regrets.

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My lovely husband and I sit at a crossroads. We have to decide where to live for the next 18 months to 2 years.

On one hand, we can stay in Lausanne. Our B permits have been renewed through to November 2012 and my husbands job is secure. We're feeling settled here and are learning to like the slower pace of life. We're considering adding to the family shortly (we want to get a dog) and then in a year to 18 months we'd like to try having a baby.

On the other hand, my husband has been offered the same position he holds here, in Silicon Valley. There is no extra money involved (his salary would be the same in US$ as Chf), but we would be starting from scratch again and going through the hellish ineptitude and stress that comes with relocating with the company. They don't do if often and the past two moves have not gone smoothly. Financially it doesn't seem to put us in a better place and going by past experience, the move would mean that my husbands wage would not increase at his subsequent pay review. His job will not be as secure. But my husbands career would get a boost. We're not sure when we'd feel settled enough to try for a family.

If we stay in Switzerland and turn down the offer of a move, it is possible that his career with his current company will stagnate.

There are other factors but these are the basics.

I'm not asking what you think we should do, but rather... whats your priority? Do you put your family life and security ahead, or your career?
Hi Nic, stay around in SZ for a few years...You have gotten comfortable, your husbands job is good, 18-24 months is not long enough for a career to stagnate and the dog will need time to settle in somewhere! Although boredom will also likely set in by then....I wouldn't uproot for CA at the moment, let's see how the US economy gets on in the next few years...Personally, I put family and security on par with my career: without it, there is no such thing as security for my family. Probably not a very popular view, but a rather realistic one for me Good luck with your decision!
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Hi Nic, stay around in SZ for a few years...You have gotten comfortable, your husbands job is good, 18-24 months is not long enough for a career to stagnate and the dog will need time to settle in somewhere! Although boredom will also likely set in by then....I wouldn't uproot for CA at the moment, let's see how the US economy gets on in the next few years...Personally, I put family and security on par with my career: without it, there is no such thing as security for my family. Probably not a very popular view, but a rather realistic one for me Good luck with your decision!
She listened to you, congrats!
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