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Avoiding shaking hands

I've recently had an operation on a broken bone in my hand and as a result am not keen on shaking hands with people, especially as there are some here in Switzerland who give really bonecrushing handshakes. Is there any polite way of avoiding this? Anyone else not a fan of handshaking>
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shake hands with your other hand?
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Old 19.06.2011, 10:36
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shake hands with your other hand?
use my left hand? how would that work?
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Re: Avoiding shaking hands

A cast or bandage on the hand would reinforce the idea that you don't want to shake for medical reasons rather than personal ones.
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use my left hand? how would that work?
well like any other "right hand handicapped" person you shake hands with the left hand and if necessary you tell them, sorry but my other hand is out of order.

and if you don't want to shake hands and don't stretch out your hand first they most likely won't do it either. if you're lucky!
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Old 19.06.2011, 10:44
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use my left hand? how would that work?
Well, it could be done. However, you may end up giving the limp fish shake that way
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A cast or bandage on the hand would reinforce the idea that you don't want to shake for medical reasons rather than personal ones.
I have been wearing a cast but must remove it to allow the hand to get back into shape again
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Old 19.06.2011, 10:45
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I think I'd wear a bandage or loose support so that it's obvious that my hand needs to be treated gently...
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well like any other "right hand handicapped" person you shake hands with the left hand and if necessary you tell them, sorry but my other hand is out of order.

and if you don't want to shake hands and don't stretch out your hand first they most likely won't do it either. if you're lucky!
I've never come across anyone who uses their left hand to shake hands
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use my left hand? how would that work?
Say you used to be a boy scout.

Or have a substitute hand:

avoiding-shaking-hands-fish-handshake.jpg

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Well, it could be done. However, you may end up giving the limp fish shake that way
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Re: Avoiding shaking hands

Reminds me of this video, on hand shaking with the left hand:




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shake hands with your other hand?
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I've never come across anyone who uses their left hand to shake hands
well then try it. what's there to lose eh?
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I've recently had an operation on a broken bone in my hand and as a result am not keen on shaking hands with people, especially as there are some here in Switzerland who give really bonecrushing handshakes. Is there any polite way of avoiding this?
Wear one glove..

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I've recently had an operation on a broken bone in my hand and as a result am not keen on shaking hands with people, especially as there are some here in Switzerland who give really bonecrushing handshakes. Is there any polite way of avoiding this? Anyone else not a fan of handshaking>
Why not just politely decline and let them know that you've recently had an operation on your hand? I'm sure most people would understand.
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Old 19.06.2011, 11:05
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I've never come across anyone who uses their left hand to shake hands
Shaking with left hand is rude.
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Shaking with left hand is rude.
Nope - completely the opposite.

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According to the Ashanti warrior version of the story, then-Colonel Baden-Powell saluted them with his right hand, but the Ashanti chiefs offered their left hands and said, "In our land only the bravest of the brave shake hands with the left hand, because to do so we must drop our shields and our protection." The Ashantis knew of Baden-Powell's bravery because they had fought against him and with him, and they were proud to offer the left hand of bravery.
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I've recently had an operation on a broken bone in my hand and as a result am not keen on shaking hands with people, especially as there are some here in Switzerland who give really bonecrushing handshakes. Is there any polite way of avoiding this? Anyone else not a fan of handshaking>
You could hug instead (works with Italians, in any case)

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Re: Avoiding shaking hands

We used to have a Dutch guy working at a company I was at when I first came to Switzerland and he had the most brutal handshake I have ever encountered. It was particularly painful because a ring I was wearing on my right hand was ground into the bones of the fingers either side of it.

Whenever he was visiting I used to avoid shaking hands with him with a variety of props and excuses from "I've just put handcream on and I'm all greasy." to ensuring I had something like a file or a box of pens in my hand at the moment he was going round greeting us.

Leave a bandage on your hand even after it's no longer required and people will avoid the handshake. If they go for it, just say "Oh, be careful it's still pretty tender" or similar.

Or fake a big sneeze into your hand just as you're being approached.
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We used to have a Dutch guy working at a company I was at when I first came to Switzerland and he had the most brutal handshake I have ever encountered.
Don't you just hate those kinf of people?
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Old 19.06.2011, 12:30
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Nope - completely the opposite.


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Example in Hindu culture but it also applies to other cultures.

THE LEFT HAND: In Hindu culture the left hand is considered impure because it is used (with water) in the place of toilet paper for personal hygiene after answering the call of nature. Handing another person anything with the left hand may be considered a subtle insult.
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