I've searched EF for information about this and I see that there have been mentions of such groups in the past, but I haven't been able to find anything current, so I'm posting my question now to all and sundry: I'm looking for an English-speaking support group to help me keep some perspective on issues from my divorce, which should have been final by now, but isn't.

Here are a couple of things I DON'T need:
- People to take my side all the time (though once in while would be OK).
- Legal advice about Swiss divorce law - my ex and my remaining minor child are in the US and I have an attorney there

Here's what I DO need:
- Someone, or several someones, to give me a reality check on what's reasonable to expect
- Hearing about other people's situations to give me perspective on my own

Does anyone know of a group out there that fits that description? I know it's a lot to ask. Moderated would be better, 'cause I do tend to run on myself, but I'm open to whatever's out there. My German's good enough that I can say what I want to say, but at the end of the day I'd be more comfortable speaking English.

I can't answer a lot of questions about this in public posts, partly because my ex is a divorce attorney himself, and there's no telling whom he might know here in CH. But feel free to PM me.

Cool idea, but never heard of anything like this here.

There has actually been some recent activity in this regard on an old thread:

Life after Divorce / Separation

The thread itself is well over a year old, but it was revived last month with some folks sharing updates and developments...accompanied by some noise about an informal get-together (or a series of them).

Unfortunately it's quieted down in the last couple weeks, and I don't know if anybody's actually managed to set anything up; if so I obviously didn't hear about it (and shame on me I haven't really taken any initiative myself) but it's something I would still be interested in too.

I will cross-link your inquiry into that thread and see if that revives any activity among people with better heads for organization than me !

Hang in there! When I was in the middle of the sh*t this time last year it helped me a lot to cruise around on EF and find out how many people have been through shockingly similar nightmares and survived. You're not alone.

All best,
Ed

I did three years training as a counsellor so I have quite a bit of interest in studying relationships and their dynamics.

There is a great forum which discusses next to every aspect of relationships, the site is http://www.loveshack.org

Their section on relationship breakups is particularly good. The strength of the forum lies in the fact that people who are posting their problems are being advised by tonnes of people who have been through the same issues themselves: afterall, there are only so many variations of a marriage/relationship breakup.

In the absence of a support group here in Switzerland, I highly recommend a visit to the forum.