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you should have asked your hospital for the contact numbers of english speaking mid wives..
Thanks aout07. I did ask and the most fluent one in the area wasn't able to take me so now I have one who does speak a little English - enough for us to get by :-) - and I do have to drag my hubby around everywhere....which he's actually loving!

I think I should take your advice about going the extra mile however and informing the hospital that I'd like English speakers for my delivery time. My body can only do one thing at a time
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

I was told to always be sure to have a very large glass of water by my chair while I nursed the baby in order to take that downtime to also hydrate myself. Adequate hydration will also help your body return to its natural digestive cycle. Apologies for being blunt, but combining an episiotomy with the possibility of constipation after delivery can be difficult, and all the extra water you drink will help with that problem along with providing for your milk supply.

Not sure how it is here, but in the US, hospital nurses would sometimes give babies pacifiers/binkies in order to soothe them, and sometimes this would be done when the babies were away from their moms. Breastfeeding consultants in the states would advise mothers who were trying to get breastfeeding off to a good start to be very clear to the hospital staff upon arriving, telling them under no circumstances should their baby be given a pacifier or sugar-water
bottle. Pacifiers for newborns can apparently contribute to nipple confusion, in which the baby does not do well at the breast due to differences in the feel of pacifiers and the breast.

Best of luck as the big day approaches! Try to write the details of the experience down in your journal as soon as you have time, if you are one who likes to do that kind of thing. Along with the memories of the pain, the memories of the little details of the day can pass away very quickly!
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Old 23.08.2011, 13:01
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

Not sure if this is the same in all hospitals but in mine they had a 4 hourly feeding rule - they had a little chart where you had to write down when they fed, had dirty nappies and temp etc... As this was my first baby I was very vulnerable and I felt that I had to do as the nurses told/advised me but I wish I just had the confidence to do what i liked as the 4 hourly feeds did not help with my zero milk supply.

So if I were to have my time again I would have kept baby with me all night (I felt a little pressured to send him to the baby room for the first two nights due to a crazy woman in the bed next to me) and I would have fed on demand and cuddled him for as long as I wanted - instead I had him in his little crib and I felt I wasn't allowed to do anything with him (obviously very much in my vulnerable mind) I have heard this from many other first time new mums also

So be confident and do what you want/feel you should do
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

Hii aout.. “Congratulations on becoming a new mother!” This is one compliment that you will hear time and again after you give birth to your little bundle of joy. Then it is all about completing the necessary formalities to get discharged from hospital and head home.Once you are home, you soon discover that apart from bringing you immense joy and excitement, your newborn has also brought you the everyday challenges of taking care of yourself as a new mother.... just a simple advice dear... the first few days after the delivery will be tiring and uncomfortable for you especially if are caring for your baby all by yourself. Try and get as much rest as possible and don't use the time when your baby sleeps to catch up on unfinished chores... hey..when is your due date ?? :-)
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

due date is 13 Sept. and we are all set to welcome the baby..we have already prepared all our paper work in advance including submitting our papers to the hospital. so kind of relaxed.
people's experience with the CHUV hospital are all extremely positive so that way also it is good. our personal experience also , during the visit of the hospital, was good...
i have a small doubt on mamma care. can you do all your day today activities normally after delivery and specially when you have stitches. like bathing and all ...must be difficult .
one of my friend had a very bad time as because of some reason the stitches got open and ....she really had tough time...
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i have a small doubt on mamma care. can you do all your day today activities normally after delivery and specially when you have stitches. like bathing and all ...must be difficult .
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Yes you can do all the day to day activities but if you have someone around to help you I suggest you let them do all the boring things like preparing meals, hoovering and stuff and just concentrate on the baby.

Stitches can make sitting uncomfortable for some people but not everybody. I took showers (not baths) the day after and it was no problem with the stitches.

Like others have said try to rest as much as possible, drink plenty of fluids and don't let the nursing staff push you into doing anything you're not happy about.

Most of all though just try to enjoy it. It is a very precious time and it passes so quickly. Before you know it the baby will be going to school.
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Old 23.08.2011, 22:05
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one of my friend had a very bad time as because of some reason the stitches got open and ....she really had tough time...
Yes aout, some mamas do have a tough time and complications, it's a fact.... And most mamas have decent labour with no complications at all

We're made to have children, it's not an illness in any way, it's a natural process and you'll be amazed at how you will just instinctively know what to do.
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due date is 13 Sept. and we are all set to welcome the baby..we have already prepared all our paper work in advance including submitting our papers to the hospital. so kind of relaxed.
people's experience with the CHUV hospital are all extremely positive so that way also it is good. our personal experience also , during the visit of the hospital, was good...
i have a small doubt on mamma care. can you do all your day today activities normally after delivery and specially when you have stitches. like bathing and all ...must be difficult .
one of my friend had a very bad time as because of some reason the stitches got open and ....she really had tough time...
Don't forget that 1 in 4 birth ends up in a c-section! I had 2 of them, it was no big deal, pain was not a problem at all, I was walking the next day. And it means you don't have stitches 'there'
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

If you do end up with stitches, try to remember to take the nice squirting water bottle they give you at the hospital home with you. If you put a few drops of lavender oil in warm water and squirt this on yourself ... ahem ... as you are going to the bathroom, it is very soothing (perhaps also soothing even if you don't have stitches, since everything "down there" is probably sore regardless). I made the mistake of leaving my water bottle at the hospital, but I improvised one (per my midwife's advice) from a mineral water bottle with a squirt cap. Not sure how it works out west, but here in the German-Swiss part, there were also lots of other little items you could take home from hospital, including lanolin (great for sore nipples), those enormous pads for the bleeding, and breast pads (I started leaking like crazy when my milk came in). Oh, and also one other thing they had at hospital that was a god-send were these lovely icy-cold pads that felt so nice and soothing on my sore lady bits.

As far as being able to do things postpartum, while the stitches did hurt, with a few paracetemol and ibuprofen, it was manageable, and, as long as you go slow and don't push yourself, you can do most everything, although I did find sitting rather uncomfortable for awhile. But then, this is a time for laying down and resting if you can. One thing I didn't expect though, was just how much adrenaline I actually had running through my body for several days after the birth. I found it very difficult to rest, even though I knew I had to (and everyone constantly told me, "rest when baby rests." I would have if I could have!). Even when baby was sleeping, I was simply too excited and relieved to rest properly. Then I found that I crashed at about 2 weeks after, and I became very moody and difficult to live with for awhile. Luckily this also passes relatively quickly after minor adjustments. Be kind to yourself, and soon you and baby won't be able to stop smiling and laughing together - a wonderful thing!

Great thread! I wish this had existed before I had my baby.
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due date is 13 Sept. and we are all set to welcome the baby..we have already prepared all our paper work in advance including submitting our papers to the hospital. so kind of relaxed.
people's experience with the CHUV hospital are all extremely positive so that way also it is good. our personal experience also , during the visit of the hospital, was good...
i have a small doubt on mamma care. can you do all your day today activities normally after delivery and specially when you have stitches. like bathing and all ...must be difficult .
one of my friend had a very bad time as because of some reason the stitches got open and ....she really had tough time...
I was like you and the "cutting", "tearing" and "stitches" bit was bothering me more than anything - I told my doctor who really reassured me, stitches are pretty common and a small cut can save a big nasty tear, which she would spot happening before it happened.

I did need a small cut which was then stitched with the dissolving stitches but, apart from the spikey-ness of the stitches (which goes after week or so and isn't that bad) my biggest worry was going for a poo. Apparently, it's nigh on impossible to burst the stitches so you don't have to worry about any further tears or rupturing the stitches. I also read on the babycentre website that, if you would feel more comfortable, you can go to the toilet in a bath of warm water.

Sounds a bit disgusting but, to be honest, by that time your dignity and modesty is shot to pieces so you just don't care.
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

Try the UK mums forum (www.mumsnet.com) - they have great "top tips" lists for mothers. My top tips are
- like sandgrounder said, the first post birth poo can be as traumatic as the birth. You need to drink lots of water - make sure you don't become constipated. Take a pack of those wet wipes (moist toilet
tissue /feuchthes Toilettenpapier) with you to the hospital.
- google "Dammmassage". Do this and then start at 32 weeks (Welleda do an oil for it). Of all the pre-birth stuff, this is the one statistically proven to significantly reduce likelihood and/or extent of episiotomy. Admittedly scary.
- do your pelvic floor exercises religiously
- the only people who can really help you with breastfeeding if you have problems are those trained in it (IBCLC trained). Midwives mean well but tend to be more focussed on baby gaining weight and the shift changes mean you will get conflicting advice from one shift to other (night shift is worst). Good idea to get contact details for an IBCLC consultant just in case. If you have problems, seek help early, eg as soon as you get home
- try and lean some breathing or relaxation exercises for the birth (yoga, hypnobirthing etc)
- don't be disappointed if you have an epidural or caesearean
- for bring in your milk or boosting supply, drinks which are isotonic can help - alcohol free beer is really good for this. Fennel tea (available from all chemists here) can also help. Welleda also do a "Stilltee" which is good.

Last but not least, I sometimes feel mums get forgotten in the after birth care. Yes, having a healthy baby is important, and baby is the centre of attention but there should also be good post birth education for mums on how to get your pelvic floor back in good shape. Contrary to all those tena lady ads in the UK it is not necessary for a mum to be incontinent by your 50s if you get help post birth with some simple exercises. I know that in French speaking countries a post-birth course of physiotherapy is covered by health insurance and very normal. Dunno if it is in German speaking Switzerland but I would pay money for such a course for the value it brings.

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Old 24.08.2011, 10:35
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

really great thread !!!
i really get assured after reading all the advices and all of them are priceless.
very true that mums get forgotten in the after birth care...
i was worried for all this because i am very active and strong. and i heard most of the people saying that if you care for yourself properly till one month after delivery, you will have no problem in future and will come back to your original self in a month but if you go wrong on this you might carry few problems life time. so why not be careful that one month.
let me tell you all..the thing i hate most during my pregnancy is being week and being dependent on others for small things ...
and i always ask my mom one thing ..always..will i be ok after my delivery..will i be same... physically
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and i always ask my mom one thing ..always..will i be ok after my delivery..will i be same... physically
Hm...you won't be exactly the same - but almost . After 3-4 months postpartum you'll begin to realise that there's "a world out there" to discover again.
But please give yourself up to 12 months to recover totally (physicaly and emotionaly) from pregnancy and birth. Yes - I know that sound like ages, but it will make you becoming more relaxed. Don't look at all those moviestars who look "normal" just a few weeks after birth. They can afford a physiotherapist, a personal trainer, someone who cleans the house and makes the laundry, a cook, a nanny...

As I am a mom of two and also a doula, I like this thread! This really helps to collect lots of helpful advice. Wishing you all the best for birth and postpartum.
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But please give yourself up to 12 months to recover totally (physicaly and emotionaly) from pregnancy and birth. Yes - I know that sound like ages, but it will make you becoming more relaxed. Don't look at all those moviestars who look "normal" just a few weeks after birth. They can afford a physiotherapist, a personal trainer, someone who cleans the house and makes the laundry, a cook, a nanny...
no no no.. i am not at all that figure conscious and all.. and do not plan to torture my self at all ...i just want to be as fast, strong and independent as i was before
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no no no.. i am not at all that figure conscious and all.. and do not plan to torture my self at all ...i just want to be as fast, strong and independent as i was before
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- google "Dammmassage". Do this and then start at 32 weeks (Welleda do an oil for it). Of all the pre-birth stuff, this is the one statistically proven to significantly reduce likelihood and/or extent of episiotomy. Admittedly scary.
- do your pelvic floor exercises religiously
Yes, that is what I also wanted to add, what degravesst said. Result: no cuts, no stitches, no tears, very little problems, happy new mom

And one more thing: we had the fresh grandmas visiting too soon after the birth. Those days are so magic, I would now just keep to ourselves for at least a month after the baby comes.
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Try this pillow http://www.mybrestfriend.com/
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Re: Pregnancy : after delivery care for mamma

Nice thread indeed. As a mum of a 4 month old, I am learning a few things now!
What about food post delivery? The hospital staff said eat whatever you like. But I've heard you should not have too much coffee - not more than 2 cups per day if you are nursing, but I had no such restrictions while in the hospital !
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Some babies are more sensitive than other. My boy would react strongly to coffeine, even coke was too much fir him. But I can drink two cups of coffee with my daughter without any secondary effect.

Some babies get a sore bum if you drink too much juice for instance. I think you have to observe your baby carefully, and then draw the links between what you eat and some of their symptoms and reactions.
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