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Old 16.09.2011, 10:18
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3 year old regressing

My daughter is regressing. Or pretending to regress. She keeps pretending to be a baby with sticky out tongue and goo-ga-boo-ba language.
I've asked her to stop being a baby because I don't understand her and it's annoying. And she just continues. So I ignore her when she is a baby, but she just crawls on me and 'urrrrr??' at me. I've asked her to speak German or English, and not a made up new language, but she won't.
I don't know what to do.
I think that she is able to get away with it at nursery because the other kids don't know she's making it up, and I suspect half the staff just think that she is speaking English with her strong Salfordian accent (which I have problems with, and I lived there for 10 years).
Plus her best friends at nursery are non-German speakers too, (Japanese, Malay, Italian). I worry that all these kids are learning a secret 'twin speak' pidgin.
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Re: 3 year old regressing

I read about this on mumsnet a while ago. I think the general consensus is it happens when a young child feels a bit insecure which can be triggered by any number of things (new baby in the house, a move, a new daycare, mum has a new partner, etc.,).

The advice seemed to be not to reprimand the child for the behaviour but ignore it and wait for it to pass and give them some extra positive attention, not related to the behaviour.
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Re: 3 year old regressing

It will pass for sure. What I usually do is go along for about 10 minutes, doing the baby stuff, it gives them the attention they are craving. After that I tell them that I am done. Usually things go back to normal pretty quickly after that.
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Old 16.09.2011, 10:50
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Re: 3 year old regressing

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I read about this on mumsnet a while ago. I think the general consensus is it happens when a young child feels a bit insecure which can be triggered by any number of things (new baby in the house, a move, a new daycare, mum has a new partner, etc.,).

The advice seemed to be not to reprimand the child for the behaviour but ignore it and wait for it to pass and give them some extra positive attention, not related to the behaviour.
That makes sense. Two moves (me and her to here, and her dad to Bucks), new daycare, lost friends, lost cats (moved to her dads), no new partner for mum yet though
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Very hard to deal with - but perfectly normal for 3 year olds, especially with lots of recent changes. It is the hardest thing to do, but just ignore it and deflect to another actitvity- it will pass- and the more you ignore, the quicker will this be. Chill out (so much easier to say than do, I know). Tell us how you get on.
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Re: 3 year old regressing

Try not to worry! I am a speech therapist and totally agree with other posts - ignore it as much as possible and reinforce ie lots of praise/attention etc when she communicates normally - she has undergone a lot of change and also she is obviously discovering the whole multilingual concept. Remember any attention to you give to a child's behaviour be it positive or negative reinforces that particular behaviour, so play 'dumb mum' fora while and ignore/ unable to understand all the baby stuff......it's just a phase I'm sure and it will pass
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Fill up her 'love tank' - with all that change in her life, she's likely to need a little more reassurance than usual...

Once things settle down at home, she may be ready to make some big developmental 'leaps' although it's still going on inside, even if you can't see it on the outside...
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