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Kudos to you for getting some resolution on this rather serious event. I must admit that, even with a private school, I find the schools here communicate a lot less than what I was accustomed to in the US. As a concussion is nothing to trifle with, especially in someone so young, I'd hope they give you something in writing as well as some sort of plan if "N." starts acting up again.

Also, maybe get your son enrolled in a judo course or something where he can learn to defend himself and understand he doesn't have to take that stuff if he doesn't want to. As someone who was the bullied for much of my early years, I'm an advocate for teaching kids that the epiphany of turning the tables and not being the victim is a very powerful one.
I agree. Teaching certain arts of protection is good. It is protection not aggression that many arts teach. Shame some parents here that think attack is the best way either by actual contact or over the top police or state action. In CH we live in a fantastic environment compared to others.
Again I say. Did some people grow up in a bubble.
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Yep you really should read the entire thred. When we all say good luck in a positive way.
Nobody else on the entire thread denounced another poster's advice as "stupid" which they should be "ashamed of".

That was my point.
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Re: HELP - concussion caused by schoolmate

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Nobody else on the entire thread denounced another poster's advice as "stupid" which they should be "ashamed of".
Well if you wanted a war between the families and the children that's what they would have had. Easy to write a load of views, but not easy to actually do it. It is far harder to give good advise.
The outcome was very sensible and rational. I am still concerned about the family as I have stated in my first post.... seems people still do not read the entire context.
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Old 16.09.2011, 22:13
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I might be wrong here, but I think that giving someone concussion isn't a school matter; it's a police matter.

The parents might take a little notice when the law turns up on their doorstep.
The child of one of my friends was reported to the police when he and a couple of friends bullied a younger girl at the local swimming pool. The police took it seriously, and the matter has been dealt with.

I'm glad it's worked out for you, venice. We are in a similar situation (including sports teacher - not including concussion!) and monitoring closely. Bullying flourishes in secrecy and dies in the light (psychopaths excepting). It must be dealt with, and those in authority must be made to deal with it. In our experience, at least where we live, they haven't need much persuading, thankfully.
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Old 16.09.2011, 22:22
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i think it is important that boys manage to fend for themselves somehow - they'll have to do it in later life. doesn't always have to be physical defence. i was a very small kid and the few bullies that tried to get me regretted it
Actually, girls play even less fair. Thank god you tube and mobile phones weren't around when I snapped and beat the crap out of the girl who tormented me almost daily for 5 years. I kicked her ass, gave her a black eye and, well, went more than a little mental on her. Like the kid in the video, we were both suspended from school for a week. My mother was less than approving/understanding, but I never doubted I did the right thing after that. Even the principal wrote "Hold your own on that bus" in my yearbook. Nobody dared bother me after that. It's darwinian dynamics at its finest. You're only a victim as long as you let them push you around. Both on the playground and in professional life.
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Each to their own though PT- some of us learn how to deal with violence and bullying in different ways, which are very successful too.
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Each to their own though PT- some of us learn how to deal with violence and bullying in different ways, which are very successful too.
I agree with and believe that but...like I say, there are some who require the medieval approach. When you age, you realize politics are just a more refined exercise in playground behavior, but when you're a kid, nothing gets the asshats off you faster than taking on the leader and physically saying that you've had enough. Of course, in this day and age of youtube it's a bit more complicated, but I'd still kick that girl's ass today as it was a powerful revelation to me after being the bullied nerd for so long. Taking the high road only works for so long. Nothing says 'leave me alone' like a good punch. It's not a first response but...
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That is excellent news, I am glad it has been sorted out without going to the police. I hope the father sorts his son out and you have no further trouble.
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I agree. Teaching certain arts of protection is good. It is protection not aggression that many arts teach. Shame some parents here that think attack is the best way either by actual contact or over the top police or state action. In CH we live in a fantastic environment compared to others.
Again I say. Did some people grow up in a bubble.
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I agree, well handled. As for as all the stupid advise of going to the police etc. be very ashamed with yourselves, I hope a lesson is here.
So what would you do when 4 school friends beat up your son near his home and then urinate on him? This happened to a friend of mine in Bern. His mother went round to speak to the four families, only one family listened to her. The other 3 shut the door in her face. (She has a Swiss passport, is blond, blue eyes, and is a nurse) Don't think everything is fine here because the Alps look nice! The Swiss have a history of fighting as mercenaries, they are not a mild race.
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Re: HELP - concussion caused by schoolmate

happy for your result.

If you follow my advice, your kiddy will be ready for next time...

either that or you can make the kid into a Schwinger
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