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Advice for father on getting separated


So I'm in a relationship where it just can't continue any more, but at a loss for how to do next step. There are two small children involved and the fights are really harming them. Paths like couple therapy are all exhausted and the relationship is just getting worse.

I guess there are other forums on the net to talk about this but I'm asking here because, as an expat in Zurich, I'm hoping for practical advice that's also relevant to Switzerland.

I'm the father and also sole breadwinner for the family. With almost daily fights happening, I need to move out as soon as possible. My salary won't stretch to much more than a room in a flatshare and right now I badly need some privacy. Moving the whole family right now isn't going to work; it's hard enough keeping the basics going and there's too much hostility to do much more.

My job is fairly high pressure and it's difficult to slack off. I'm also worried that my employer may make an issue out of it, if there's a whiff of "troubles at home". Loss of job puts in question the topic of staying in Switzerland. She is also an expat, so that will affect the whole family.

I don't much time for flat hunting and it's likely my partner is going to be highly uncooperative, to put it nicely. I'm hoping I can stay near enough that there's a chance to stay in touch with the children, but it looks like economics are going to dictate.

Once we're at a distance, can deal with the rest of the mess but right now it's difficult to think clearly about what's next, with constant battles going on.

Any pointers, advice, tips etc. very much appreciated. Sorry if this sounds pathetic but it feels like I'm going round in circles at the moment and not finding any answers.

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Re: Advice for father on getting separated

Like you said, move out and re-examine the issues from a distance.

No sure if this applies to you, but there is a place in Erlenbach, ZH called
Zwüschehalt ( exact location is not made known to the public ) that might be able to host you on a temporary basis - worth investigating as a start.

Children are resilient, take care of yourself!

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