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Need Advice getting divroce from swiss girl.

Dear friends,
I am new to this website. I am not sure if i am asking the correct question in this website. I am from Delhi India.

I got married in swiss with a swiss girl 2 years ago.
In one year I realise Marriage was not going well and i tried very hard to keep things going better but i think i am failing day by day

I am working from 8 years in europe
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2 years in switzerland as Full time position 100% worker . I have permit B.
My partner is not working since the time i arrive in switzerland and keep asking money and money and money only. So i am tired of paying and i have a feeling my partner will never work again as it is totally dependent on me. I am scared if i keep people making dependend on me then they will never do anything in their life. when i ask to do any social work in life to make herself busy they torcher me with swiss laws that government will force me to pay and i will be not able to do anything. we dont have kid.

I am tired of getting depression it is causing troubles in my work as well.

what should i do now? it take much time to make clients in switzerland and now my clients trust me a lot and want to work with me long terms i need more time to get stabalized and no having any legal trobules for next 1 and half year more.

If i apply divorce quickly what will be my status? shall i be through out from the country right away ? as some people tell me about it. Even i pay taxes?
how much i must pay even after divorce?
you think i must go to a lawyer?
Shall i need to reset my life again ?

thanks again.
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Old 03.10.2011, 16:52
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Re: Need Advice getting divroce from swiss girl.

You're biggest problem is your permit when it comes to renewing it.
This website may help you. See the bottom paragraph. 3 years is usually required to keep your permit.
http://www.binational.ch/en/fragen/trennung.html

Your wife is delusional if she things that the courts will make you pay forever. The days of paying a wife forever are long gone. She will be required to get off her behind and start looking for a job (or another man to pay her bills) not long after the divorce. Especially if she is young.
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Re: Need Advice getting divroce from swiss girl.

this was really great help.
I did not knew about this 3 year minimal thing.
So it means once i say sorry i can not pay i am in serious problem. I got my answer. I understand now they why she dont work even many offers came by sitting home all the time.
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You're biggest problem is your permit when it comes to renewing it.
This website may help you. See the bottom paragraph. 3 years is usually required to keep your permit.
http://www.binational.ch/en/fragen/trennung.html

Your wife is delusional if she things that the courts will make you pay forever. The days of paying a wife forever are long gone. She will be required to get off her behind and start looking for a job (or another man to pay her bills) not long after the divorce. Especially if she is young.
However if you can demonstrate sufficient occupational ties to CH with CH customers, this may be enough for you to have a normal permit based on your work.

Is your current employment sufficient to qualify for a normal immigrant occupational B? Is your current B "conjoint"? You'll need to apply for it to be changed once you apply for divorce.

If you've no issues then it should go through.

What are your separation plans? Are you planning to move out? You may need to avoid potential accusations. Consult with a lawyer on the money/maintenance issue. Withdrawal of "funding" pre-divorce could be aggravational.
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this was really great help.
I did not knew about this 3 year minimal thing.
So it means once i say sorry i can not pay i am in serious problem. I got my answer. I understand now they why she dont work even many offers came by sitting home all the time.
thanks
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She doesn't work because she doesn't want to work. That's just the way it is. I'm guessing it wouldn't matter if she was married to you or someone else. You have to either accept her the way she is or find someone else. Or, maybe you can see if she is depressed? People who are depressed don't want to work. Did she want to work before you were married?

If you are living as a married couple, someone will have to pay the bills and that seems to be your are the one making the money. But I would look for what your options are before you start thinking about divorce. Don't she has all the power because she doesn't. Like I said, the judge will not make you pay her forever.

I don't know how you do this since you already have a permit linked to your marriage, but you should figure out how & when you can get an independent permit. (ETA: I see that Magyir has given you some advice for this. Go talk to a lawyer).

And in the mean time, try not to make war with your wife. You know what she is like, so you will have to deal with it for now until you can figure out what to do.
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Re: Need Advice getting divroce from swiss girl.

Thank you very much both of you to guide me a lot.
1. I am very hard working person
2. My company have no problem to hire me as independent. If i say my company to do it now they will do it because i am highly expertise what i do in software industry.
3. But at this moment i am trying to be a independent worker and i am making clients and my new clients are very much intrested just need some time to be getting settle correctly.
I got this permit B when i came to switzerland and then in 20 days i found my job and i Pay taxes to it.

Yes she ask me one day to leave home which I pay . I agree there might be a mental desease going on as well , which is that I am Swiss and I must work somethings special not like a normal worker and big film dreams came in brain i believe.
thank you very much guys you was so great me to give advice.

I think first i must be quiet and pay until i can and concentrate on my work which take me 10 years to build. I know it is very hard as you have to pay all the time and then for you own work building activies i have to work more harder.

I understand a man should not marry when women want only money or where the laws are only for a country national not for other side.

thanks again Grv.
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