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Old 20.12.2011, 11:58
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well, actually, I'm a married father, and my generalisations are based on quite a number of observations.
Are you also into wingsuit jumping, high altitude climbing, maybe bomb disposal? Just askin'- you seem to have no fear.
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well, actually, I'm a married father, and my generalisations are based on quite a number of observations.
How many births have you attended where the mother was screaming without pause throughout the entire labour?

I personally wish I'd had enough energy left to scream instead of gasping between breaths "Am I done yet?" but I guess that's the reality of the situation, isn't it?
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Old 20.12.2011, 14:54
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How come a lot of women turn esoteric once they are pregnant or mothers? Does the hormone change impede rational thinking?
Maybe because we think the moment we get into hospital to give birth everything is taken away from us that is called dignity and self-determination and our bodies do not belong to us any more? A healthy woman with a normal pregnancy is very well capable of giving birth at home, that's what our body was made for. Kids were born at home for millennia, and the few cases where it is not possible or a problem comes up, it's good to have a hospital close enough.
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If I hadn't had to have c-secs I certainly would have opted for home birth. I think you are more in control and many interventions performed in a hospital are only necessary because you're in a hospital or the staff is not patient enough and wants to get over with it.
This was exactly the reason I planned a homebirth. I was scared of people making choices for me and telling me what's best, when it's not always a case of what's best, but a case of hurry up, you're taking up too much time, making too much if a fuss etc..

I had a lot of people tell me it was foolish to give birth at home, that I was putting my baby at risk (really). I had a perfect pregnancy with no complications. I was referred to a doctor to give me a check-up to see if I could have a HB, who basically laughed at me, patronised me by saying why would I want to do that, when hospitals are the best place for it.

Afterall I did go to hospital and it wasn't that bad. Actually I was happy to leave the mess for someone else to clear up, and have my breakfast lunch and dinner served right to my bed!
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Old 20.12.2011, 22:42
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Afterall I did go to hospital and it wasn't that bad. Actually I was happy to leave the mess for someone else to clear up, and have my breakfast lunch and dinner served right to my bed!
Funnily enough the mess aspect is something I had totally misunderstood before I had my first and worried me a lot. I became rather manic in the last few weeks and bought rolls of plastic and covered every cushion and bean bag in sight. When it came to it, the midwife had a couple of waterproof disposable sheets and the "mess" was confined to those .. and they went straight in the bin.

But the meals served to your bed .. now that is something you can't easily fix. I had my parents come stay on both occasions and it worked wonderfully - but you have to get on well with them to have them in the house at such at time!
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. I was referred to a doctor to give me a check-up to see if I could have a HB, who basically laughed at me, patronised me by saying why would I want to do that, when hospitals are the best place for it.
Of course that's what they say. After all doctors have been controlling women's bodies long enough.

Did you know that when anesthesia was invented clergymen strongly objected to using it for births, saying women had to suffer during childbirth because of original sin and the bible said so? And once they started using it women became completely apathetic during birth, were forced to lie on their backs which resulted in forceps births and other interventions because the women didn't know when to push any more and lost their self confidence in being able to give birth.
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Re: Homebirth

Thanks for these many useful replies, (and some less interesting as well) it's just good to know that there are more people here that experienced homebirth. As it is my fifth child, I will plan this homebirth and if in any case necessary, I will go to the hospital.
Most of the arguments against it are not predictable (complications aren't likely giving birth to four already (one even in breach)). The mess doesn't bother me (it's not as bad as many fear!), dinner can be arranged (my husband will manage and after a day or two family is expected), other kids around me are fine (would miss them around in the hospital and above all I don't want to exclude them the first few days).
But I trust my instincts and if I can't relax in the first stage of giving birth, I will drive (or let me drive) to the hospital, just to be sure.
More experience is of course welcome (not necessary recent ;-))!
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Old 21.12.2011, 09:48
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Re: Homebirth

This is such a wonderful thread. Even though I've now decided on a hospital birth, I have to say that if I have more children (this is my first), I will still consider a home birth.

I hope your fifth home birth goes well. I've struggled a lot just with this pregnancy so far and I'm wow'd by anyone who has been through five pregnancies! *sends good luck hugs*
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Re: Homebirth

Thanks, Isabella,

It's not my fifth pregnancy though, I had twins
Wish you all the best too, hopfully with no further complications, how far are you along?
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well, actually, I'm a married father, sentences including the words "a lot" aren't generalisations, and my posting is based on quite a number of observations.

who did you observe?
your wife?

btw i didnt scream, even without a gram of painkillers

and we become esoteric, because we are putting someone else's life before ours, and giving it the best care that we possible can.....its just something mothers and women do.
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Old 21.12.2011, 15:47
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Re: Homebirth

I'm 24 weeks along. Still waiting for this whole "glowing pregnant woman" thing as the morning sickness continues in full swing!

P.S. Twins still count as five, given you have two lots of limbs kicking you. ;p

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