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Old 21.02.2012, 17:46
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Must be out of a Turkish porno magazine
Actually, her name is Monique and she is married.
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Old 21.02.2012, 17:47
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Well, I'm no yenta, but I figure if you've only hugged and are posting here for advice as to whether he's a keeper, I'm pretty sure you already know that answer is a fairly firm "no". You're 40, not 20-something anymore, and have a better idea of who you are and who you'd like to spend your time with so take your own advice. This isn't the Victorian Age...if you haven't at least kissed by the 3rd date, move on. (And, yes, it's a bit douchey to ask you out to dinner and then spring the expectation of going dutch after you've already arrived.)
You are right! Will sleep over it! But the truth is there in front of me now.... It's so sad!
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He isn't interested anymore but was just looking for a quick number. He's annoyed that you didn't give up the "goodies" as yet and thus doesn't feel like having to feed you.

Oouuch, that's hurts! Thanks anyway
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Old 21.02.2012, 17:56
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You are right! Will sleep over it! But the truth is there in front of me now.... It's so sad!
It would be worse to be in an unsatisfying relationship.
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Old 21.02.2012, 18:04
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Are u sure about that? Fill me in, please
Why ask me just because he isn't about to?
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Old 21.02.2012, 18:39
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Why ask me just because he isn't about to?
When do you tell a date you're gay??

FFS - you are 40yo - and you need dating advice??

If he invites you out for a 5th date just invite him over and cook for him instead. If he isn't keen on that - kick him to the kerb.

Now Shuma - you need to post a picture, that way we can ascertain whether it is you or him
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Old 21.02.2012, 18:42
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When do you tell a date you're gay??
LOL you know how I know you're gay?

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Old 21.02.2012, 19:03
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Must be out of a Turkish porno magazine
Nah, Turkish girls are super clean and hairless. Thanks to the hamam and inexpensives esthetics salons.
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Re: Fourth Date ...end of the Road?

Ooooh My God , those guys I would throw out in a XL trash bag! if he's a man and he ask U out he should pay for ALL.. if that was me I would have refuse.. and slap his damm face and walk off.. DUMP HIM.. he's not worth your time.. DUMP HIM .. TOO MANY FISHES OUT THERE AND BETTER !
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Re: Fourth Date ...end of the Road?

by the fourth date you kinda know each other and you are starting to be more yourself with the other and leaving the pretenses behind. he could be showing you that in his kind of relationship, the woman is 50% responsible for expenses. We women are either down with that or not.

if you want the kind of man who will pay for meals and whatever goes with that , he's not that. if you don't like that, don't move on with him. if it doesn't bother you, keep going. i guess it depends how important that is to you.

personally, i would suggest going for drinks before dinner and inviting him(i.e you pay). maybe he just wants to know you aren't hungry and using him as a meal ticket (men have these funny ideas) or that you are willing to offer something to him also. plus, it does feel nice to have someone treat you to something, i'm sure he'd like that as well.
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Old 21.02.2012, 19:06
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Ooooh My God , those guys I would throw out in a XL trash bag! if he's a man and he ask U out he should pay for ALL.. if that was me I would have refuse.. and slap his damm face and walk off.. DUMP HIM.. he's not worth your time.. DUMP HIM .. TOO MANY FISHES OUT THERE AND BETTER !
I feel like I want to slap you instead...
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Old 21.02.2012, 19:24
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I feel like I want to slap you instead...
You've promised me that so many times, but still haven't gotten your cute ass on an airplane to ZRH!
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Old 21.02.2012, 19:26
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You've promised me that so many times, but still haven't gotten your cute ass on an airplane to ZRH!
I am so laughing out loud right now!

Depends.......are you gonna pay my tickets?
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It would be worse to be in an unsatisfying relationship.
I hear you out! Thanks
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Old 21.02.2012, 19:39
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I am so laughing out loud right now!

Depends.......are you gonna pay my tickets?
I think you're going to have to pay half Nil...
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Old 21.02.2012, 19:42
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I think you're going to have to pay half Nil...
Well, I ain't a cheap girl.

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Re: Fourth Date ...end of the Road?

Shuna, It really not an issue who pays.
If you are comfortable with him, it just won't matter.

The real issue is.. 4th date and no kiss..
and worse.... "I need to get to know you" ? for a sweet kiss ? please !!

Keep moving young lady, you're just wasting your time, there are many fine gentlemen out there.
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Old 21.02.2012, 20:06
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Re: Fourth Date ...end of the Road?

The general dating rule in Germanic countries, is if he buys something for you, he expects something in return. If you pay your own way on the fifth and sixth dates, he can't expect any sexual favours. But you can still pay your 50% and still shag him: that would be a very nice gesture!
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Re: Fourth Date ...end of the Road?

Dear Shuna, first of all good luck - whether you decide to stick with the fellow or not.

A couple of (quite different) perspectives to consider:

1) From my (German) OH - bet that the guy does not want to take any gambles, whether because of his age, his past, or his personality - he wants to really make sure he knows you, get to know your personality, etc. and perhaps feels like he would be treating you cheaply if he jumped immediately to the physical aspects of the relationship. Regarding paying, it depends what you did before (who paid, etc.) but if one always paid, then it makes sense at some point to go 50-50, as the relationship develops.

2) From me - I don't give a da** who pays, never did, have no problems either way, or going 50-50. That is something totally irrelevant to me personally. On the other hand, to me, getting to know each other involves spiritual, mental, and physical, all three equally important. If I went out 4 times with a guy and no physical contact beyond friendly gestures, then he would be classed as "friend" in my book, and that's the end of it. If he "wakes up" later, tough luck.
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Ooooh My God , those guys I would throw out in a XL trash bag! if he's a man and he ask U out he should pay for ALL.. if that was me I would have refuse.. and slap his damm face and walk off.. DUMP HIM.. he's not worth your time.. DUMP HIM .. TOO MANY FISHES OUT THERE AND BETTER !
Haha. This post belongs to the gender equality thread
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