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facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

a friend of mine is married for 3 year now and everytime she gets in a argument with her husband about facebook . she want's her husband password and he wont give it to her.


what kind of advice do you think i should give to her ?
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Old 06.03.2012, 21:09
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a friend of mine is married for 3 year now and everytime she gets in a argument with her husband about facebook . she want's her husband password and he wont give it to her.


what kind of advice do you think i should give to her ?
Grow up? Both of them.....
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Old 06.03.2012, 21:11
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

If her husband won't even be her friend on Facebook, they have waaaaay bigger problems than Facebook.
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Old 06.03.2012, 21:16
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a friend of mine is married for 3 year now and everytime she gets in a argument with her husband about facebook . she want's her husband password and he wont give it to her.


what kind of advice do you think i should give to her ?
Why does she want to log in as he on his account?? Sounds like some control issues happening or she wants to be controlling him.

If she is friended then she can see what's going on, except for any private mails he may send or receive. What has she told you as to why she wants his password ?

Sounds like there's a lot more to the story and unless you're going to be their marital counsellor probably best you stay supportive but uninvolved.
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Is it a joke or you really need an advice?
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Maybe these people can help her get the password?
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Old 06.03.2012, 21:35
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

They can both LOG IN to FB and go to Chat to discuss the problem.


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They can both LOG IN to FB and go to Chat to discuss the problem.
Or perhaps his wife should nicely ask what is she looking for? They can try to find it together...
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Old 06.03.2012, 22:20
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a friend of mine is married for 3 year now and everytime she gets in a argument with her husband about facebook . she want's her husband password and he wont give it to her.


what kind of advice do you think i should give to her ?
maybe something along the lines of ''listen, you crazy control freak, get a mother-f#*cking grip and chillax''
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Old 07.03.2012, 00:04
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Ah ! The secret to every healthy relationship; respect, honesty and facebook password
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Old 07.03.2012, 00:13
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Does she also check his phone and sms`s each day when he gets home from work?
Sometimes , as hard as it is, the word trust means also to trust someone and not creep up on them every time they turn a corner. Everyone deserves a bit of privacy!! Respect it and life will be easier.
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a friend of mine is married for 3 year now and everytime she gets in a argument with her husband about facebook . she want's her husband password and he wont give it to her.


what kind of advice do you think i should give to her ?
Tell her to log into his mobile phone. That normally goes automatically into his facebook account from his email account. Or does she need a password for his mobile phone too?
I have the feeling that your friend is a bit insecure. He should leave him some space unless she really enjoys being stressed.

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Old 07.03.2012, 00:29
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Hmmm...

Why would she want to be with somebody she does not trust, to start with? If she cannot, or does not want to trust, that's a whole different story.
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Old 07.03.2012, 08:56
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Sometimes it's better not to know things!
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Old 07.03.2012, 09:04
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

I saw your message so I turned Facebook off for you.

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Old 07.03.2012, 09:09
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Looks like instead of sharing passwords they brought down facebook ! No facebook this morning
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Old 07.03.2012, 09:39
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

To the OP: there's a trust problem in the marriage. Warning: Do not get involved except for being a good friend.

To the rest:

Is it vital to a relationship to be facebook friends if both have facebook accounts?

I used to think yes but now I'm not so sure.
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

Wish her good luck and they need to talk about it.
I do think Fb is a good tool but in some hands if someone as a
closed personality it can be a strugle for a relation.
I rather like human interaction and e mails and phone to get in touch
and feel strange about a non outgoing person who has
hundred of Friends on FB and told you it s for work .
I do call Fb book lol.
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Old 07.03.2012, 09:52
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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

When I logged on here yesterday it was EF standard. This morning it's teeny world and everyone is on about Facebook and being virtual friends.

If I don't get a green blob on the hour, every hour until midnight Friday, I will start randomly de-friending people on Facebook starting at 10:00am....

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Re: facebook being a big problem in relation and marriage

In accordance to facebook rules, it is forbidden to give your password to anyone (even your spouse) maybe he is a stickler for the rules, maybe he just does not want to give it to her, why should he have to? After 3 years of marriage, this is a reason for problems, they need to grow up.
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