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Old 20.04.2012, 14:37
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URGENT advise regarding Child Maintenance needed!!!

Hello,

I was raped and as a result I got a child. Anyway, this man obviously didn't acknowledge his child.
I am single mother and the Swiss Government thinks (quite rightly) that this man should pay Child Support.
This man is a British National and lives in the UK. I have traced him and given all the information to the Maintenance people here in Switzerland.

The Swiss Maintenance has contacted him ordering him to acknowledge the child and start paying child maintenance. This man has replied that he doesn't know me, but it's ok to do a DNA test. I don't trust this man, I am pretty sure he will try to scam the DNA test or will change his mind about doing it.

I talked about this with Child Maintenance and they said, if he doesn't do the test, they will take him to court; and if I am not happy with the result of the test, they will take him to court. They told me he can't escape!

I also asked what rights does this man have on my child, and they told me that he has the right to see him, but I am the one who decides where and how. I told if it was ok to let him see the child in a contact center in Switzerland, and they said it's ok. Although, I would prefer this man not to see my child. And, I personally don't think he will want to see my child anyway.

I am scared/confused. I don't know if I can trust the Maintenance people. I reported this man to police in the UK and it seemed they were going to put him in jail, just for them to drop the case. I will be devastated if the maintenance let him get away with it one more time!!

How does it work if I have to go to court for the Maintenance??? Does someone know about this??

I want some sort of justice to what happened to me in order to be able to move on!!

Please, help!!

Thanks!!!
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Old 20.04.2012, 14:48
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Re: URGENT advise regarding Child Maintenance needed!!!

Hi and welcome to the welcome. Rape is a crime, and other matters who have mentioned including visitation and child support and civil matters.

You claim to be in Zürich and I suggest you seek professional advice from:

http://www.weisser-ring.ch/html/opferhilfe.html

http://www.frauenhaus-schweiz.ch/

http://www.frauenberatung.ch/cms/fro...dcat=84&lang=1

http://www.frauengegengewalt.ch/

http://www.opferhilfe.zh.ch/internet...e/de/home.html

http://www.opferhilfe.zh.ch/internet...rnational.html

http://www.bj.admin.ch/content/bj/en...pferhilfe.html
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Re: URGENT advise regarding Child Maintenance needed!!!

I have no advice but wanted to say what a devastating thing to go through. You sound very strong in not letting this lie and I hope you get justice.
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