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I am an english woman considering dating a swiss man. I live in England (he lives near Baden) and we communicate through email, text messages and phone calls, however he does not respond to emails and text messages promptly I often wait days for a reply but is fine talking on the phone. He is not enthusiatic about coming to visit me in England so I often think he is not really interested but then he will say something that shows he is interested, I just cant work him out as I am very honest, open with my feelings and I am just not used to this behaviour, any advice from swiss men and english women would be great.
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get rid of him.
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I think I know him. He's married...
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

If you share his address, I'll pop around this afternoon after work and have a word with him to see exactly what's going on.

Just leave it to to the EF love investigators, we're always on the look out for white socked Aargauers ....

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Re: english woman dating swiss man

Email: Lots of people don't like cumunicating through them. Texts: ditto. Telephone: He likes that? Well, that's a bonus. Lots of guys don't like that either, finding it's too verbal. Doesn't want to visit you in the UK: too expensive?

Have you visted him here? Does he want you to do that? If not, then he's hardly potential dating material I think you should be looking elsewhere.

But if he does want you to come over, then do so. that will give you a chance to see him on his home turf, get to know him better and then decide whether you/he are interested in developing any romantic relationship.
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

Did you meet each other before? Or did you find him on Internet?
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

How is he with the idea of you coming to visit him in Switzerland?

(Full disclosure -- I am neither an English woman nor a Swiss man, thus not qualified to comment )
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What's that got to do with anything? We found each other on the Internet and you're a really nice person Nil!
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

I think the point was, have they met in person or just via Skype etc.

A one way to travel for someone you have never seen in the flesh
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One way, sheesh, long way even
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

123andreaferns - I am Swiss (and have lived in English speaking countries for many years), married to a wonderful Swiss man.

The Swiss are not know for being forthcoming and demonstrative (well perhaps the Swiss Italians and the Swiss French more than the Swiss Germans). However, we are reliable, careful and honour our committments. It just takes time!

My penny's worth is give the relationship a chance and definitely come over to this beautiful country to see for yourself.

Good luck!
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123andreaferns - I am Swiss (and have lived in English speaking countries for many years), married to a wonderful Swiss man.

The Swiss are not know for being forthcoming and demonstrative (well perhaps the Swiss Italians and the Swiss French more than the Swiss Germans). However, we are reliable, careful and honour our committments. It just takes time!

My penny's worth is give the relationship a chance and definitely come over to this beautiful country to see for yourself.

Good luck!
I also know (and know of), many Swiss divorcees, where the demise of the relationship was primarily caused by infidelity.
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

TiMow - yes, of course, the Swiss are just people. So some relationships do not last a lifetime. That is a risk everyone takes and is part of accepting life to the full.

I also know of people who are much happier in relationships the second or third time round.
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It has nothing to do with anything, I am just curious!
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Hi! I'm not Swiss or English but I don't think that a long distance relationship can work, especially if you are not living in the same country and especially if you never met. Communicating by email or by phone is much more different than interacting with the person on a daily life. You tend to see only the person's good sides and only what he wants to show you. I wouldn't go on with this relationship if I were in your place. I'm sure there are a lot of nice English men out there waiting for you. Have a great day.
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I am an english woman considering dating a swiss man. I live in England (he lives near Baden) and we communicate through email, text messages and phone calls, however he does not respond to emails and text messages promptly I often wait days for a reply but is fine talking on the phone. He is not enthusiatic about coming to visit me in England so I often think he is not really interested but then he will say something that shows he is interested, I just cant work him out as I am very honest, open with my feelings and I am just not used to this behaviour, any advice from swiss men and english women would be great.
Dump him! email me instead Sorry cant offer advice as am not a Swiss man or an English Woman, but an English man in Zurich
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

Before dating I would receive fairly prompt replies to emails and we would message whenever we were both online. (I was in America.) As soon as the friendship turned romantic, I received emails every single day until I moved here… and then we still messaged online in the evenings or talked on the phone.

I would take a visit to see what he is like or if he is worth your time. My Swiss man wasn't interested in moving to the US at the time, so it was pretty clear I would have to take a gamble and move or we would have dissolved.
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however he does not respond to emails and text messages promptly I often wait days for a reply.
He's not a real Swiss then. Usually they answer within an hour or two.

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but is fine talking on the phone.
Like..for hours? No, not much Swissy thing.

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He is not enthusiatic about coming to visit me in England.
Oh, definitely not Swiss. They are willing to come to even more dubious places. (at least for a visit)


Are you sure you know something about this guy?
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Re: english woman dating swiss man

Maybe he's just reluctant to get too emotionally involved at this point, since he has never met you "in-person" and may not be too keen on the idea of having a long-distance relationship.

When I first met my (Swiss) husband online, he asked me: "What are the chances of us ever meeting in person?" I think he asked this because he didn't want to become too emotionally invested in a relationship that would probably never really materialize. (Of course, then we visited each other a few times and fell madly in love! )

My suggestion is to give him his space and to not push anything. Let things just evolve naturally. If it's meant to be, it will be.
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