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Ungrateful Me.

My bed died. Stupid stupid slats with rubber crap ends, hubby and I sleeping for 5'ish years on a double bed (140x200) with said stupid slats and with rubber ends which were never intended to hold two people of our combined size especially.

So. We're looking to get a new bed. I'm looking at Ikea, m-i-l has credit card for Manor and suggests we go to Fly, she'll pay and we'll pay her back. I don't like what they have at Fly. I LIKE what they have at Ikea. She says that the stuff from Fly will last longer - but the cost for JUST the mattress (which I'm less happy with than the Ikea ones!!!!!!!!) is more than the entire cost for bed frame, mattress and slats from Ikea.

Btw, the "crap" bed we have now is from Pfister apparently. Is Fly any better than Pfister?


Because the payment issue is somewhat solved by her help, I'm feeling ungrateful that I DO NOT want to buy a bed that's going to cost 2.5 times what I want to pay. I checked and Ikea offers credit options, I think hubby should just apply and we buy what I want ourselves.

In my position, what would you do?
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

Peg, I am an expert in this field. ;-) I am sending you a PM.
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Old 13.08.2012, 00:25
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

We had our ikea for five years and the last year started to be very uncomfortable. We switched to one from a specialized company and the difference is amazing.

Did you checked prices to mattress stores specialists?
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

Hubby and I are very happy with our Ikea bed which we've had for a year now. Plus it has a 15 year guarantee -- can't go wrong with that, imo.
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We have an Ikea bed - and the mattresses are total rubbish. We've replaced them under the guarantee already and would do so again except I can't find the paperwork from 7 years ago (not that it's legible because as of 3 years ago the ink had totally faded).

We have a 180x200 and the mattresses have sunk in the middle to the point there's a huge dip that we can't fix. We've tied the mattresses together tighter, flipped them multiple times - and we still have the problem.

We're now talking of buying a bed in North America and shipping it over. If you have the funds to buy non-Ikea I would suggest it.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

We've finally succumbed - and each have a 140cm bed together - bliss
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

Can you live with the mattress you have for a while, just placing it on the floor? If so, tell your MIL that you have not decided which bed you prefer and that you plan to shop around a bit more prior to making a purchase.

Go shopping at Ikea without her and apply for credit; if you are approved, go ahead and purchase the bed you like. Tell her that the Ikea bed was the one that felt best, and that personal comfort was the most important factor in your decision. If you find that there is a problem and you will need her help with the purchase, no need to admit that you had considered going it alone at Ikea - just schedule another shopping trip with her to Fly as soon as possible.

In my experience, parents and inlaws who are "invested" in their children's marriages via offering financial help sometimes feel that they have the right to be equally invested in other decision-making areas of their lives as well. Not trying to assume anything about your personal situation, just saying that it might be easier to avoid any potential future issues in which your inlaws could possibly feel entitled to intervene in you and your husband's affairs by dealing with the unexpected expense without their help.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

So to sum up, the choice is: either, for 10 years, your mother-in-law is happy and you are stuck with uncomfortable bed, or, for 5 years, your mother-in-law is unhappy and you have the comfortable bed? Good luck...
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

We inherited a 180 x200 bed (2x90) from the last owners with good quality slats. With the cheapest non- roll up matress we could find (not ikea) the bed is still the best we have ever slept in. I wanted to come home early from our holidays last week because of a sore back from a bed with a dip in the middle.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

I'd try out all the beds from both stores and go with what feels right for you both, bad nights sleeping from unsuitable bedwear (ok that is probably not a recognised word but it does the trick!) is just not worth what it does to your health and wellbeing.

If it does turn out to be the Ikea bed, just explain this gently to the MIL and hopefully she'll understand.
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We also needed a new bed on the quick so we got the Ikea 'credit card'. You can pay of all at once or a tenth of the entire amount each month. Of course there's a little interest on top. It was super easy to apply for. I don't remember the name of my matteress. it's the one with 4cm thick memory foam . Got it during my pregnancy and found it super uncomfortable ( but then everything was at the time!), now i love it!
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

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We have an Ikea bed - and the mattresses are total rubbish. We've replaced them under the guarantee already and would do so again except I can't find the paperwork from 7 years ago (not that it's legible because as of 3 years ago the ink had totally faded).

We have a 180x200 and the mattresses have sunk in the middle to the point there's a huge dip that we can't fix. We've tied the mattresses together tighter, flipped them multiple times - and we still have the problem.

We're now talking of buying a bed in North America and shipping it over. If you have the funds to buy non-Ikea I would suggest it.
While living in Seattle, we killed a $2300 Serta in 3 years, we then bought a Swiss bed from Swiss Sleep Systems, [http://www.swisssleepsystem.com/] it's 9 years old and still amazing, I can't wait till it gets here ( 10 wks in shipment) the bed we are on now is a slab of stone.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

I agree with the posters who wrote Ikea matresses are crap. I also don't like any of the "furniture" at fly. That being said, a lot of EFers (or ricardo) are moving on and giving away (or selling cheaply) their beds. I also like the idea of sleeping on a matress on the ground. We did that for 6 months at our flat in Amriswil and it was a lot more comfortable than the sleep here at our normal place. Good luck
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

Fly has a boxspring bed which is 1299 for 140cm wide, 1399 for 160cm wide and 1499 for 180cm wide.

I recommend this bed based on the comfort it provides for me.

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Re: Ungrateful Me.

We bough our leather couch and bed boxspring in conforama. We are super happy with the quality of both. We have the couch since 3 years now and it is amazing how great the quality is.

Look also at the mattresses, they have very good stuff.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

Please be more specific with your posts people. Are we talking about mattresses for sleeping on or frolicking?
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Old 13.08.2012, 10:02
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

Go across the border and take advantage of cheaper German prices combined with MWSt rebate (11 or 19% depending on how you do it)

We went to http://www.mein-bett-tiengen.de/meinbett.html but I'm sure there's somewhere closer to Basel.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

We got the 180x200 frame from ikea, and 2 x 90 mattresses from another store.

Worked a treat, and the 2 x separate mattresses (+ blankets), lets us sleep together without waking the other. Important when you have young kids and an hours sleep is worth more than gold.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

When our old old mattress died we bought a new one from Ikea (one of the expensive ones with memory foam). Hubby loved it but I hated it, when we contacted Ikea they asked if we have a new lattenrost.

Since our frame and lattenrost was old, ugly and didn't fit the decor, we happily bought a new frame and lattenrost from Ikea. Mattress was still uncomfortable for me, so took it back under the 90 day money back guarantee. We have since purchased a orthopaedic mattress wich is heaven and fits fine into my ikea frame and lattenrost.

Moral of the story, at least from my experience, their frames and lattenrost are fine, their mattresses are not.
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Re: Ungrateful Me.

Hey Sweetie, I feel for you!
I would invest in a good mattress, the frame you can always change every so many years and IKEA sells them cheap. And tell MIL that you appreciate her help but you want to buy an IKEA one, they also have a sort of high end mattress assortment with the cheapest going at around 800 chf, Ive tried them and they are super comfy
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