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Looking for host family in Solothurn

Hello I'm a 16-year-old girl from Hong Kong,
I'm having an exchange year here, and it's the 3rd month already.
My recent host family is very nice, and treating me like a guest,
however I want to feel like at home but not in a hotel. I don't feel comfortable and happy.
So I'm going to change my host family that we can feel like a family, anyone of you are living in Solothurn are interested in cultural exchange? Of course I hope you can be a swiss family
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Re: Looking for host family in Solothurn

what I need is a bed and meals
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Re: Looking for host family in Solothurn

Hello, I know that it can be very difficualt to feel at home with a family of a different culture, and far away from home. HOwever, I suspect that the family you are with, will be very typical of Switzerland - their politeness is their way of making you feel welcome. Cahnging families could give you exactly the same thing, or one with all sorts of probles that you are better off away from.

Are you able to talk to them about how you are feeling? Can you verbalise exactly what you feel is missing? They may actually be quite relieved to be able to drop the formality. Would they let you cook the occassional meal - treat them to a couple of your favourite dishes from home ( and invite me...yummy )

Alternatively, what Exchange programme are you with? Are you able to talk to your local rep/coordinator? I presume they will have to approve any new host family for you.

have you been able to make friends at school? If so, have you been to their homes? Do they differ greatly from the family you are currently living with?
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Re: Looking for host family in Solothurn

Yes, I told my host mum and she said I'm always the guest of their family, it's hard for her to change.
I've already cooked some chinese food in these three months, although I'm a bit disappointed of my cooking haha.
I was in my classmates' homes and other host families' homes. I think my current family is quite traditional comparing to them. My host dad didn't want my host sis to do ear piercing, and I saw some swiss fathers they got ear piercing. Because my family is christian, we pray before every meal.
I'm with the organization AFS
Everything was happened today: I knew girls who had changed host family and telling me what to do. They had the same problem, and they thought it's normal to feel not comfortable and unhappy in the host family, until they changed. We have only one year here, and we can only join once, so we don't want to regret!!
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Yes, I told my host mum and she said I'm always the guest of their family, it's hard for her to change.
I've already cooked some chinese food in these three months, although I'm a bit disappointed of my cooking haha.
I was in my classmates' homes and other host families' homes. I think my current family is quite traditional comparing to them. My host dad didn't want my host sis to do ear piercing, and I saw some swiss fathers they got ear piercing. Because my family is christian, we pray before every meal.
I'm with the organization AFS
Everything was happened today: I knew girls who had changed host family and telling me what to do. They had the same problem, and they thought it's normal to feel not comfortable and unhappy in the host family, until they changed. We have only one year here, and we can only join once, so we don't want to regret!!
I can understand that totally. Also, living abroad is a difficult enough adjustment for most of us, let alone having to make that adjustment within the confines of someone else's home. AFS is a very well-respected exchange programme, although the level of support can vary in different countries.
Have you talked over your problem with the local co-ordinator? Is there any possibility of any of your local friends having parents who would be open to having you stay? Is your host sister the same age as you? Do you and her get on ? Are you actually wanting more freedom? More family warmth? Or?

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Re: Looking for host family in Solothurn

Sorry I didn't reply for a long time. I believe everything is going to be alright with the help of my contact persons, and I was just confused when other students told me to find a new host by myself, that's why I posted here. But I think just now, I don't have to look for one
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Sorry I didn't reply for a long time. I believe everything is going to be alright with the help of my contact persons, and I was just confused when other students told me to find a new host by myself, that's why I posted here. But I think just now, I don't have to look for one
Hello, I am glad that you seem to be able to be sorting it out. If you have a bad day, just remember that at home every day probably wasn't always fantastic either. try to think of things here with your host family as "differeent" or "interesting" rather than "better" or "worse." ANd yes, there are sure to be some who are having a better tie than you, but I can guarantee there are also some having a worse time - that's just real life anywhere. Best wishes for the rest of your year.
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Hello, I am glad that you seem to be able to be sorting it out. If you have a bad day, just remember that at home every day probably wasn't always fantastic either. try to think of things here with your host family as "differeent" or "interesting" rather than "better" or "worse." ANd yes, there are sure to be some who are having a better tie than you, but I can guarantee there are also some having a worse time - that's just real life anywhere. Best wishes for the rest of your year.
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