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Old 20.12.2012, 20:19
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Re: A lady came to my house to ask for money

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Maybe you tried to be funny but you sounded dumb, if you did not get what I wrote really...
No I got what you wrote, you just didn't get mine

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Which takes me again to a very OT point, goodness or badness, compassion or lack there of have very little to do with religion.
And certainly not the claim of one specific religion! Are Christians nicer people? Do they have a lien on compassion? Very distasteful direction this thread has followed.
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No I got what you wrote, you just didn't get mine

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And certainly not the claim of one specific religion! Are Christians nicer people? Do they have a lien on compassion? Very distasteful direction this thread has followed.
I hate agreeing with you eco, but so be it
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Old 20.12.2012, 20:34
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Love, a come back is what your dad wished for.

Now back to topic please.
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Old 20.12.2012, 20:47
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Love, a come back is what your dad wished for.

Now back to topic please.
Her dad??? That's what you can come up with?

Please let's go back on topic!?!
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Old 20.12.2012, 20:53
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Re: A lady came to my house to ask for money

I feel for the OP. I would be writhing in indecision over this one.

I truly believe that most people want to help and to give. Sadly, many have also learned through experience that there is always a chance one's generosity will be returned with dishonesty, broken promises or at worst, criminal intentions. Be it the discomfort of knowing that a small donation for food went toward a nasty, deadly habit or a pensioner who loses everything trying to help a unscrupulous relative, the result is the same. While the charity and generosity may still be there, the trust is damaged.

That said, I think it is entirely reasonable that a person try to ascertain whether a plea for a charitable donation is legitimate. It does not make one less charitable. In the case of the OP, a woman she does not know (never having before taken an effort to speak with the OP) comes to her door and for very vague reasons asks for a (to me) huge amount of money. Who knows? she could be a desperate woman in need who has no where else to turn. She could also be misrepresenting her need for the money - or be a criminal scammer. The onus is on her to provide a good explanation of what she needs the money for. She is, after all, asking it of a relative stranger. It would have helped the OP make an informed choice, and even given the OP the opportunity to help in other ways (ie. childcare, helping access community services, food or clothes if necessary). It appears, however, a straight handover of cash with very little rationale was what the woman wanted. I do not blame the OP for being hesitant at all.
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Her dad??? That's what you can come up with?

Please let's go back on topic!?!
He is sooooooooooooo mean
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Re: A lady came to my house to ask for money

I would never hand over cash at the door. I would always offer logistical help, offer to make phone calls or give advice, even accompany the person to the appropriate government office but thankfully we live in a country where we have institutions that can take proper care of people and helping others access those services is most helpful.
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Old 20.12.2012, 22:58
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Maybe she can't bear to tell her children there will be no presents this year (and why don't presents for children qualify as a reason to give ?)

I wouldn't give 500 CHF either
See, that's the point. 500 fr for presents? I think it's a little too much. When you're poor you don't do that. You can't afford.
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See, that's the point. 500 fr for presents? I think it's a little too much. When you're poor you don't do that. You can't afford.
very good point, it is true that maybe she needs the money for something else and is too embarrassed to say, anyhoo I would not like to be in the same situation
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Old 20.12.2012, 23:53
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It happened to me with a regular on this forum. Not only that but the individual concerned found some allies to also continue the groaning.

All because I intimated that they didn't know their a*se from their elbow.

Some people can be so sensitive.
Amateur. Just this weekend I had an Internet tough guy imply that he's going to get me fired from work because I red repped him.

You need to try harder.
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Amateur. Just this weekend I had an Internet tough guy imply that he's going to get me fired from work because I red repped him.

OK, now that is sad, no it's even worse than sad.....
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Old 21.12.2012, 00:12
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Re: A lady came to my house to ask for money

After 4 pages and 133 posts, I think this thread has indeed run its course ( with interesting points and posts I might add ) and will be closed off.
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