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Old 14.01.2008, 22:46
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Councelling needed in anger management.

I need some help / counselling in anger management. I am so short tempered with the children, but at work I am so placid and a completely different person, but I don't know where and whom to turn too.
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

why don't you check with your gemeinde, normally in each town there is a family center that deals with this kind of cases, perhaps they have somebody who speaks English or can recommend somebody. They normally are supported by the gemeinde so you end up paying less.

Hope this helps.
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Old 14.01.2008, 23:04
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

ElternNotruf may be a place to start. You can call 24hous/day. The link here is the one in Zurich. But they will help you wherever you are. Don't hesitate to give them a call - I know a number of people who have spoken to them and have been helped.
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Old 27.10.2010, 13:56
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

http://www.ishafoundation.org/Newsletter/the-attraction-of-anger.isa?utm_campaign=Isha+News+-+October+2010&utm_medium=email&utm_source=MailingL ist

"Questioner: I understand that anger is a part of the living process, is that correct?

Sadhguru: Anger must be a very beautiful thing, because a lot of people have taken onto it. It must be a very wonderful thing, because so many people have chosen it, like Coca-Cola. Probably more people are into anger than Coca-Cola, isnít it? So it must be a really great thing so many people have chosen. But they have not chosen; they have helplessly fallen into it, thatís the problem.
They have fallen into it because, for most people? in a way they have chosen it unconsciously, because the most intense moments in their lives are either pain or anger. These are the only two intensities that they know and every human being always longs for intensity. So today watching these sports and other things has become such a big thing, because of the intensity in it.
You remember the film The Gladiators: these gladiatorsóit is a sport, a wild sportówar was a sport. Because it is not the violence, it is not the blood, it is not the killing that people like. People want to see something intense. Now why all these thrillers and action movies and sports events are so popular is that people want some intensity, somewhere. They donít know how to be intense. Either through physical action, or through anger, or through pain, this is the only way they know how to be intense.
The very reason drugs and sex have become such a big thing in the world is somehow they want to experience some intensity, at least for a few moments; they want to know some intensity. It is the intensity which draws them. And as you know, I am always talking about intensity because that is the only thing that man is seeking for, and that is the only thing that will liberate man from his present bondages.
So anger is enormous intensity; (but) itís an intensity which hurts you. Itís an intensity which can get you into a lot of trouble. Itís an intensity which can destroy you and the people around you. Itís an intensity which gets you into absolutely stupid states of action. Though you know it causes so much damage, here and there you want to get into anger.
And people like the angry man, please see. See, you want to go and watch a movie; if your hero, the Hollywood man, is a very calm, quiet man, youíre not so interested in him. If heís an angry man, who stands up and does things in anger, not peacefully, you like him because heís got intensity about him. So you would like to do the same thing, but you pay a very big price trying to be angry in the situations in which you live, because people around you are going to get even more angry with you, and they will do their own things to you.
People have done wonderful things out of anger also. A lot of people still believe genuine action will come forth only in anger. See now, for example, we have to fight a battle, letís say, to protect ourselves, to protect our families, our country. We can fight a war without anger very efficiently, but people would like to fight with anger because they donít know how else to become intense. They have to create anger; thatís the only way they know how to be intense, and that is the only way they know how to perform intense activity or fruitful activity in some way. Thatís the only way they can get themselves to do certain things which they would otherwise be incapable of doing.
So donít worry about your anger. At least in anger youíre becoming intense. But itís time to transform this intensity of anger into higher levels of intensity where itís very beautiful. At least somebodyís able to get angry, Iím happy. I canít bear with the people who are eating eight meals a day and are just lethargic, and nothing happens within them; they donít even get angry. If anger is happening, at least some life is cooking within you; life is still kicking, you know?"
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

Check out the Commercials section - we might have at least one UK trained professional who might be able to assist you in some way. All the best.
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

1 minute of anger is = killing sixty seconds of happiness..
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

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1 minute of anger is = killing sixty seconds of happiness..
Yes but it stops that little scrote listening to his iPod so bloody loud in the office...
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

Anger management is the staple diet of most counselors and therapists. There are very few problems that do not involve too much anger or too little. Most therapists would be able to help.

A cognitive behavioural approach which looks at the thoughts and feelings that you have and how they lead into your angry behaviour (and how the two interact) would be the best approach to help you 'manage' your anger. You may find however that a more 'in depth' approach which helps you analyse your past experience of anger and how it leads you to behave as you do may have a more fundamental and long-term affect. You may need to understand how your past has led to you behaving in an angry way with your children in the present in order to prevent it in the future.

A supportive and understanding relationship with a counsellor could be of great help in and of itself. The little you have said above about your anger suggests that your work environment may be the most obvious and immeadiate cause of your anger. It is often sadly the case that we cannot be angry with the people who are making us feel that way, but can with those that we are close too. The important thing to remember in relation to your children is that the relationship that you have with them will be repeated by them throughout their lives. An angry parent later becomes an angry husband or wife.

I hope you find the help that you need. It is very responsible of you to seek to take such action for the sake of your children. There is a shortage of native english speaking properly qualified and experienced therapists so be careful to check their qualifications and trust your instincts when you chose one. I wish you all the best!
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Re: Councelling needed in anger management.

I'm upping this post to get some concrete addresses for an intensive anger management therapy/course in Zurich. I've contacted Dr Bernarhdt and waiting for availabilities. Any other leads?
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